40+ and pregnant? Come and join the fun!

[cloudjumper]

I am 43 and currently pg with DC2, due early January. I thought it would be nice to have a thread for the pregnant ladies of 'older vintage', similar to the 40+ ttc thread, for advice, support and the occasional moan.

Fab news*sebsmummy

Wonderful news sebs!! Sooo happy for you

Hi girls. I'm 7 weeks preg with #2. I have a 10 month old DS. I'm 39 but only for another 3 weeks! And I feel SICK!!! Ugh. Happy of course to have symptoms but ugh ugh ugh! I'm sure it's a bit worse and a bit sooner than last time. Maybe a girl?! First scan tomorrow and praying its one little healthy foetus in there! Xx

Hurrah sebsmummy, that's great news! Enjoy your holiday!

I would agree with cloud, recovery is very straightforward after CS and I don't remember needing pain killers much after the first few days. The not driving for 6 weeks is a bit of a pain. I ended up walking lots instead but on those days I would get some more bleeding or the scar would hurt more, so it's important to take it easy.

Hi lucky & congratulations. Looks like we'll have similar age gaps between ours. I was also feeling more sick with this one and had awful skin in the first few weeks. Harmony test told us we're having a girl!

Yes I wondered about the girl thing. Can't wait to find out! Never understand how people can have the patience not to know! X

Yay! sebsmummy that's fabulous news!

I didn't find out the sex with DS - it was a HUGE shock when he was a boy as I was convinced it was a girl. I had no plans to find out this time either but right at the end of the 20 week scan the sonographer said... 'So, would you like to know...?' and my resolve cracked!

It's a girl. I am delighted. I will be less delighted if the sonographer is wrong given we've (rather stupidly) sold a lot of the very boyish clothes (lots of it we will be reusing though) and painted the nursery.... in green so at least only have to change accessories if it's a boy!

Congrats sebsmummy - so happy it's good news for you :)

I am like you luckygirl 6 weeks so far (feeling urgh) and hanging (no clinging!) onto 39 for only two more months! X

So pleased to hear your news, Sebsmummy! Hopefully, now you can get a good night's rest and really enjoy your holiday.

I thought I would be impatient to know if it's a boy or girl but since I've been pregnant I found I really wasn't that interested to find out. My husband was though, and was grinning proudly when the sonographer pointed at the relevant part of the screen and said "It should be pretty obvious what we have here!" so we did find out it's a boy. Maybe it's because it's a first child that I didn't care. Next time I have a slight preference for a girl to even things out, so I'll probably want to know as soon as possible.

We're having a little girl , my OH was a little gutted as he would like a little boy .... And hints about trying for another, but to be honest I feel really rough at the moment as I seem to have evening sickness which zaps me of energy.

Lola we just started trying for another as soon as I was ready for sex again after the birth - about three months, I took my time It took SO LONG to fall pregnant the first time, 5 years, I didn't want to wait. Took 18 months, then MC, then 8 months for this pregnancy.

I had all the midwives and my GP saying 'but you could end up with two under a year, are you sure that's wise?' when they asked me about contraception after the birth and I just said 'we'll cope'.

*gooorooo that's exactly what we've done this time and the gap will be roughly 15 months and I've been telling everyone "we will cope" not sure I could do it again though !!!

Ohh a third. You're so brave. I am so done after this one

Oh and if I could bloom rather than feel bloody awful for most of the time !!

Oh I've just seen this is your 5th and you're thinking about a 6th! I take my hat off to you!

Gooorooo, never planned to have lots but partner didn't have any when I met him, I had 3 from a previous marriage. So I agreed on the one ... Now I've agreed on the second which is totally mad, agreeing on number three would be insanity !!

I think we'll be doing this too as I know it can take longer when you're older, probably more so when breastfeeding, and I don't want to run out of time. I'd quite like them close together too, although if we were lucky straight away, I realise we could end up with two in the same school year. I'm sure everyone would be thinking that's an accident.

That's what happened with us, it took 22 months to fall pregnant with DS, 11 months TTC then MMC followed by another 6 months, followed by another MC and then finally success after another 3 months. This time round it just sort of happened. DH jokes that he can count the number of times we had sex on one hand since we had DS so it came as a bit of a surprise after everything else.

Great news Sebs. We oldies are totally rockin this baby making lark! (See how young & cool I sound?)

Brilliant news Sebs! Was thinking of you this morning.

That's great seb I've got a 16 mth gap between two of my ds and although it was hard when they were both v little it is really good now as they play together quite a lot.

Hi all I am 40 and due #2 in January. 13 weeks, already had scan and also had harmony done during the week so awaiting results. Had amnio the last time so it's great having the harmony option available first (despite the cost) and I feel a bit more relaxed about the process. I am in Norn Iron so we are kind of limited in our options once the results come back, but I want to know anyway just to be prepared.

Hello. I'm 40 and 35 weeks pregnant with our second baby. Son is nearly 5. He was conceived naturally but this is an IVF pregnancy using an egg donor. Haven't caught up with the thread so hope everyone is well. I am starting to feel anxious about doing the newborn stage all over again as I found it very tough last time.

It took us 3.5 years between 1st and this baby. I was 37 when I had my dd. We started trying after 3 months of the birth, took a year to get pregnant again but that ended in mc, followed by another natural pregnancy 6 months later that also ended in miscarriage, then an IUI and ivf that ended in miscarriage. Thankfully this ivf has led to me being now 26 weeks pregnant. I would have loved 3 but I am now 42 so I don't think that is on the cards. My dh and I will have to have the very difficult discussion after this baby is born about the 4 embryos we have stored. I know what my heart says but realise my head and dh are thinking differently. I really feel so sad about all the years lost by miscarriage which would not have been likely to happen had we actually tried for a baby when we were younger... Ironically we met when I was 18 ! We could be grandparents by now instead of 'mature' parents ! Saying that we are the luckiest people alive to have the most wonderful dd and a baby on the way...yippee!,

CorBlimey I'm with you - the newborn stage was hell. Why are we doing it again?

GoooRooo - I'm genuinely starting to wonder! Maybe because I know it does get easier :)