Best shit place grads # 2- still pregnant after miscarriage

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Another thread ladies

hi mrsj hope u r ok. everything for me was done under ga but i had an emergency one so dont know if that made any difference.

Sasha I think there is also a thread in conception about women who are taking the treatment for nk problems. I think it's called pred thread... Something like that.
I think you've been able to conceive quite quickly haven't you? If you can get the right treatment you will still have a good chance of a sibling for your DC.

I'm 11 weeks today. The worry goes on. Is there a heartbeat there or isn't there? Part of me wants to know right now and part of me never wants to go near a scan room ever again so they never get the chance to start the conversation with "I'm sorry..." Or "are you sure about your dates..."
I'm so head in the sand I've not even seen a doctor yet. As if going near a health professional will signal the beginning of bad news.
(Yes I know about the tests, but don't want them done)
Can't put if off much longer though.

do you have a scan booked yet west? body looking any different?

as my 12 week scan approached i started to get a feeling of dread but when you see it is all ok its just amazing. if you have had no signs of anything bad by now i would assume things will be well (i know thats not always the case, but i have to hope). you will feel so relieved once you have had one.

Thinking of all you ladies going through a tough time right now

Been back to GP today and he has signed me off work for another 2 weeks. My work will be fuming but need to focus on my little one and not them!

keys did you get in to epu?

sasha a duvet day sounds like just what you need.

msJ sorry its looking like you're going to have to go through things naturally. That broke me having to go through it the second time because hospital messed up and couldn't get me in.

Nothing booked for me yet Ginger. I really didn't want any booking in before 12 weeks at least this time. I know what will be said at booking in, from last time, and my health is overall no different.
I did briefly consider a private scan, but nearest one is an hours drive to an unfamiliar town. Don't dancy getting myself back from there alone after bad news and my DH work is unpredictable, so can't book anything ahead which relies in him coming along. If he has to see a customer that day he has to see them. Even if they call at short notice. So, never mind. A scan will but save a pregnancy after all.
Some body changes, yes, definitely. But after what we've both read today on the head wreck thread, I'm not assuming anything...
Glad all is well for you though

Sorry, so many typos. Blame it on beautiful sunshine I'm sitting in!

thanks west i hope you feel upto booking in / scan soon. is someone else able to go with you if dp cant?

i know everyones different but if the worse were to happen, not having a scan wont change that outcome. having a scan and seeing good news though will certainly improve how you feel through this pregnancy though.

i know its not that simple though. this time round i was in the mindset of i would rather not know and if it happens deal with it then, rather than the emotional turmoil of knowing for however long and waitng for things to happen.

i guess i am just trying to give u a bit of encouragement to try and enjoy your pregnancy a little bit

HI guys been at my mums today where cramps have been so painful I am really scared. Called epu this morning they said they cant see me until April 24th when I said I already have an appointment for the 17th they said no its in the diary for the 24th. The nurse told me she wanted me back 10 days after last scan which would be Friday. I wernt having it so they gave me an appointment for Friday and I was meant to be grateful for that even though on my appointment card it says friday 17th april. So angry today. Mixed emotions. I just want to know if its a sticky bean or not.
Its not looking good tbh im bleeding im cramping just got to wait until friday.

Hope your all ok today xx

Thanks Ginger. I'm ok. Whatever will be will be. I have a GP appt next week. So I'll take it from there.

Just caught your post Keys, that's terrible about the appt mix up. How could the 24th ever be acceptable in your state!? That's so distressing.

I'm sorry keys.
That's terrible about your epu though. They should be able to give you an emergency appointment. Can you go to a and e?

ahh well thats a step forward!

keys i third what the others say, if you ring epu and tell them youre in pain and bleeding they should see you sooner. hope u r ok

My epu are awful how can you leave someone nearly 3 weeks for a next scan where no hb was detected. If I go A and E there just say you have a scan booked for friday. Its just the not knowing so I can move on and prepare for the emotional distress again if little bean has not stuck. Just got to see these next few days out. :(.
Could be good news though I just want to know.

Thanks for the support guys has cheered meup logging on here .

Keys I'm so sorry you are being treated so badly by your EPU, you would think that they would have a little more sensitivity!! Are you sure a&e will just tell you to wait till Friday. I had an EPU scan booked with my first miscarriage, but ended up in a&e late at night due to heavy bleeding and cramps and they brought the scan forwards to the following morning.

Amy - sod what work thinks at the end of the day your suffering from pregnancy symptoms, and there is nothing that they can do about it regardless of how ticked off they may be. By law they can't even put this against your permanent sick record or they could be done for discrimination. Just take all the time you need to look after yourself and little bean.

keys i went through similar with my mmc. had a 2wk wait which was standard for my trust. its torture waiting that long hoping for the best and fearing the worst. i really feel for u. on the plus side it is only 2 days now really. hopefully things will hang on till then and you can get some news. thinking of u. hope u have lots of rl support

But they have to have emergency scan spots available. I mean what if you went in with ectopic symptoms? They would have to scan you as that is potentially life-threatening.

Makes me so fucking angry when medical professionals act like it's just another day, ignoring the fact that it might be the worst day of the patient's life. So fucking casual.

One of the nurses at my epu actually told me that mc is not really a big deal and I should just carry on as normal and it will be fine if it happens at work.

Well it might be common enough, but that two hours of my life, contracting and in agony and bleeding heavily would NOT have been fine in the toilets at work. Fucking idiots just have no compassion sometimes.

Sorry, that got a bit angry. Most medical professionals are amazing, but when they just don't seem bothered at such a difficult time, it really takes the piss.

Unfortunately there are some mega cocks that just do not know how to cope with it. I was being scanned for the 4th time in 2 days (internal) and I just started heaving heavy, silent sobs. . He just looked down at me and said 'ohh no.. why are you crying'? With an emotionless, blank face. I'll never forget it. I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time keys. It's such an awful limbo place to be.

I've been thinking of everyone having such an awful time right now.

Hi everyone. Keys I am so sorry about the hospital messing you about. I can't believe they can't see you sooner when you are going through all that.

Well I had 3 hrs of contractions and passed some stuff a few times. Called EPU once it had all stopped and they said still come in. They scanned me again and said there was still some stuff there and I might pass it naturally. I said I really didn't want to go through the same thing repeatedly over the next week and I would still rather have the procedure. They agreed I had been through enough to justify it. So I am due in at 7.30am. If a lot has passed overnight they will scan me again to check if it's still worth doing. But the pains have stopped so I suspect I would have to repeat the contractions several times before it all cleared.

Of course I don't want an unnecessary GA or procedure and I know there will still be bleeding/pain but I also don't want it dragging over the next few weeks. They seemed quite happy to accept my decision after initially saying they would recommend letting it continue naturally. So that's my update.

Sasha I hope you are coping ok and all the rest of you are doing well. I know it is not an easy journey for any of us and I hope the approaching scans bring nothing but happy, reassuring news.

MsJ .. I'm glad you've been able to take some of the control over the situation and you're in early tomo. I'll be holding your hand and thinking of you over here. I'm still so shocked and gutted that you are suffering this again. I wish I had words..

MsJ I did exactly the same. I laboured and passed the sac on the Wednesday, scan showed a few cm of tissue on the Thursday, erpc on the Friday. And then it was over. Much better that way.
Name age you have someone around to look after your dc for a couple of days as GA can make you pretty groggy. Best of luck. I'm sorry that you are going through this again and I wish I could take the pain away.

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Ive already been to A and E hun with bleeding last week they didnt re scan me.
When I had my last mc they told me it was very common and to basically deal with it. My midwives are not very compassionate either, I remember having DD2 and them asking my mum to change my catheter bag my mum said your having a laugh I aint changing her bag its your job and it needs changing now. Bearing in mind I was fighting off a bad infection so neglectful.
When I spoke to them this morning she said that there very busy today and to call back on Monday if bleeding gets worse. I was like but I have an appointment on friday this week and she said no its the 24th so i asked her to go and check then she came back and said we wouldnt of made a mistake like that we only c the sac last tuesday you were still very early I was over 6 weeks. Just so inconsiderate. I've still got a few symptoms feeling sick sore boobs and tired but thats normal as my hormones are prob still all over the place. However i've stopped being sick and thats not normal for me.
I did have a bleed next to womb she said which could bleed but this is really heavy so I just need to know.

I think when youve been told on a previous scan no hb was detected then you bleed you think the worse and just want the reassurance has it or hasent it.
The wait has been agonising enough I dunno how I am going to get through next few days but as glen said I only have a few more days to wait. I will keep you all posted.
Thanks again for the lovely support fingers crossed for good news xxx