We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

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Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

Oh fifi how horrible and unfair. This will be hard on Your DH too. It is so shit. Take care of yourself xxx

Omg I just saw that our posts got crossed fifi! I am so sorry if I came across as insensitive.

fifi that is so shit and unfair. I am so sorry. Take care of yourself

happy, you didn't. I quite often post then realise that I haven't read things properly. It's fantastic news about your pregnancy and lovely to see how excited you are.
Tori thank you x

Fifi I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope that you have some good support and can fine some space to rest and take care of yourself x

I'm so sorry fifi, it's just not fair. I know nothing we say can make it better. Take care of yourself. x

So sorry fifi, it's all just so unfair. I hope you can look after yourself and get some space and that your DH gets his act together to look after you. Grit your teeth and do what you need to get through Thursday for your son, but make sure you've got safe space to fall apart in after if you need to. (I speak as someone who spent my daughter's last birthday dealing with the fact that it was the due date for my first mc. That was hard (and the day ended in tears), I imagine yours will be even harder.)

Do you still have to go in for the scan tomorrow? Will DH be able to go with you for support?

Fifi, just seen this, I am so so sorry that this has happened again, life can be so shit sometimes. I am thinking of you. I hope you are being looked after now, you need to take some time for yourself. Any time you want to talk you know where I am.

Great to come across this thread - am 5 weeks, following a previous miscarriage back in December. Am struggling not to drive myself crazy and it's lovely to read all this positive stuff.

It's also good to know that I'm not the only one who is driving themselves crazy too! Haven't had loads of symptoms yet (like last time - which is why it gets me worried I guess) and found myself jumping up and down in the toilet cubicle at work today to try and work out if my boobs were sore or not. Then got a fit of the giggles when I realised how silly that was. Anyone else in there must have thought i'd lost my marbles!

Anyway... it's been good to read about other people's experiences and i've managed to not be all doom and gloom for at least half an hour, which is a nice feeling, so thanks!

Oh my goodness - having posted my message I just read the ones above mine - which makes mine look horribly inappropriate. Turns out you can't delete your own posts but i've asked the moderators to take it down.

Kicking myself - should have read that properly. Sorry

EmmaJane welcome and please don't worry I'm forever using the site on a phone and missing posts I wish I'd read. Congratulations on your BFP and welcome. You'll find this thread very supportive I'm sure and no one will judge you for not catching up on all posts before contributing!

I'm really sorry Fifi. It's so unfair.

Welcome and congratulations Emmajane :)

I'm feeling a bit guilty tonight, ive had far too much caffeine for my liking.
1 can of Dr pepper and nearly a whole 200g bar of dairy milk :/

Congratulations and welcome Emmajane. Please don't worry about your first post.

I'm twelve weeks tomorrow and I have my scan. How did that happen?

I'm trying not to be nervous about the nuchal measurement because I know the odds of Downs happening again are small, but it's hard. I can't remember what happens - do you get the nuchal results a few days later?

Hope all goes well somesort :)
My nuchal came back a couple of weeks after but I think it's a case of no news is good news.
Might be different in different areas though.

Oh Fifi I'm so so sorry - how utterly shit. I just hope Thursday goes as well as it possibly can for you and your OH comes round for you.
EmmaJane welcome - I for one have jumped up and down to check my boob acheage...

Good luck somesort. What time is your scan? I hope you manage to get some sleep tonight, me and my other half didn't sleep much at all before my 12 week! And then I had to wait until 3.30pm!

emmajane welcome! Although this thread has its share of heartbreak as you have seen today, we also see a lot of positive news. It is the nature of the beast. But in good news and bad we are all here to support. All the ladies on here are ace and so very very strong xxx

fifi I am so sorry, life is just crap sometimes.

Welcome & Congratulations Emmajane

Emmajane congratulations and don't worry. I'm often guilty of posting with out reading back. It's great news that you're 5 weeks. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months.

Thanks you everyone for your messages of support. I just feel numb at the moment. I've been busy cooking and trying not to think. I know it's not right but I know I will fall apart if I start to think.
I have an appt at the EPU tomorrow to get the ball rolling. I'm going to ask for an ERPC. I'm going in on my own as the appt is first thing and DH needs to drop DS off.
I've made DS ' birthday cake tonight and will wrap presents tomorrow. Hopefully I won't be in hospital for his birthday.
I'm planning to see an obstetrician privately to start investigations and perhaps find some superglue for a sticky bean.

Trying not to think sounds entirely natural to me fifi - if you're still bottling it up and not thinking in a month's time I'd be worrying about you, but for now it's a case of doing what you need to to get through. Could you ask for the EPRC to be done on Friday so you can be at DS's birthday? Or would that feel worse to have to wait? (I've no idea how soon they can generally do these things so it may be a moot point). Look after yourself.

Welcome EmmaJane - may your time here be long and uneventful.

Fifi thinking of you and hope you're holding up as well as can be xx. I've had an eprc and it was the lesser of the evils, compared to the medical management which I found to be absolutely barbaric. Do whatever you need to get through the days and take care of yourself xx.