We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

That's great gr33dy :)

My boobs haven't grown, I'm disappointed as mine are only small.

I'm thinking I need to get measured. I'm a 36B. Currently wearing a 36C which is too big in the cups but a 38B would be too big round my chest and a 36B is too tight.
I measured myself but that's not as accurate.
Ho hum!

I am stuffed... After losing the 1lb I'd managed to put back on today I forced myself to eat a big lunch when i met a friend. Ugh, waddle waddle.

Found you again!! Thank goodness for the search thing!! Will catch up properly in a minute but firstly.....

Yay!!!! METAL!!!!! So pleased for you, fantastic to see you here xx

I'm 24+2 and today the bump is definitely out. No going back now, bumpalicious all the way Not tons to report from me - still feeling quite sick if I go for a few hours without eating, still got many food aversions and was violently sick the other day. Bought baby a new pram/pushchair today and am really pleased with it (we've got a quinny already that we had for dd but I read a fair few bad reviews of the newborn insert we would need so thought I'd treat me baby to a new pram. New to us anyway, as it's second hand!) Baby is ridiculously active throughout the day but particularly at night, with a few signature moves that I've named -The Orca is when s/he does a move that mimicks a whale coming up for air then slowly going back below the sea again and Abdominal Crunches when it feels like s/he is lying on their back then brings their hands/arms and feet/legs up together at the same time to thrash on my insides!

Hope everyone is well, I'll have a good read back now and see what I've missed xx

Hurrah for the shopping broody, I'm going to start this weekend. Almost 24wks now and I'm getting some movement at last. Weird falling feelings, some thumping, possible hiccuping. Mostly after food / drink - is that normal? I guess it wakes him up!

Hi broody, nice to see you again! Glad to hear your pregnancy is progressing well, even if you're still feeling a bit sick at times.

That sounds like a lovely scan smallbear.

My boobs might not hurt but this afternoon the tiredness hit me like a ton of bricks. Was supposed to go to my Spanish evening class today but have decided not to, there's no way I could concentrate on anything for 2 hours.

Congratulations metal.

I realised last night that I referred to 'the baby' for the first time ('this baby likes cheese' to justify the large amounts of it I've been eating....). That then scared me because I've been trying so hard to not think of the possible reality of an actual baby in case it all goes wrong. Aaaargh. Where's the fast forward button?

I'm trying to work out if I can arrange my day to fit in a nap this afternoon - haven't had one in about a week and boy am I feeling it. I do wish people didn't want me to be useful and vaguely competent and actually, you know, do stuff.

10 weeks today which is when I miiscarried last time so I'm feeling very tearful today.

I'm working from home rather than going into the office so I can take it easy.
Also got my scan tomorrow so that's not helping the anxiety

Arhhhhh

I love afternoon naps! I also haven't had one this week and could just do with one - wonder if my class will mind...
It's horrible when you're at the stage you were when you MC. It seems like the longest time period on earth! Scanaxiety as well will just make it worse. We're all with you though - I tried hard to sleep through the whole thing...

Boozle stick a DVD on and I'm sure they won't notice you snoring in the corner.... (I should really stop faffing on MN and get on with the work that needs doing if I want my nap).

north I hope you're curled up looking after yourself with appropriate amounts of chocolate/whatever else will make you feel even momentarily better. The timing for the scanxiety is crap, but on the plus side having the reassurance that everything's OK tomorrow will be really good timing. Everything crossed that that will be the case.

God I'd love an afternoon nap just now. My weekend routine is very much breakfast-swim-lunch-nap and it's lovely. This whole working 9-6 thing every other day isn't getting much easier. For those of you who teach and have to stand up I don't know how you do it!

North these milestones are horrible but you will feel so much better after your scan news, should make for a more relaxing Easter weekend

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Big hugs to you, north

Right now I'm so envious of people who just sail through with no worries or problems. I'm feeling reasonably even-keeled having heard the heartbeat on Tuesday but I get frustrated with people who don't understand the need for reassurance when you've had a miscarriage. Sigh. I'm so glad that this is a safe space to worry in

Totally agree commander, thank you for posting what you did in the September thread.
I don't like the way they are judging - my anxiety is bananas at the moment which my doctor is aware of so scans are just an easy way to give me a little reassurance.

I think i may have to just post on here and nowhere else.

Sending hugs to you north, it is hard with milestones. Hope you're looking after yourself x

Thanks ladies, I'm holding up better than expected so far

I've been pretty lucky with symptoms thus far, but have an overactive gag reflex - haven't yet actually puked but any minuscule amount of phlegm has me gagging horribly. Mostly it's first thing in the morning or when I'm doing something like cleaning my teeth, but today it was when stood in front of several hundred children. Great. Got through it, but blergh.

And now for a nap - the work that needs doing can wait. Too much evening working this week so I can entirely justify it I have decided.

Oh and I haven't read the Sept thread so don't know what the conversation was but pah to anyone who judges anyone else's way of dealing with pregnancy. Sadly some people seem to feel the need to judge anyone who makes different (but perfectly valid) choices to their own. And it only gets worse when the babies actually arrive . I'm going to choose to believe it's all down to their own insecurities - might be one way to approach the comments which might get to you.

Oh gosh treacle (had a read of the September thread because i am a nosy mare!). My antenatal thread sometimes makes me laugh because some seem to be spending so much money (to me anyway) on full nursery sets and expensive prams and snuzpods. I might've fit in better with the frugal September thread maybe? Anyway don't worry about it. The 12-16 week wait is such a limbo and my anxiety was up, almost more than pre 12 weeks because I suddenly had a baby to lose, that I couldn't feel and I was losing symptoms! At 16 weeks I heard the hb and again at 17 weeks and then it didn't seem too long until my 20 week and now I can see my bubs nudging me (only big kicks)

Wow, there's a few judgey bitchy folk in that sept group, isn't there?! I was almost ready to add a post at the "suck it up" comment... How fabulous if you sail through with wonderful relaxation in the bag instead of a heap of worries. Ffs. Stay here treacle, you don't need that shit, my lovely xxx

I've had a nosey at it too treacle!

Its amazing that some people can be so confident and sure. I've never had that with one miscarriage prior to a successful pregnancy and then another miscarriage before this.

My anxiety is far worse this time, in part due to knowing more about the infection involvement.

Had a sneaky look too. Even if they feel that way there was no need to comment like that. Don't worry Treacle we all understand your anxiety. I nearly went for a sexing scan even though I really didn't want to find out the sex because I was so anxious. I would have done if the mw hadn't found the hb at the 16wk appointment.

Sending you all massive massive hugs.
You've really cheered me up as I thought I was just being bitchy.
Problem is their comments were all following a few of us saying we were going to have private scans.
"Suck it up" sent me off on one.

Anyway, thank you all and I'm definitely happier over here.