The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

Fuck. Spoke too soon. Spotting.

guy don't panic (easier said than done-permission to slap) but spotting can be totally normal. You can ring 111, tell them you are pregnant and spotting and they should get you an emergency appointment today with a doctor possibly at one of your local walk ins/health centres. They have the power to refer you to epau. I have my fingers crossed that this is just normal spotting

I have also officially missed AF yesterday. I didnt poas for the first time this morning which is an achievement for this addict! although worrying what i might have missed

I too am loosely following sw guidelines on my own. Only like my last pg ive totally gone off salad. I think it could be the risk of listeria if its not washed again. I had a total freak out yesterday after finding out you shouldnt eat coleslaw because of potential listeria! However i think its very unlikely so im gunna try and just forget about that.

I had a little look at the november thread without stepping in and its already very busy. I for one wont be joining there yet, however i think in the next month or 2 i might try and join the proper preg after mc thread. But for now it doesnt feel real enough and im happy keeping my bum on here with just you lovely ladies!

Don't think there's any point. I'm 4 weeks- they won't be able to tell me anything. Just have to wait and see what happens.

guy - I don't know what to say. Fx its ok and eases up soon. I'll be thinking of you. Perhaps try gp tomorrow and they could do some serial hcg?

Guy if this is when your period is due it might be a little breakthrough bleed or some blood from implantation. Will have everything crossed for you x

Guy how are you? Thinking of you

Still a tiny bit of brown but it's hardly there and not getting heavier.
Very worried. Just did a digi and it says 2-3 so hormones are going up. But that's meaningless because they did that last time. It took my body weeks to realise that the pregnancy hadn't developed passed 7 weeks. Don't know what to think. Nothing I can do until I can have an early scan. Just hoping things will become clearer- either a quick loss or pregnancy feelings increase over next couple of weeks.
How am I going to get through this uncertainty? I didn't have anything like this with dd pregnancy so I can't help but summer it means it's going to end.

Oh guy I think once you've suffered a loss you never get past that worry and anxiety. We are so painfully aware of how precious it all is and that nothing truly gives us full security. It sounds like you had a tiny breakthrough bleed of old blood. Try to stay calm. Take a bath ..keep your fluids up and rest.

I'm digging out my hypnobirthing cds as I type to help me x

guy i understand how worried you must be its such a fragile time to start with. However i think it is highly likely this is a breakthrough bleed. Just try and rest, get in touch with your GP tomorrow and remain as calm as possible under the circumstances. I have everything crossed for you x

But what can the GP do?

Perhaps hcg tests over a few days to determine viability?

But what can the GP do?

Sorry, double post. I don't know. Might just see how it goes.

Guy how you doing?

Majorly cringe tmi: I think I smell? possibly a bit fishy. What do I do?! Is it likely to be an infection?

There's a chance chasing I'd see gp and ask for a high Vaginal swab. I may need one to ensure no infection from the off. Will find out tomorrow.

See I honestly can't work out if I do. My sense of smell seems to be v heightened the last 2 days (not something I remember with dd) I spent 5 solid minutes sniffing a blanket earlier with dh walking in with a face .. If I use my hand to 'pick up' some cm.. I smell fine... but then ill be sat down and think I can smell it.

Here's my quandary- I obviously don't want to leave anything that could cause problems. But the minute I report my pregnancy they'll want to scan me.. If I refuse them I'm pretty sure they'll refuse to scan me at the end of the month. .I planned to hold off telling gp/booking mw for another 2 weeks..

Chasing it might just be that your sense of smell has gone a bit wonky.

I don't really know how I am. Spotting seems to have stopped. I don't know what to think. I think I'll just see what happens in the next few days, of no major bleeding happens I'll do a digi next weekend. At least if hormone levels drop at all, I will have a definitive answer.
I didn't think this would happen. Although I was nervous, I didn't seriously believe this pregnancy wouldn't work out. I thought it probably would. Now I just don't know. I can't imagine that it is all fine.

Am also really worried about anyone putting anything up there at all.. another reason I wanted to wait for scan.. I might get away without needing an internal at 6+4 ..at least I did with dd.

Guy definitely push for hcg levels. I honestly honestly think this is it for you and you are going to get your baby this time. I know I'd be feeling the same as you though.

GP can test your hcg levels guy they can confirm if things are going well or not. It should give you a definite answer instead of worrying yourself when it could be nothing. I know you must be worried sick and i sincerely hope everything is going well. Please dont beat yourself up about this everything could still be going fine x

Hi ... can I join in?
My stats: Age 43, 2 dc aged 16 and 18, 2 mc - one at 6 weeks and a mmc at 11+5 last year.
I was a regular on the ttc after MC thread for about 7 or 8 months after my mc last year, but basically gave up obsessing and trying after I got to my due date without a BFP. We decided to just not use any contraception and see what happened. And nothing happened ... for a while.
Then on Friday I decided to POAS because I wanted to drink a shitload of wine and my period hadn't arrived, and there was a fainter than faint imaginary line on the test. After 10 minutes. When you are supposed to check after 5 minutes
Anyway, long story short, I tested again this morning and the line is definitely there. I haven't told dh. I'm not going to - yet. I am feeling a bit crampy this evening, have absolutely no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever and am absolutely convinced it is all going to go wrong again.
But hey - today I am pregnant. Never thought it would happen again. Not sure what I should be feeling right now. Mainly panic, at the thought of going through another mc. And I miss my Sunday evening glass of wine.
Aaargh.

Hi office congratulations on your bfp! Its a very scary fragile time right now isnt it. I hope we all get to hold our babies this time.

Office lady! Congrats and welcome. I'm not a drinker but can't stop thinking about a Malibu and coke. and an orgasm. Haven't had once since we last had sex 2 weeks ago because I'm too scared