best shit place grass #3. Still pregnant and scans ahoy. End of the year can't come soon enough!

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New thread for shiny scan pics were hoping for.

One that's such lovely news for everyone :-)
And fantastic news about work you must be relieved!

Aww onefoot double whammy good news! Will be lovely for you to have someone to go through pregnancy with irl, and fantastic about your job!

chasing you're like superwoman! Hope you get some rest!

I don't want to bring the mood down but can I have a little work whinge? Long story short I have been so ill with HG I had to take more time off work. I struggled back in today (vomiting in car when parked up, delightful!) and not one person has asked how I am I had been debating in car whether or not to just drive home but thought I would show I was at least trying. Wish I hadn't bothered! On the bright side I have put a holiday in for tomorrow and had holidays next week, only having to work Tuesday. Sadly, Tuesday would be the day I was due my little angel and its killing me already! Not that anyone here appreciates me coming in on such a shitty day! Wish I had just taken the new job I was offered before. Gah!

Oh amyyy how awful for you, maybe working will help you through the pain temporarily is there no way you could have that day off too so you can be with your partner for support?
Thinking of you, you have this gorgeous baby to focus on now hopefully that will help a little (I haven't got near due date of angel yet so i can't talk from experience and apologies if it sounds like I'm being Uncompassionate I don't mean to but didn't want to read your message and ignore- hopefully someone will be along soon who has passed this date and can give some more advice) x

Arh Amyy can't you tell them about Tuesday. Surely they will understand.

It is crap when you feel no one cares and it must be so hard to keep yourself motivated being ill. even to drive to work I think you have done well. You have been so ill I am not sure how I would of coped in your shoes.

I want to say I hope you feel better soon, however you must be fed up of hearing that.

Thank you Barbie you don't sound uncompassionate at all. I'm hoping your are right and being so busy will keep it off my mind for at least some of the day x

Thanks onefoot, they already know (shows what they are like right?) they just don't care. Its a small office and I don't think anyone here has actually been through it so I do try my hardest not to want to whack them all for being so insensitive as I know its hard to understand when you haven't been through it .. but still.. ignorance?

& no I'm not fed up of hearing that lol don't worry I appreciate it :) I just hope it ends soon!

You know what is lacking in this world compassion and empathy. I can't believe they know and havn't suggested you don't have the whole week off. Some people are so hard hearted and yes ignorant that it's hard to believe how they get by in life when they have a problem.

I have passed my first due date and I couldn't offer any advice because I actually don't know how I got through it, I was in bed most of the day. My next one is the 4th of June and then the end of July. I have booked the 4th off but I didn't work out my last date as I was just so weary of what was happening. So I have no advice I think you just cope the best you can.

Can you not go to HR and explain, I am aware I get on very well with the head of HR who is amazing and some people have awful hr like the department on we have. I hope you have a lovely one.

I have a feeling aswell that because you are so ill you will be blooming putting us all to shame,were as I who moans only about sore boobs will not bloom at all exactly like my first pregnancy.

thank you, I think you are right, we don't have any choice but to get through the day somehow. Sorry you have more coming up that must be hard :( Unfortunately the office is so small there is no HR department. Above me is my boss who is the owner of the business and has no balls so if he ever wants anything said it goes through the sort of partner in the business who is the woman who sent me a message on Monday basically saying if I don't come in they are putting me on sick pay... not hope you are well soon etc etc, I actually think they believe I'm 'pulling their leg' about being so ill, nevermind the doctors notes, hearing me vomit and seeing what a mess I am (definitely no blooming going on here haha)

Right plan of action vomit on the cows desk . Only messing, what is wrong with people.

It's just life isn't it unfortantley ,it always will be part of me and if I stop and think of it I cry. I also think what it has made me a more compassionate person who doesn't take things for granted as much as I did. Thankfully I know I wasn't hard hearted like some people but I was niaeve I most certainly was naieve.

Haha the thought crossed my mind!! Yes I was naïve here too onefoot but definitely more grateful now and more considerate of what could be going on in others' lives.

My due date would have been in a few weeks. To be honest, I hadn't actually thought about it until now and I probably won't feel very much. I think it would have been different if I hadn't now been pregnant. But I never really thought of my mc as a potential baby- afterwards I always just thought of it as something which never would have developed.
Plus I've now got two babies in my tummy who are going to become people: people who would never have existed if that pregnancy hasn't ended. So that's just the way it is for me.

onefoot that sounds like such a lovely evening!!

amyy I'm so sorry you are suffering still. your work sounds like poop. Tuesday will be hard but you will get through it as you are a strong lady. I'm not sure how I'm going to feel when my due date comes round but no doubt I will have to work that day.

I've been having a tummy ache the past few days. I'm not sure whether it's something to worry about or if it's just where I am so bloated. I'm not sure whether to ring the community midwives or whether they'd just think I am over worrying?

I took the day off work one due date, went for a walk on the beach and threw some stones. Then hade a hot hoc and a bun in a cafe. In reality it was nowhere near as tough as id expected. I was emotional but not the blubbering wreck I thought id be, just a few silent tears.

We're all hear for you

thanks genni they are major poop! It is a difficult one because I am so pleased to be pregnant with a healthy baby, and there was obviously something wrong with the baby I lost, but at the same time I wanted my first baby to be healthy and be excited over meeting them shortly :( It doesn't help that my birthday is the day after, so its something I am always going to be reminded of this time every year. Hey ho, we all have lovely healthy babies on the way to focus on :)

I would give them a ring, they will have heard it all before. They will probably tell you as long as there is no bleeding you have nothing to worry about, but it will put you at ease anyway :)

Amy I'm sorry you are still so sick. My EDD was tomorrow. I had actually forgotten until I read your post.. I think I'll light a candle tomorrow and then be thankful for my healthy baby now. Will get an icecream with my dd and just try .. be thankful.

I'm sorry work are shitty! People are soo insensitive and generally rubbish. My most prominent work contract atm are same.
I thought you took the new job? ??

Xx

Oh chasing I had a feeling yours was either just before or just after mine :( Will be thinking of you tomorrow. We are going to light a candle too in remembrance. I decided against taking the new job after being so poorly, I didn't think it was fair on them and they would have probably looked for an alternative way to get me out if I was off sick so much. They have said they would keep me a position if I still wanted it when I return from maternity leave so that's a plus! x

Sorry about the EDDs coming up Amy and Chasing. Mine were really hard, but I came to work and found it took my mind off it a bit.

My HR dept and immediate bosses were really unsupportive during my last pregnancy Amy, making me work long hours, lots of consecutive 12hour shifts (10 days in a row), which I asked to changed. After this I found I'd mc'd. My advice would be just to take care of yourself as you and your baby are the most important thing and take no notice of them!

Can I pick your brains ladies? It's a kind-of pregnancy related thing....

A group of my friends meets up every Wednesday evening, which I have missed for a few weeks as feeling dreadful. Last week, one girl texted me to ask if I was ok. She is a good friend but not someone I see separately very often. She is having infertility issues, and has had 2 unsuccessful rounds of ivf. I felt like replying with a generic answer was a bit dishonest, as we've shared a lot about our baby-making journey in the past, so I replied, telling her I am pregnant and doing ok but struggling a bit with tiredness etc. I have heard absolutely nothing from her since. Was it insensitive of me to tell her? Even if she's upset for herself I would have expected at least a congratulations... What do you think?

Thanks bristolian I'm hoping that's the case here too! That's really cruel of them to do that to you, what is wrong with people?! I am, just going to concentrate on my baby and trying to get better, sod them! :) Its likely that the business will close around October anyway so dare I say I'm hoping for redundancy so I don't have to bother coming back!

Thanks Amy for both of us. Also that's great news about job options post mat leave.

Bristolian I think she should have replied, even my darkest moments I could muster up a congratulations for someone. I'd leave it for now. X

sorry x-post Bristolian I don't think its insensitive- I would MUCH rather hear it via text than face to face, but I also agree with chasing that even when I have been at my lowest I still said congratulations and what not. I also agree to leave it. She may come round and congratulate you when she has got her head around it, if not... well unfortunately it may be a lost friendship, sadly these things do happen.

bristolian letting her know by text was ok I think. id rather have known by text. As others have said even when I thought my heart was breaking I still tried to smile and congratulate when people told me. I think I'd leave it for now too.

Thanks for the advice ladies. I think my hormones are making me more emotional than usual!

I think text is so much easier to deal with news like that. You don't need to hide your immediate reaction etc.. Hopefully she'll send a polite reply back soon.

^ godsake I'm no good at this name changing trying to keep anonymous from this thread stuff

Haha chasing love the name though!