Best shit place grads # 2- still pregnant after miscarriage

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Another thread ladies

I have my scan next Saturday my private one,then on the 18th of May,I have my nhs one but I will only be 11 and 5.

I really think I might get some maternity bras to see if it helps my boobs stop aching. I was in H&M today and bought 3 maternity dresses I know it's abit soon but I always think it sells out so fast there.

I don't think I am want to announce to any one on Facebook I want to try and not tell work till I'm 20 weeks also, I think my boss will roll his eyes.

And congratulations barbie x

Hello 3am vomiting. This is new and you ate unwelcome. ..

Aww chasing how shit :( ive found it helps to have something on my stomach before bed x

barbie I'm so glad you still have a healthy bean. I understand it must be bittersweet.

I think I'll leave it off FB officially. I didn't put my first on. Taking 'no news as good news' if I haven't had a phone call by Thursday of a high risk result. I think we will tell ds and then I'll inform work (more like confirm their suspicion)!

That doesn't sound good chasing. I hope its a one off.

How u feeling his morning chasing hun?

I feel the same been up most the night with cramps stretching pains it's terrifing isn't it. I'm lucky I only have to wait until Friday but I'm still so nervous.

Awww barbie must have been a very emotional scan for you :( big hugs hun. So pleased to hear though baby is fighting and going strong.

something weird has happened to my hormones this morning. I hate tea I'm a coffee drinker alway had to have strong coffee or if I did have a tea had to be a strong tea no sugar. Since around 5 weeks not wanted tea or coffee woke up this morning craving tea with sugar and is delicious. It's so funny what your hormones do to you when your pregnant.

I usually adore the smell of dh 's coffee but it's turning me right off atm. Not that I drink tea or coffee. Bleurghhh

I literally couldn't get comfortable all night, my stomach is so sore. Eventually I gave up and was just sick. I can't sleep properly because I'm going to bed so early so I'm waking and dozing constantly..but it's impossible to stay up later to get solid sleep. Dd sleep has regressed. I found myself reminiscing about dh and I's life prior to her. ..the waking up when I wanted etc. Early hrs I felt a headache coming on. Thank god it gone, I'm yet to take anything at all this pregnancy and I really want to keep it that way.

I'm also full of what I hope are stretching growing pains. It's horrible messing with my head. I'm glad you only have to wait till Friday my love.

God I'm such a miserable cow.

No your not miserable huni you've been through so much trauma in the past its natural to feel the way you do. You don't want to get excited just incase your world comes crashing down again and I completely understand your anxiety and how you must be feeling right now.
when I had dd2 I was so lucky be cause all the doctors said to me she's not going to make it do you want to hold her and I just couldn't my world went numb. Shes playing now and I look at her and get so upset thinking I was so close to losing youI just could never imagine it. But that day will always haunt me. So this pregnancy I'm extra worried because I know my body does not like to hold my babies until term so I'm needing a stitch at 13 weeks and medication to stop my body going into false labour. I try not to think about what if it don't work what if I lose this baby what if I have another disabled child how am I going to cope and u got to keep my DD. So the trauma you went through no one can blame you for feeling the way you do or moaning or looking upon us for reassurance all the time. That's what we're all here for its amazing this page I'm so glad I found you all
just makes me so angry what guy said about the other forum some people have no worries at all do they and were all so anxious and walking on eggshells constantly and we just can not enjoy it.

Big hugs hun I know it's not nice but the sickness ad the emotional hormone overload are a really good sign baby is cooking just fine xxx

chasing sorry you are feeling shitty! Can i join the club? Im fed up today. Planned to go back to work tomorrow and my sickness has got worse again !!

barbie I'm glad you had a positive scan. As guy said - bittersweet though but glad one of them is looking strong.

My sickness has reached an all time high. I can't seem to keep anything down. All I can do is lie down and try to slowly sip water through a straw. I thought it should be getting better now - not worse?

One of friends just posted a pic of a digi on FB with 1-2 weeks on it and said "look what I got this morning!". I'm so happy for her but I did think, oh to be so confident and free of fear. I'm not really an FB person so be posting any announcements anyway but just the thought of being able to start telling people post 13 week scan is making me nervous! I think we'll just tell people as and when we them.

Blimey! I bet the pee hadn't even dried on her test!

Genni I'm sorry you are even more sick. Poor thing. It's so hard. I also feel like mines worse not better.. Amy for you too.

Im having an awful day today. :( My parents hate my OH because of past experiences. Anyway been staying with my mum for the week as OH been at work and with the blood clot I have and a trapped nerve in my right leg and back coping with two LO's is hard.

He said I might as well stay at my mum last night as he was going golf do I mind. Well no as he works hard. However I didnt have my car and said to him will you help me do the housework tomorrow and come and get me early. He said that was fine. Bearing in mind he is 31 years old. He didnt answer the pone until 10am this morning I found out he went out last night to meet mates in a pub over an hour away. I went mad and called him all the names under the sun. Which he was so nasty back. My mum saidu need to go home its your house aswell. But all Ive got is more arguments saying I need to apologise. Anyway its been about an hour now and he is asleep upstairs ive woke him up twice and said look can u come and help me please I am in a lot of pain and struggling. His reply was I cant talk to you right now im to angry you havent even apologised and gone back to sleep.

So what so what do I do? I know thats so wrong and no one should put up with that. Do I go back to my mums and put the stress on them again or do I stay here and let him just sleep upstairs whilst im in agony. Ive already washed the girls clothes thrown his. I dont think he should get away wit it.

Feeling very low today :(

Tell him he being a fucking dick. What do you mean he works hard; what about how hard you work? Looking after children, growing the baby in your tummy etc etc.
Make him get up. It's your turn for some down time. He's had his. He has no right to be angry and he's just using that as an excuse to about helping you.
Is he like this a lot?

*avoid

he wont get up ive tried this is why im in limbo do I just leave or stay in my own home.

He used to be like it whenever I fall pregnant he does it. If I was in the wrong id understand dont get me wrong im no angel but I never go out. The fact he didnt even tell me he was going out the fact he is in no fit state to help me today or say ive overreacted and I need to apologize. I dunno whats worst tbh with u.
I Just keep crying I dont know what to do. I know if someone was writing this id think what an arse you should leave him but when you have two kids and are 8 weeks pregnant its scary. I can go back to my mums but if I go back there never let him back in and with the baby coming I dont need this stress. On the other hand I dont deserve to be treated like this :(

I don't know. Hard work plus hurt and resentment is worse than just hard work.

Ah keys you dont need this! I would have to agree with what guy said above. I would blast some music/telly so he cant sleep.. dump anything that needs tidying on top of him and tell him what a prick he is being! Hope he sorts himself out!

Hello! Can I join in please?! I've got a DD and DS (12 AND 8) had a miscarriage with no3 in July 2010 at around 6 weeks. We'd not plucked up the courage to try again til the beginning of this year, came off the pill end of Jan and fell straight away! I should be around 12 weeks on Wednesday according to CBD that showed a 3+ in early March. I was sick as a dog with DD and DS but this time, occasional mild nausea for the first few weeks, now I'm just constantly hungry and my belly is HUGE, I look like I'm about 6 months in! I have my scan on Friday and I'm petrified they're going to give me bad news, I'm trying to pass the time so Friday comes around quicker but at the same time I'm dreading it!!

Hi sweats (sorry i dont wanna call you poo ha ) congrats! Good luck with your scan!

Thanks Amyyy. I am absolutely terrified! The complete lack of sickness is what has got me worried, it's so unusual to go from feeling sick all day every day with the first 2 to nothing this time, but this is the first time with the ridiculous bloating, also weird dreams at night which is a new one on me!

Ah try not to worry! Every pregnancy is different and no nausea is normal and a huge bonus :) Bloated here too and i have crazy vivid dreams every night now its mad!

keys that doesn't sound good at all :'( is he a good father? Is your relationship usually good.. happy? If not to either of those perhaps post in relationships. I know the prospect of leaving him is scary as he'll but you don't deserve to be unhappy and you CAN do it alone. Hell. .it sounds much like you are already.

Welcome sweats everything crossed for your first scan!

welcome sweats congratulations on pregnancy goodluck for scan I am sure everything will be fine. With this pregnancy I just feel very sick all the time with my other 2 i was sick al the time couldnt get my head off the pillow.

chasing Heis when he wants to be. He promises he will change all the time but were back here again. The families hate one another I feel so sorry for littlens even though they dont hear anything they must wonder why both nannies are not there at the birthday party etc.

I keep saying to myself it will get better and its not all bad but I do live like a single mum I do do alot by myself its just scary the though of change having a different surname to your children other people in their lives. Its something I have got to think about though theres alot I could you and your think I am mad for staying all this time. Dont help when you early pregnancy tired emotional fed up worried.

Sorry for the bring down this afternoon guys. thanks for the chat xx

Keys love. My best friend was I'm exactly your position. She kept staying and staying and when it eventually ended she said life wasn't such a hard slog anymore because the constant begging for help and dissappintment wasn't there anymore. .she said it was like a weight lifted, that though it wasn't always easy, it was easier because she knew it was just her..she wasn't full of resentment and hurt and feeling exhausted from asking for help anymore. She said her self worth massively grew when she realised she can and was doing it singlehandedly. It's not to say I didn't rock her while she sobbed into a glass of vino a few times.. but she knows life is better without her 'partner' dragging her down. Her team is her and her children and they are strong. So are you.

No huge decisions have to be made immediately. I'm not screaming ltb or change the locks.. I'm just saying.. take some time to really think about this...is this the way you see the rest of your life? It sounds to me like you have tried and tried to fix it and you are tired. And now you are pregnant and needing help and he isn't propping you up like a team should. No relationship is perfect! I'm pretty sure dh 's night in the spare room is still fresh on his mind... but I've been pretty much in between the bed and the loo for the entire weekend and he's just bought me water.m rubbed my back and all I wake up to is him and dd giggling hysterically. He's said nothing.. he's just done it. And i massively appreciate it. .you deserve to be looked after. You are carrying his child for godsake! Xxxx