Plenty of chocolate and support all round - #5 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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for those who feel well enough to eat it :)

Congratulations purple on the birth of baby Jessica! What a beautiful name. Hope you're recovering ok from the op. Good that she's feeding so well! Often cs babies can be hard to feed to begin with. Hope you manage to get some sleep soon though!

Congratulations to nouser, brickie and imnota on healthy scans! Brickie sorry to hear about fibroid, bp etc., hope you aren't feeling too down about it all.

Little hope you enjoy your maternity leave! It must be lovely to be have work out of the way.

Goodbye yes I too suffer from the embarrassing problem of excess salivation. I find avoiding dairy and coffee helps, plus never drinking too much or too little liquid. Grim, isn't it?

Hope everyone's looking forward to a lovely relaxing weekend x

That's great imnot! Hoping you can really enjoy the rest of your pregnancy now.

little Wow, lucky you! I've very

Hot on the heels of the saliva question above, I've got another glamorous one, too! Does someone have any advice on pregnancy-related bunged up nose (also known as pregnancy rhinitis, I think). I had this with DS as well, and it's driving me crazy. Nothing else, just a really stuffy nose, producing lots and lots of dry(!) snot, which in turn clogs everything up even more. I am really struggling to breath sometimes, and blowing my nose brings only very short-lived relief.

Lovely name purple, congratulations!

ahhh purple i had been awaiting your update! congratulations glad your both doing well. hope big sister has got adjusted good luck choosing a name.

Lovely news purple Congrats on the safe arrival of Jessica!

Lovely hearing positive scan news too !

No help on the saliva or snot I'm afraid!

purple that is such fab news and a beautiful name. Congratulations x

Thanks to everyone who asked how I was feeling and sorry I didn't reply. The sickness seems to have eased but has been replaced with sheer exhaustion. Sigh.

I've been taking paracetamol, feeling guilty about that but the headaches are so bloody bad I need it (only one dose) or get through the day.

How is everyone's weekend? Hope you're all enjoying the sun. Rain on the way for those of us in the south east tomorrow apparently.

Baguettes sorry the tiredness is so bad but at least the sickness has gone for now. Honestly all my midwives said paracetamol was fine. Only reason I haven't taken it for my backache is that it wouldn't make any difference with this kind of pain unless coupled with something stronger. I've been asides it's completely safe.

baguette my headaches/migraines are affecting me so much that I'm needing at least one dose of paracetamol each day. I also had this in my previous pregnancies (more so with ds) and it got so bad my gp tried to persuade me into taking codiene in the middle trimester (when it is allowed) I didn't, I stuck to paracetamol and both of mutt children are perfectly healthy with no health concerns.
Thanks everyone for your concern over my various issues at the minute. I'm ok in general, they are all annoying but manageable (well apart from the rubella, which I just have to avoid) and I'll be fine. I'm just grateful to have got into the second trimester with a healthy bean

Making some attempt to pack for hospital now that the Braxton Hicks have kicked in (sure I've still got ages to go through) and have a probably stupid question especially for those non FTMs - I need to wash baby's (new) clothes before he wears them right? And do I need to use any particular kind of detergent, I've heard both bio and non bio so one of them must be wrong!

Sorry to hear about your headaches baguettes. I've always thought it's one of the most annoying pains you can get. A girl who used to work for me used to have frozen wash cloths on her forehead and on the nape of her neck, along with paracetamol. Hope you find a solution soon xx

little, I use persil non bio with comfort fabric softener for dd's clothes and will do for baby. Defo wash them first although I do that with all new clothes to take the chemical/new smell out?

Little enjoy your mat leave!

I would wash things that touch baby's skin - so bodysuits and babygros, hats. Non bio in case they have sensitive skin. If you normally use bio you can wash one item in it and put it on to see of they react to it. Quite unlikely though.

Brickie I'm not immune to rubella either.
I've washed baby's clothes little, I used fairy non bio.

Thanks all will stick a wash on with Persil non bio - it's the only powder / liquid my skin puts up with so here's hoping baby agrees!

Hi all, lost you all for a bit. I'm 35+6 now and feel like I have horrific PMT not had any definite BH as such but have period pain and that heavy 'just about to come on' feeling. Also my skin has gone all spotty. Baby needs to stay put for another week though, but the thought of up to 6 weeks of this makes me want to cry!

Can't believe I am getting close to the end. Still have anxiety about something going wrong. I have had such a relatively easy run, no MS as such, no spotting, no SPD, no worries on scans.... I feel like I am having too good a run and it will all go wrong any second

Morning all,
Sorry for the absence in any replies, just been trying to step away from the internet a little bit and also been at a wedding with no internet signal for the weekend.
Sorry for anyone I miss, will try and keep up a little better….
q, clo and goodbye congratulations and hope these are nice, easy boring pregnancies for you both!
cava you done with work now?!
little hope you enjoy your first Monday of freedom
metal think others have said the same but I started to feel movements about 20 weeks but really nothing very regular until more like 24. Now starting to feel like there is a more predictable pattern (28 weeks on thurs).
treacle glad your appointment was ok and also glad that you are going to have a longer appointment to talk about birth plans and options.
cloud how you feeling? Coming up to 16 weeks? No advice on the feeling bunged up question. I have found that going for a walk sometimes helps but no other advice. Someone told me to make sure you are drinking loads but I haven’t really found that made a difference.
nouser congratulations on good scan news I had the same thing about going somewhere different for a scan, when it was ok, I felt like I had been allowed to graduate from EPU!
brickie and iamnota also congratulations on good scan news.

cherry good luck for your scan this week, when is it?
happy sorry you are feeling anxious. The end really is in sight even if it feels like ages away.

purple so many congratulations on your little girl , hope you are recovering well and she is settling in. Lovely name too.

All ok here, 28 weeks this week so time ticking by. Starting to think about the need to buy a few things but I think after 30 weeks sound like a good time to start . They still do a glucose test here for everyone so going to have that on friday, hoping no complications from that. Just had a date for the NHS antenatal course on 8th August, guessing that will make it all start to seem a bit more real!

bythesea 28 weeks!

I need a small rant sorry ladies. So I was due to see the consultant at 16 weeks, it was cancelled and put back to 21 weeks and this morning I've had another letter postponing it until Sept when I'm 25 weeks. I'm not sure I even care about seeing the consultant, I didn't request it, they decided I needed to see them. The rate we're going I'll be going with a baby in tow... OK maybe not. I wish I knew why they wanted to see me, at least then I could panic or complain accordingly but I haven't a clue. I think my gp maybe requested it.

17+5 today. I want another reassurance scan as my 20 week one feels miles away still but I keep sticking my head in the sand. My boobs are getting so big something has to be happening in there.

Right me post over. Sorry ladies. Happy Monday everyone!

Morning all, hope everyone is doing well!

happy Who would have thought that we'd ever complain about not having any complications?! But I am totally the same - I get worried if there are no symptoms as proof that I am still pg.

bythesea Wow, 28 weeks already! It probably doesn't feel like that for you, but it seems to have come around very quickly.

As for me, I am currently in the awful limbo after the dating scan, where nothing happens, and it's driving me insane. The good thing is that my sickness is almost gone (still get very hungry very quickly, but I can deal with that), my energy is starting to come back and I feel generally much less exhausted or tired. At the same time, I desperately want proof that I am still pg (see above!). Because I was slightly put back in dating at the scan, I am now 'only' 15+3, instead of 16 weeks today, so my next MW appointment is not until next week.
I've discussed it with DH, and we have decided to get a private reassurance scan this weekend, to help with the anxiety. I've managed to find a relatively cheap one and have just booked it for Saturday afternoon. Now all I need to do is keep the scanxiety at bay...

mrsD cross post ! Sounds as if you are in the same limbo as me! Have a look at Babybond, they offer 15-min reassurance scans that 'only' cost £60.

mrsD I had that random consultant appointment. Have a look in your Mat notes, on mine, RMC was ticked in the early pages and it triggers a consultant appointment. It was a total waste of time, the consultant didn't really know why I was there and nor did I! He asked if all ok, checked BP and listen to the baby's heart and said have a lovely pregnancy! Oh and to contact them if any concerns. Total tick box exercise. I guess it could be the same for you?

cloud glad you have a scan booked.

Between 12 & 20 weeks felt like forever. At least after the 20 week scan there start to be a few more mudwife appointments. Hard not to panic though. Hopefully once the kicking gets more regular, that will help. I have found it really reassuring.

I meant to say that I also have this consultant appointment - last time, this was mainly to discuss birth options (due to my failed induction with DS), but it was all really vague and la-di-da. I imagine it'll the same this time round...
I actually had to push it back, as they wanted to see me at 14 weeks, when the last thing I wanted to think about was the birth! I've got them to move it to the same day as the 20-week scan, hoping that if anything goes wrong with that, we can at least discuss it immediately.

Morning ladies! Hope you are all as well as can be and had a lovely weekend.

Got my anomaly scan tomorrow, I've gone from being super excited to now worrying that somethig will be really wrong . Got all my fingers and toes crossed that my little wriggler is okay ! Still can't believe I've made it this far, never imagined it !

Good luck tomorrow Rebecca

Ha! cloud completely same limbo! Dh is a tight arse so I feel bad booking more scans but I almost qualify for babybond's quick gender scan which is only £39 not that we're in a hurry to find out the sex but we prob will at 20wks anyway. So trying to hang on a bit longer. Hope it goes OK at the weekend.

To those with dc, particularly toddlers, do you find yourself with cbeebies on more often? I feel like such a bad mummy but I am so exhausted and feel so sick it seems to be our main home activity on our home days. I'm justifying it by the 3 long days DS still has at nursery so it's not like its 7 days a week. I felt so much better by now with him. Still holding out for a nausea reprieve...

mrs cbeebies is on almost perminantly here, appart from when dh switches to citv for his programs. Dd doesn't go to nursery! We did make it out to toddler group this afternoon, very lucky to have one litterally across the road. Also feeling terriable because I really, really can't face food so she's going to have to spend a while surviving off minimal fuss things from the frezer. Makes me feel like an awful mum as meals together at the table have always been a big thing for us. Now I just hide on the sofa while she has her picnic.

I had a little bit of spotting, I say spotting; one wipe with a large speck of brown blood, yesterday afternoon, so have an appointment at EPAU in the morning. Very nervous about going back there but really hoping for some positive news.

Rebecca best of luck with your anomaly scan!!

Happy congratulations on getting this far. I'm keeping my fingers crossed you get your happy ending but it sounds like everything's looking good!

Bythesea congrats on getting to 28 weeks! Is that officially the third trimester??

cloud I know what you mean about limbo after the dating scan. It is a long time to wait between appointments. I hope the reassurance scan goes well!!

Great news here today, we finally got our Harmony test results back and everything had come back low risk (1:10,000). Yippee!! I'm so relieved. We've also found out we're team pink! I didn't mind either way but DD will be over the moon at the prospect of a baby sister