Another posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage #4

[Treaclepie19]

Welcome aboard ladies - bumps big and small :)

Brummie welcome! I remember you from the TTC after MC threads so glad to see you here, here's to the most uneventful pregnancy imaginable

Brummie awesome to see you on here. Congratulations & everything crossed that this one sticks.

Well I had my scan and the baby is an average size. So this system of measuring bumps is clearly a load of bollocks.

Welcome brummie fx for you. Really lovely to see you back xxx

Thanks so much for the fab "re-welcome" was so worried about rejoining as don't want to jinx but it's so so lovely to hear from so many previous peeps. So happy you are all doing so well.

My last mc was a silent one on New Years Eve (happy fucking new year to us) in fact we'd already seen at hb at 7 wks and we thought this was it. Sadly not.

Kind of fell apart then. Had 4 wks off work and 2 weeks phased return after my 2nd ERPC and have had to face my pregnant colleague which has been so hard and distressing. Work paid for 12 sessions of counselling to help me through it.

All my tests were completely clear and I struggled with that - losing 3 babies for absolutely no reason

And now here I am after the darkest most painful 12 months of my life and am about to go through it again and my anxiety is through the roof - so hope I can stick around

Brummie that sounds so painful but echoing what other ladies have said here about it being great that you now have proper care. Will you have an early scan this time?

Hi Littlelady yes I will - I've got one booked at 6 weeks (2 wks today) so they can prescribe daily heparin injections (yay!!) - not for thinning the blood, but to protect the placenta cells. I'm also on 400mg progesterone twice daily.

My consultant Mr Watts at Worcester and Professor Jan Brosens at the Coventry implantation clinic have been wonderful, as have the gals on the recurrent miscarriage thread. They all kept me going and still are!

Yeah llama, it would've been just after :) Probably 2 or 3 days after.
It was obviously Little Seed helping me move on a little.

I'm so sorry for what you've been through Brummie. You're such a strong lady.
It must have been so hard knowing all your tests came back clear. The good thing is that the odds are on your side for this little one xxx

Hi brummie! Good to see you here, too! Here's to an event-free 8 months.

My scan is at 10.30am tomorrow. To say that I am bricking it is an understatement ...

Cloud yay my hand holding is spreading across two threads for you lovely !!! xx

[waves] brummie

cloud will be thinking of you tomorrow at 10:30 and wishing everything well

Congratulations Brummie, may your next 8 months be smooth and worry free (easier said than done, I know).

I will be thinking of you today, cloud, can't wait to hear how it goes.

May I ask you ladies what you'd do in my circumstances?

I am all over the place at the moment: completely hopeless and trying to accept that baby probably won't make it, to thinking, of course there is hope: so many positives: great beta hcg, great heart rate, gestational age only out by 4 days, great progesterone.

My Doctor is away (in Australia we don't have midwives until the birth, antenatal care is always with a Dr) and I've not had much support from the on-call doctor in her place, just "wait and see". Would you get another scan,or wait and see? If you did get a scan, would you do it a week later, 10 days or two weeks later?

I am finding it very difficult to function at the momentANy advice greatly appreciated.

I have actually managed to fall off the thread I've not posted for so long?!

Firstly, gum I had weekly scans (nhs though) during my first 12 weeks which for me meant I had some form of control - that was a leftover hang-up from suffering previous mmc's that I needed to know ASAP. So, if you can afford it then a scan in 10 days may help however the other side of it is if it does help it will only be short lived as you will probably be very anxious right up till 12 weeks and I imagine weekly scans when paying for it are out the question. Sorry not saying a definite either way but the best way to decide whatever you cope with mentally unfortunately as you have experienced this stage is purely finding best coping strategy.

Welcome to all other newbies! Cloud a huge good luck for today. Sorry to hear those of you who are experiencing difficulties, longest that doesn't sound like a fun time at all.

Any opinions on whether yoga will help or hinder my sore bump? I've basically been very busy for last two weeks doing everything I shouldn't i.e loads of driving around London, on my feet lots delivering courses and a fair bit of train travel as well and as a result I'm knackered and bump feels really heavy, big and sore at the bottom. I'm due to return to my ante natal yoga today after three weeks away (had too much on to attend?!) and trying to decide whether it will do me good i.e stretches and breathing or whether just spending the rest of the weekend lying on the sofa doing nothing is my best option?

Hello brummie...I'm so happy for you. I remember you from the mc board. I was under a different username then but you were such a support to me so thank you. I hoping this little bean sticks around for you

Gum . If I were in your shoes I would probably wait a week and then have another scan. That will give you a good idea of progress. Babies grow so much at this stage so a lot will have changed in a week.

Morning, can I plonk my ample bottom in a spot? :)

I have a DS who is nearly 6, and had a mc in January, but fell pregnant quickly after and now 15 weeks.

We didnt tell many people about the mc, i didnt feel I needed to, people at work know and a couple of friends. Now i'm pregnant again, i just cant be excited, i feel weird telling people and i just feel detached from it.

I hate feeling like this, i thought i would feel protective and proud but i just feel a bit meh about it.

Congrats to everyone on here xx

Welcome topsy and congratulations. I think a lot of people have had the same detachment up until a certain point, for me it was at my 17 weeks reassurance scan. I let me guard down as I could see on the scan it was a baby and after that I have been really emotionally attached. Everyone's different, don't worry about it, the excitement will come when you are ready. Now at 26 weeks I adopt a Kung fu stance if anyone gets too close to bump

It sounds awful but im glad other people feel the same!

Welcome Topsy - as others have said having mixed feelings or not the feelings you expected when pg after a mc is totally normal. I think our hearts and brains try to protect us after all the pain and loss - which sometimes means feeling a bit numb or different or emotions we didn't expect even when we all we wanted is to be pregnant. Like others for me it did change over time, a bit at each scan with the 20 week being a biggy. Knowing we were having a boy helped me to start to bond and get excited about that fact - but also helped to let out some of the grief of the girl we lost through mc. Be gentle with yourself and take it a day at a time - often that's all we can do.

Gum so sorry you are going through this. In your shoes I'd defo book another scan for a week's time. Really hoping your doc is just being unhelpfully cautious and agree with the others that there are also lots of positive indicators.

Brummie - fantastic news and lovely to see you back here. Sounds like you've had a hell of a year. I really hope and pray and this next 8 months are totally different from what has gone before and that you have the stickiest of sticky beans.

Welcome back Brummie and massive congratulations I also remember you from previous threads and am so happy to see you back here. Keeping everything crossed that this is the one.

Congratulations Topsy great to hear you have got so far, the 20 week scan does make all the difference, that and finally seeing all the external changes you would expect to get with pregnancy.

Gum so sorry you are having such a difficult time. I think 10 days sounds like a good time for another scan. Hopefully that will give it enough time to get a better idea of what is going on next time.

Thinking of you this morning Cloud, hope it goes well!

Fingers crossed for you cloud
gum if I were you and it was at all possible I would be having another scan. It's the not knowing that is incredibly stressful. But having said that I still cannot see why she was so negative. Let me tell you about my scan yesterday......
Went in and had a mw training to use the scan equipment (far on with training, exams shortly) She was lovely and very calm and reassuring. She knew that the hb on my scan last week was slow but she kept repeating that it was probably as it had just started beating. She decided to try an abdominal scan first. Pretty quickly she saw bean and it's heartbeat and turned the monitor around for us to see. She was totally happy with everything she saw. Hb is now around 140bpm which is bang on for my dates. I put myself at 7+1 but the measurement was 8.1mm which would correspond to 6+5. gum pay attention!! She was completely unconcerned about that...she said that abdominal scans at this stage are not completely accurate at measuring something so small. She also said that if the egg took a few days to travel down the fallopian tube you can be 3 or 4 days behind anyway. She said that unless you are measuring well over a week behind there is zero cause for concern. Taking that into account gum your baby measures normally, has a normal heartbeat and your hcg is normal. That only leaves the question of the yolk. I've done a bit of reading....some places state that normal is up to 5mm with anything larger being considered bigger than average BUT I've read several that argue that normal is up to 6mm. That's what you are measuring! Even then it is only associated with a risk of a negative outcome...It's not diagnostic. Please try not to panic. Xxx (unmumsnetty I know but meh)