We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

sunbathing, I don't think it matters if it's your first or fiftieth dc - if you feel she's breech, don't be worried about speaking up and creating a noise. I had no confidence in my last mw either and wish I'd have swapped tbh. I get low down movement and baby is v active and I find it hard to know I it's feet kicking or hands punching because they're both so strong so I could easily be in your situation.

Have you got the details of your community midwife office/team? Mine was in my original lot of bumpf that the mw gave me at booking in but you could call your GP surgery and ask for the cmw office? Then talk through your concerns with the mw who answers your call? Xx

Morning all, I hope everyone's feeling ok today? I did my back in somehow yesterday, sitting on the sofa , so am hobbling around a bit today. Also feeling pretty sick now, which I suppose is a good sign. I'm 6+3 today, which is when my last bean stopped growing...

I tried to see my GP today to chase up my early scan referral but couldn't get an appointment. If I haven't heard anything by the end of this week I think I'll book a private one for next week. I definitely want to have one before my booking in appt on 5 May, so I know whether there's any point in going through all of that again.

Hi Everyone.

Big hugs to everyone who is either in limbo or has had sad news, make sure you are kind to yourself and I hope you have lots of support. The thread has been moving quite fast recently so I haven't really kept up. Sorry! But I really hope that everyone is ok

Anyway here I am on the EDD of my MC pregnancy, but I am feeling surprisingly OK tbh. I think it helps that I am 24 weeks today which feels like a massive milestone and I also had my cervical length scan today (all fine, actually got bigger since 20 weeks!), and they also did a growth scan so I am freshly reassured. I am hoping that I can actually start enjoying the pregnancy now?? I still can't believe I have got so far.... doesn't feel real

They tried to tell me that baby had probably moved into breech when mine was discovered but I knew it hadn't. On top of the fact that I felt no movement in a tight bump, measuring small at nearly 39 weeks, we were always able to feel the head (thought it was her bum) and DH was always able to hear the heartbeat about where Tori says just by putting his ear to the bump. Nothing changed which showed me she had always been in that position.

Thanks Sunbathing I am doing ok. I just think of how much harder it would be if I wasn't as pregnant as I am now, especially with Kate.... there is truly no escape. Also it is my step sisters due date today but her baby isn't showing any signs of making an appearance just yet.

I don't think my OH realises the date, if he does he hasn't said anything. Not sure whether to bring it up as the whole MC thing hit him really hard and today he is so happy gloating about our little baby girl who is doing so well and beating up me from the inside.

Interesting about the heartbeat. My baby has been head down since 20 weeks (I bet she turns at something silly like 38 weeks) and I have a MW appointment next week. It will be interesting where she finds the hb

I've just booked a private scan for 2 May when I'll be 8 weeks. I rang the hospital ultrasound department today to chase up the early scan referral from my GP and they said they hadn't received anything. So even if I manage to see him tomorrow and he refers me then, I very much doubt I'd get a scan appointment before the end of next week, which is the last date before my booking in appointment. (If by some miracle I do then I can always cancel the private scan.) So, the countdown begins!

Glad you're feeling ok today happy.

Hi all,

I've been away for a few days, and have just caught up. I'm so so sorry for everyone who's had recent bad news. It's devastating and so sad to read. I really hope you can begin to feel better soon. It's something that never leaves you though, is it?

It's interesting and helpful to read the breech discussions. I'm 36 weeks today and baby is breech (was at mw earlier), in fact she's never not been breech. I have a scan on Thursday and if her position is confirmed (which I know it will be, I can practically see her head under my ribs) I'm being encouraged to have her manually turned (I can't remember what it's called- evs?)next week. I really don't know how I feel about that, I've read such worrying things about it. Also, I live in Holland where they're very pro natural births, and they're still trying to encourage me to think about a vaginal birth for a breach and big baby (she was over 5 pounds at 32 weeks!) that's crazy, right? And I should push for a c-section?

Hope everyone is doing ok, especially those going through the first trimester terror!

Hi Mslad that's a big decision. We tried to go for the ecv at 39 weeks when breech was discovered but it didn't happen as dd's heart rate spiked for hours before we tried anything. In our case I'm glad it didn't happen as it turned out that due to being breech dd had a hip problem that was only picked up on a routine hip scan for breech babies, if we hadn't had that we would only have found out when she tried to walk which would have been much worse. As it is she was treated and I am very much hoping she gets discharged when she has an xray in Wednesday.

There is a lot of stuff out there to read about the pros and cons of ecv and it is very conflicting but if you would like to do it I would find out about their success rates and do it asap. The success might depend on the type of breech as well. If you do do it though and it works, maybe ask for a scan anyway.

Not sure I would want to go for a natural breech birth but I am a wimp and scared enough about normal childbirth. My MIL successfully delivered twins at 40 weeks one of which was breech and the other transverse so I'm guessing it was more normal back in the day. If you would prefer a c-section definitely stick to your guns, obviously they have their risks but my c-section was great.

Thanks for your thoughts sunbathing and purpleI really don't know what to do about the ecv. I thought maybe if they could attempt to gently, and if I think it's too much (for baby, not me, even though I've heard it's extremely painful) then get them to stop. But even then I'm not sure I want to risk it. I've read a fair few horror stories and I think even if they monitor the baby after the ecv, that I'll be worried sick when I get home that something could go wrong.

If she remains breech, I will definitely push for a c-section. Even though to me it seems scarier than a normal birth. purple you mil delivered twins! one breech and the other transverse?! bloody hell that's impressive.

sunbathing I meant to say earlier that I think it will probably only be us who remember the details like the milestones. That made me a bit sad at first, but I do know how devastated dp was about the mc, and while he may not think about it the same way I do, I'm sure he does in his own way (if that makes sense).

Hello all, not been on here for a couple of days and have tried to read back as best I can.

Sorry to hear of your sad news Fergie and Stars and thinking of you

Congratulations Suzy.

So I went for my 2nd GTT today. I had one two weeks ago as I had sugar in my wee on two occasions 1 x + 2 and 1 x trace. No diabetes was detected. Then I went to my 28 week midwife appointment and there was +4 of sugar in my wee and they told me I had to repeat the test! I'm kind of thinking it'll be fine, because if I have gestational diabetes surely it would have been picked up last time Anyway, the moral of the story is avoid the office cakes the day before your midwife appointment!

Sunbathing - it could be her arms and fingers that your thinking are feet kicks. DS was head down pretty much the whole time and he would stretch his arms out to the point where it felt like they were right down in my vagina! It was really uncomfortable and painful. He was born with both his hands holding his face (c section) and they had to use forceps because of it. Could you push for a scan to double check? When you push down on where her bum is does it 'bop'? Apparently only the head 'bops' and the bum stays still.

Mslad I guess the only thing that might make me think a vaginal birth with a breech baby might be OK is your location, in that if they're so pro it they presumably have experience of it happening as opposed to over here where a massive number of midwives have no experience of breech deliveries because they so rarely happen. Which isn't in the slightest to say don't push for a c-section if that's what you feel most comfortable with having thought through all the risks and benefits - sounds to me like you have an excellent argument.

Oh and I don't think I ever congratulated Suzy - blame the baby brain.

Fingers crossed for the GTT results bear.