We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #3

[Treaclepie19]

Another thread for the lovely ladies who are pregnant after miscarriage :)

stickchild no fixed plans of how I want this labour to go. I have a 5 yr old and his was a back to back fast labour 3cm to 10cm dilated in an hour and then he got stuck and had to be ejected by forceps so I know that anything could happen! I'm signed off for the birth centre and hoping for a water birth this time though (although have also been told by the midwife to also be prepared for a home birth as this delivery might be even quicker than last time!). I should write up a birth plan but as I've said it still hasn't sunk in that it is going to happen soon.

Please don't worry about age, I'm 39 and it hasn't once been mentioned by the midwives, I think it's seen as pretty normal now. At my last appointment the mw even asked if I was planning anymore!

Oh my days. My nausea has been returning over the last few days, with today being the worst day. Don't get me wrong it's nowhere near as bad as the first trimester, but yuck! What causes nausea so late on? I mean my placenta must be fully functioning by now. I'm 28 weeks tomorrow. Gah!

Hope you get your water birth Suzy - I managed an hour in the water last time before being evicted due to I can't remember what and it was bliss. I too had a back to back forceps delivery, but the opposite in terms of time - she took forever about it! Hope all goes well.

thesmallbear I'm in the same camp as stick. I have my private scan next week.
I'm doing well thank you purple the spotting stopped yesterday. I've been continuing with my acupuncture but have asked her not to do anything about the nausea as I find it reassuring!
It's interesting to see how many ladies posting here have a similar age gap between DCs. I'm really looking forward to being able to give #2 individual attention whilst DS is in school.

My DD is nearly 5 too. I'm hoping me and baby will be able to nap during the day while she's at school!

Thanks broody it is so worrying but I must put down the orange juice in order to get him awake poor thing. Small being sick again later ok really is a pain is it anything to do with growing uterus and pressure on stomach? I think I read that somewhere!

Tentative step in. After a shock IC BFP yesterday, a digi this morning has confirmed it...eek.

I MC on the 14/2, and am terrified!

Wow wee Mrs super fertile biscuit that's superb news, congratulations!

Congratulations TheBiscuitStrikesBack

Here's another stats update

Suzybean: 38, 1 DS age 5, MMC Feb 13, MC March 14. EDD 12th April 2015
Psmith: 1 MP, 1 MC, EDD April 23rd 2015
OneDayLikeThis2013: 27, no DCs, MMC June 2014, EDD 26 April 2015
Haily111: DC3, MC May 2014, EDD 5 May 2015
Mslad: 33, no DC, MMC June 2014, EDD 18 May 2015
ToriB34: 34, no DC, MMC in July 2014, EDD 29th May 2015
Longestlurkerever: 1DD, 2MC, 1MMC, EDD 30 May 2015
SunbathingCat: 35, no DCs, MMC in May 2014, EDD 13 June 2015
WrappedInABlankie: 1 DS, ectopic 3/14, EDD 22 June 2015
Phryn: 32, no DC, MC in Aug 14, EDD 6th June 2015
Thesmallbear: 33, no DC, 1 MMC in June 2014, EDD 2nd July 2015
Boozle: 1NMC, 2MMC, 1DD, EDD: 4th July 2015
sarahlou20: 35, no DC, 1 MMC, EDD 9th July 2015
ThePurplegiraffe: 36, 1DD, 1 MC in Sep 2014, EDD 11th July
Ibelieveinpink: 31, MC, MC, DD1, EDD 12 July 2015
Ignominious: DD, MMC in August, EDD 12th July 2015
Broodylicious: 36, 1 DD, 1 MC at 12 weeks on feb 27, EDD 20 July 2015
Thegirlwiththebrokensmile: 28, 1 DD age 2, 2 MC, 1MMC, EDD 23rd July 2015
Charlieis30: ttc #1 MC Feb 14 7.5w, MC Aug 14 9w (trisomy), EDD 26 Jul 15
Littlelady33: ttc #1, MMC March 13 and 14, EDD 25th July 2015
Happygojo: 28, no DC, MMC September 2014 (blighted ovum), EDD 10th August 2015
Daisysunshine: 23, no DC, TTC 14 months, 1MC Sept '14, EDD 10th August 2015
enviousllama: 33, 1DS (2y 5m), 1MMC (Nov '14), EDD 4th Sept 2015
CommanderShepard: 32, 1 DD via EMCS, 1 MC December 2014 (5 wks), EDD 14th September 2015
Treaclepie19: 24, 1 MC in May 2014 at 8+4, EDD 20th September 2015
worriedmum100: 39, 1 DS (nearly 4). 2 MCs around 6 w (June 2010 and Feb 2014), 1 MMC (July 2014 at 9 w). Also have endometriosis & Ashermans Syndrome. EDD 24 September 3015
SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit: 30, TOP at 14wks due to abnormalities, 1 DS, had cancer treatment, 2MC at 4-5weeks. EDD 29th October 2015
northdownmummy :40 ttc#2 1DD (2) 1MC Aug '14 10w EDD 29th October 2015
gr33dyeggs: 34: 1 DS (6), 2 MC 08 & 14. EDD of 4 November 2015.
Metalhead: 1 DD, 1 MMC in Feb '14, EDD 11 December '15.

Need updates

Ilovechops: 1MC,1MMC,1DD, EDD 24 March 2015

Thread Babies

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013, 5lb 11oz
BobaFetaCheese Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013, 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August 2013, Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz
Pentagon baby Elsie born 23 October 2013, 7lb 5oz
Bodicea baby James born 3 November 2013, 8lb
Ibelieveinpink baby Imogen born 14 November 2013, 7lb 4oz
BumpKitty baby Matilda born 18 Nov 2013, 8lb 2oz
Luckysocks13 baby Charlotte born 24 Nov 2013, 8lb
Jmf294 baby Alexander James born 25 Nov 2013, 7lb 4oz
Shellsocks baby Noah Stephen born 27 Nov 2013, 9lb 3.5oz
Gardenworm baby Wolfie born 1 December 2013
Janielovesluckysocks baby Leo Thomas born 4 Dec 2013, 7lb 5oz
Bootyluscious baby Sofia born 17 December 2013, 6lb 2oz
ChocolateTeabag: baby Joss born 18 December 2013, 7lb 7oz
Blackholes: Baby girl born 23 December 2013
WhatwillSantabring: Baby boy born 6 January 2014, 8lbs 7oz
pumpkinsweetie: Baby girl born 7 January 2014, 6lb 4 oz
Christinedaae - Baby girl Sawyer born 6th Feb 2014, 9lb11.5oz
MissMedusa: Baby Rhydian Thursday 27 Feb 2014, 1080g
TotalShock - Baby James born 25 February 2014, 8lb 1oz
Swangirl: Baby boy, 4 March 2014
SaggyOldClothPussCat: Lucy Elanor born 7 March 2014, 7lb
Pixielady83: Baby girl, 9 March 2014
GuffSmuggler: Baby boy, 3 March 2014
Fod: Baby Girl, 7 April 2014, 10lb 3
TeaAndANatter: Baby Henry born 18 April 2014, 7lb 15oz
Kjh5: Baby Logan born 19 April 2014, 3.3kg
CbeebiesIsMyLife: Baby boy born 2 May 2014
StarsInTheNightSky: baby Jasper, born early May 2014, 8lbs3
Tomkat: Baby Lolly born 16 May 2014
Bakingtins: Baby Faith born 23 May 2014, 5lb 3oz
Penguinita: Baby Elanor born 27th May 2014, 6lb 1oz
Emki: Baby Michael born 29th May 2014, 9lb 10oz
Pgchimp: Baby boy born 16th June 2014
Fishcake77: Baby boy Jack born 26th June 2014, 7lbs 14oz
Nerdy bird: baby girl born 1st July 2014
Keepingthefaith: baby girl born 2nd August 2014 10 weeks early 2.5lbs
MrsGiraffe12: baby girl born 1 Sept 2014
OneLittleToddleTerror (now TwoLittleTerrors smile): baby girl born 14th September 2014
Alb1: baby boy born 14 September 2014
fedupofrainydays: baby boy born 16 September 2014
Squizita: baby girl born 21 September 2014
HopefulHamster: baby Serena Lorelai, born 1 October 2014, 7lb3
Londonjen: Baby Eleanor born 6th October 2014
CorporeSarnie: baby boy born 26 October 2014
Cakebaker35: Baby William born prematurely at 27 weeks, 21st October - 29th October 2014, may he rest in peace
cheesecurry86: Baby Lewis James, born 6 am, 9lb 2, 16th November 2014
Gwlondon: baby Alexandra, born 2.40 kilos, 20th November 2014
Cuppachaplz: baby Percy born 6 December 2014, 5lb 4oz
Liesal: baby Alexander William, born 14 December 2014, 7lb 3oz
QuietTiger: baby girl born 18 December 2014
Seasides: baby Freya born 20 December 2014
TeaRex: baby boy born 20 December 2014, 7 lb 6 oz
Amicablemoomin: baby girl just before Christmas 2014
CallingAllEngels: baby boy born 9 January 2015, 7lb 15 oz
GailLondon: baby Oscar born 2 February 2015, 9lb 7 oz
Babytinks11: Baby Lacey-Rae born 13 February 2015, 7lb 15 oz
Blankfornames: baby Bobby born 21 February 2015, 8lbs 7 oz
Silverine: baby Patrick born 2 March 2015, 3.78 kg (8 lb 5 oz)
Tannyloo: baby Bertie born 7 March 2015, 8lb 15.5oz
HollyBen: baby boy Brodie 7 March 2015
Littlemissy12345: baby boy Samuel Luke, born 26 March 2015, 8 lb 11oz
Missmakesstuff: baby boy, born Good Friday 3 April 2015, 8 lb 15oz.
FloreneceandZebede: baby girl Niamh Alexandra, born Easter Sunday 5 April 2015, 9 lb

Lovely seeing so many thread babies, it really does give hope to us all.

Been a bit absent of late as been very busy in work, which has actually been quite good as feel things are starting to go at a speedier pace now rather than the drag of the first few months. I did end up giving in and bought a doppler despite having many reservations. The fear at first is horrible but I have since found the baby's hb and have started to relax a little and only say "if baby comes" rather than "when" 50% of the time now!

Got my 20 week scan next Friday and all being well I think I'll join the stats then. Trying to book a last holiday the two of us but early May is a rubbish time to try and find heat without travelling too far!!

Doing a quick skim back and wondered broody why your nct group made you feel crap? That doesn't sound like a nice group.

Wow top of the stats list. I will definitely write my birth plan today!!

Thank you all. I'm still in a state of shock.

It is fab seeing all the thread babies up there on the stats. I'm not going to put mine up for a couple of months (fingers legs crossed) x

Sorry about the x.... Just in that kind of place today

Congratulations biscuit! And don't worry - anything goes in this thread.

Lovely to see you cava - I know what you mean about it starting to go a bit quicker. The first trimester always feels like 40 weeks on its own. I haven't bought a doppler but I've ordered a blood pressure monitor as I'm really starting to freak out about that.

fifi I'm so pleased the spotting's stopped - it does seem to be very common to spot around the time you'd normally have a period, and I guess that's partly how some women don't know they're pregnant until they're giving birth

Had a horrible couple of nightmares last night about miscarrying so feeling a bit wibbly today. Silly, because I can feel Erwin shuffling about in there, but it's really put the wind up me. On the bright side, research scan tomorrow! Hurray! Hoping to find out if it's Erwin or Erwina as DD is insistent she's getting a sister...

Commander my nightmares are horrendous and so vivid - I think I'm a pretty sensible person but they can put me into a really weird mood all day!

I just want to post so I'm 'on this thread' if that's ok.

I had a mc (ERPC) last week and very frightened about the thougt of trying again so thought reading a few positive stories might help me.

Sorry, don't want to remind anyone of sadder times and wish you all well - I shall just hover and watch from a distance and hope that my next post will be due to a BFP !!!!

Thank you

Message for phryn, sorry to be a stalker! I lost track of mn for a while and I hadn't realised you got a bfp. Ive just realised we are due really close together (a few days in it). I really hope things are going well for you. Ive had a bit of a rough ride with health and family circumstances but we are coming through that now and on the homeward straight. Just wanted to wish you well in the remainder of your pregnancy.

MrsExtraOrdinary.

Thanks Tori I'll have a look for it - there are so many you can get lost in knowing what to look for !

Hi adventure - I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a horrible, lonely time so if our stories can help you that's fantastic. There are some lovely supportive threads on Mumsnet; they really got me through.

Trying again is really scary - from my perspective, I got lucky because we weren't actually intending to try again until I'd had a period, but Christmas cheer brought us a rather unexpected surprise! And I have to be honest - on one hand I was really pleased and on the other I was horrified because it felt a bit soon. The first trimester dragged, and dragged, and dragged, and it was terrifying because I felt like I was just waiting for everything to go wrong again. But I'm almost 18 weeks now and I'm starting to feel movement.

I think we'd all agree that being pregnant after any form of loss is very different to having sailed through before (or it being your first pregnancy) - on this series of threads are pages and pages of us getting upset about what I'm sure other people see as the most trivial worries but when you've been where we all have, it seems entirely logical and it can be a bit hurtful when others look askance at you and scans only reassure you for a short time. This is why this thread is a lovely place to hide in when you're feeling vulnerable. There's a common thread of anxiety in here, and I don't know whether that's circumstantial or anxious ladies are drawn here, but we all understand it. I certainly have an anxiety disorder and I feel like as I begin to relax a bit into the pregnancy my worries about getting pre-eclampsia again and birth trauma are starting to resurface (I have PTSD from DD's birth which is normally well under control but is being a bit noisy at present). I think that's just who I am.

So yes, feel free to lurk and post whenever you need to and I really, really hope you're on here with your own BFP before long

Adventure sorry for your loss and hope to see you here soon with your BFP, we all know what a throughly shitty time it is and hope you're taking care of yourself.
I'd also suggest you find the ttc after mc thread sorry I'm on a phone or would post you a link - lots of us 'graduated' from there and it's a great source of support.

Congratulations Biscuit hope you have a stress free pregnancy.

Hi adventure so sorry to hear of your loss. I really look forward to seeing you on here with your bfp. I think all the ladies going through pregnancy after an mc are very brave. It's so hard, especially the endless first trimester. this thread has been a great source of support and a place to vent all our fears. commander lovely post!

Third trimester is dragging here.......