So sorry stars - please look after yourself. I hope your physical recovery is fast, take the time you need for everything else.
Also so sorry to hear your news Fergie. My second mc was about 5 weeks and I count it as a mc, mostly because then it would count if I ever need referring for recurrent mcs. So I would define it in whatever way is most helpful for you, but with the medics call it a mc iyswim. Fingers crossed for the IVF.
Thanks for all the reassurance that it's not just me doing the emotional detachment thing. I think I'm aware that all the emotion is going to have to come out at some point and I'd rather be in control of that - I bottled everything after my first mc and when it did all come out because I couldn't keep pretending it was all OK any more it was messy. I know this is different though - I may just be a complete wreck at the scan whatever the news.
Have survived a long day of work today and am about to collapse in a heap.
Oh, re. breech or otherwise, my hopeless but lovely midwife with my daughter thought she was breech at about 38 weeks but sent me away anyway. I did some googling, checked with my tame midwife (sister) and got back on the phone to them to say I really would like to know for certain so if it was breech there was a possibility of doing something about it. Only at that point did she refer me for a scan (which showed the little monkey was head down). I think if you have a scan too early you run the risk of the baby moving anyway, too late and they're harder to turn (if that's what you'd want to try). Bums and heads can be hard to distinguish is the problem I think.