We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

The oyster max is a good one for preparing for more than one. Can be used as a single and then adapted sunbathing.

Hi Everyone hoping I can join you ladies. I got my bfp yesterday EDD 21st Dec.

My stats are 41 and this would be our 1st. I had 2mmc last year, April 2014 at 7.5wks and 2nd August 2014 at 10.1wks.

I was referred to a consultant in relation to rmc who I will contact this week but I am torn about early scans and not sure if I should wait till 12wks. The reason is on both previous pregnancies I got early scanned and it didn't stop anything happening. Your thoughts would be most welcome?

Also after what's happened I don't feel excited as its like I'm preparing myself for the worst case.

Welcome Fergie. I'm another one who hasn't had an early scan. I always thought I would at about 8 weeks (which was beyond the point of both my mcs) but when it came to it the idea of phoning the EPU/organising a private one was more stressful than the idea of carrying on in blissful ignorance. I've still got another couple of weeks till my 12 week scan, so am still blissfully ignorant of whether everything's OK or not. I kind of figure if it's not then it wouldn't've been any easier if I'd known earlier.

But along with llama I think I'm in the minority round here, and there are no right and wrong answers, only the decision that feels right for you.

I very much get what you mean about not feeling excited - I'm finding the whole thing very surreal at the moment.

In other news, I'm pretty sure the non-drinking was correctly clocked this weekend. I think the person concerned has the sense not to say anything to anyone (i.e. my MiL) but who knows. I don't like this not being entirely in control of information!

Thanks ladies I am going to call the consultant this week but my last pregnancy I had two great scans then it still ended badly. I kinda feel lets do it differently this time and see what happens.

We are currently in the progress of being referred for ivf so I am going to let the referral proceed put I am praying this will be the baby I get to hold and the referral won't be needed.

I so hope you don't need that referral.

Thanks stick x

Hi fergie, congratulations!
I'm the opposite, panicked so much that I had 2 early scans but never wanted to go to them because I thought it would be bad news.
For me I wanted to know if something was wrong. Not that it would've helped!

Talking of which it's my private gender scan tomorrow.

Welcome Fergie and congratulations! I also went for the early scan option but not until over 9 weeks by which time the odds if everything was ok were better. For me it also made the difference between finding out before or after the Christmas holidays which I wanted to do in case anything was wrong.

Good luck for today Treacle, very exciting!

Good luck today treacle. Fergie welcome it's tough with early scans. I did this time and very early at 7wks (which it turns out would only have been 6+4 once they had dated me). My reasoning was simply that last time the pregnancy had ended at 6wks but I only started to mc at around 11, and I didn't want a repeat of that. But I had to remember that much could still happen after such an early scan and it all honesty it only brought me about a fortnight of calm!

Good luck today treacle!

Welcome fergie, I'm also due in December after a mmc last year. I'm going to have an early scan because if things are going wrong again I want to know as soon as possible to get the disappointment over with. That said, I don't think I'll be able to relax until after the 12 week scan (if that), even if everything looks ok earlier on, so it's probably a slight waste of time, but still something I feel I need to do.

Thank you all :)
It's not until 6.15 tonight so a long wait!

Congratulations fergie. I had a lot of scans in my first 13 weeks, and for me although i was terrified every time, it kept me from falling into a really negative frame of mind as it was also mmc's I had had. I would say I wouldn't go again until 8 weeks though so baby has the chance to grow first. Scans never get easier, I have my 20 week one this Friday and have started to get nervous again this morning!

We also had just started the ivf process, and had had a couple of initial appointments when I got my bfp. I have never done anything about coming off the list?!

Good luck treacle, how exciting.

Hi ladies.

18 weeks today and I feel like I'm just lurching from one anxiety to another.

I had a research scan on Friday which didn't go so well - all looked fine except the femurs were measuring so short they were well off the bottom of the centile chart. So they've referred me to Fetal Medicine and I'm waiting on a call for another scan. They did say that it's likely that their scanning equipment wasn't picking up correctly and it's not as high-spec as the diagnostic machines, but I'm terrified. At the time I still hadn't had my downs screening through, so I was in pieces, but that came on Saturday and it's 1 in 61,000 which is definitely a relief - I knew it wasn't going to be as low as DD (1 in 100,000) but I was pleasantly surprised regardless.

I spoke to some friends who are doctors and they were trying to explain that ultrasounds on long bones are really difficult because if the angle is off it'll look shorter than it really is thanks to using 2D imaging on a 3D object, and I understand what they mean but it doesn't make me feel much better.

To top it all off I'm supposed to be going to central London to help out a client on Thursday and I don't think I'm going to be in any fit state to do it, and I'm really scared about saying this to my boss.

Oh commander :(
I'm sure your friends are right, it is hard for them to see bones accurately on a scan. I know that doesn't make it less worrying for you.
Take reassurance in your downs coming back so low - mine was 1 in 4000.
I hope they get you a scan soon to put you mind at rest.

As for work, I'd just go and be honest with them. There's no point putting more stress on yourself.

Hello all, finally have the courage to join the group. Bfp 2weeks ago and 6weeks today. Have had 2 previous miscarriages- one at 6 weeks one at 6.2. Feel like this week is d day. Definitely have had Morning sickness this last week breasts a little tendor - all more prominent than the last 2. Terrified though- so scared that this pregnancy will do end badly.
So want a little one to join hubby and me for Christmas ??