Best shit place grads # 2- still pregnant after miscarriage

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I don't know the stat but I think it's like 2-3% ?

Sickness is back today. I'm feeling shit and I've a long day ahead at work. :-(

At a cafe chewing toast vvvv slowly.

And a huge yay and congratulations for happy bean x

Great news bristolian!! :)

Well i am livid! Rang the hospital today to see if they had arranged my scan yet to be told the midwife wont even see them until tomorrow so call on friday to check if it has been arranged! I told her according to them im 12 weeks today... and she said very sarcy "well you do know you can have your dating scan any time up until 16 weeks, they are not all at 12.." bitch! I cant bloody wait until 16 weeks to know if my baby is ok or not :(

Yay a little bean :). Makes me so nervous for my scan now. The countdown begins until Friday again. However got all my symptoms back today so not to worried not as much as I was yesterday.

Oh no chasing your having a hard 13 weeks Hun :(. I know you feel rubbish but at least you know baby is doing well. Touch wood I've had no sickness just feel it all the time that worries me as sickness is a sign of a strong pregnancy.

Anyone heard from glenpip?

Xx

Thanks ladies! now feel completely exhausted. Got to drag myself into work but not til I've had a cup of tea

Amyy that's a shame about your scan, hopefully it'll come through soon

Sorry to hear you're still feeling so poorly chasing how's the toast going (or staying) down?

bristolian glad everything looked ok! relief all round.

amyy I really hope you don't have to wait til 16 weeks, I thought mine was late enough at 13+1.

chasing you poor thing, hope the day goes quickly for you.

I am freezing today. I just cannot seem to get warm at the moment!!

Thanks ladies. I had never even heard of a dating scan later than 14 weeks ( and i thought that was a joke! ) but 16? I would have to pay for a private scan if they book it that late. Bloody chewed to bits!

chasing hope the toast helps you feel better! Still ill here but plan on going back to work tomorrow and see how i get on.. dreading it!!

Amy if your having nuchal (sp) testing it has to be done by 14. X

I thought so! We decided not to have the downs testing though so hope that doesnt mean we have to wait longer :(

Amyy the dating scan can be practically any time but if you want the nuchal scan, that has to be before 14 weeks.

Bristolian what fantastic news :-)

Amyyy I was told 14 weeks for nuchal but didn't know IT could be 16 weeks that sucks hoping you have better news soon x

Oh so those having the testing will probably have priority over me then :( gah

Well finally a little good news.. ive found im able to keep lucozade (recommended by GP) down and its helping me feel a little better and midwife has confirmed i can have a few bottles a day (i wont have that many!) If i need to... sad but sooo happy! Thought it might be like 1 a week but because its all glucose its fine :)

Fantstic amyyy hopefully that'll continue to help x

Great news bristolian.

And glad you are feeling a bit better amyyy. Sorry you're not chasing!

Had massive hunger sickness again on and off today. I told a couple more colleagues today who were amazing. But my manager who i have yet to tell told one of them she no longer thinks I'm pg because I was wearing a fitted blouse and am not big enough?!?!

Another day on.

Thank you both :) & greedy how rude!

Amyyy thank god youve found something I found Lilt helped me now makes me feel sick. Tea and sugar helps now and I hated tea and sugar before.
Strange what our hormones do to us. I still haven't heard from my midwife so got no scan date or anything yet. And I need a cervical stitch at 12 weeks so getting a little apprehensive now. Can you not request how much you want the scan done before 14 weeks hun are your midwives pretty good?

Chasing sorry your feeling so poorly. Ive been so lucky with sickness this pregnancy I feel sick alot but not being sick ive not been sick once. Prob jinxed myself now. My main symptoms are peeing alot and a horrible taste in my mouth which makes me constantly want to eat :(. Hope you start feeling better soon hun. As I said before not nice for you but baby must be doing really well hun.

Omg Greedy how rude was that. Jealousy hun just ignore it but that's bang out of order to assume something which has nothing to do with them.

Thanks keys im sure i will get sick of lucozade and never want to see it again after baby! Well it was the antenatal clinic who arrange the scans who i spoke to and she just could not have cared less!

Actually wanted your opinions.. i dont know if it is my hormones which are all over the place ... but i told my OH really upset about possibly having to wait until 16 weeks and his reply was... " so? That means we wouldnt have to wait as long for 20w scan... oh and they might know the sex that early too!" Along with "well we wouldnt have to tell people before the scan you could breathe in when you see people ha ha, just wait for them to notice your bump and then tell them" (i wanted our family and close friends to know over the next couple weeks but after the scan)

And now my mam is telling me not to get chewed as "actually your scan pic would be clearer so thats better reallly"

Am i being unreasonable to be upset? Please be honest! I cant get it off my mind!

From one pregnant person to another and my own personal opinion. No I really dont think your being unreasonable at all. Everyone should have a scan around 13 weeks one to make sure baby is healthy and two for your own sanity and piece of mind.
Dont take to heart what mum and OH have said because there not in your position its very easy for others to say dont worry about it if they dont understand how anxious you are.

Can you talk to you midwife tomorrow or maybe visit gp explain how anxious you are and how you feel 16 weeks is to long to wait? Its so hard when no one seems to want to help you feel so helpless. Big hugs hun xx

Oh thanks keys I was worried no one else agreed with me other than MIL and she just wants to tell everyone ASAP! It is such a worrying time. I'm going to call them back on Friday like they said and see how long we are going to have to wait and go from there. Fx it's either not too long or they might have a cancellation or something.

If it was me I would be so unhappy with that hun so its defo not just you. I thought you had to be scanned at 13 weeks to make sure baby is growing properly anyway (which I am sure baby is) but everyone should have a scan at that gestation.
Defo keep on there case otherwise you get put put back to the end of the que. I am so sorry youve got this added stress hun. I am sure yourat the point now where you want to tell people.
xx

Amyyy I don't think it's unreasonable to want a scan sooner than 16 weeks, especially with your history - I'm sure the midwife could try to arrange it for you if you explain how you're feeling... As for your DM/OH I do think it's hard for others to understand what we're going through - my OH doesn't get the anxiety at all!

I agree amyyy. It seems a little late. Perhaps say you've changed your mind for downs screen? Then say you've changed it back at scan?

Midwife told us we couldn't change our minds on the testing, they are very strict that you have to have decided by your booking in appointment for some reason ( I think it's a really hard decision to make while you are just getting over the news you are pregnant!)

Thanks everyone I feel better knowing it's not just me. I'm just concerned that if we don't have scan until 16w and then find out we have lost the baby it would be harder than finding out now? Probably equally as painful but still..

Anyway as my OH has kindly pointed out I am stressing before we have even found out a scan date so I need to chill out, so I shall try! Back to work tomorrow arghhh! Not looking forward to it at all... I've been off most of April!

Amyy the thing is your mc risk now is really small. Tiny. Your bean is growing and your belly is growing and soon you'll be feeling kicks and wiggles and you'll know there is someone in there.

I have heard of people getting to their 12 week scan and finding out that they have had a mmc, but not 16 weeks. It is really very unlikely.

And don't forget 16 weeks is the latest it will be! It might be at 13 or 14 weeks. Maybe make a decision that if it looks like it will be as late as 16 weeks, maybe you could book a private one for say 14 weeks just for reassurance?