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The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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Gr33dyeggs · 04/03/2015 19:27

So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far Wine

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 30/03/2015 18:57

Apparently look exactly how they should at this stage. I am totally overwhelmed. Fucking hell.

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Gr33dyeggs · 30/03/2015 18:58

Great on heartbeats. I guess 2 was a bit of a shock? Congrats guy.
We're here for hand holding.

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Barbiedoll79 · 30/03/2015 19:01

Fantastic news guy!!

How far along are your little bundles?

MsJupiter · 30/03/2015 19:02

Guy ShockGrinShockGrin amazing!!!

Amyyy27 · 30/03/2015 19:06

Aww i am over the moon for you!

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mrsthoree3009 · 30/03/2015 19:59

Omg two!! massive congratulations Guy!!!!!!!! Awwwww xx

fromwesttoeast · 30/03/2015 20:43

Brilliant twin news! Lots to think about with twins, but having twins is great. Grin

gennibugs · 30/03/2015 20:46

Omg guy I can't believe it!!! Amazing news!!! Grin Just wonderful.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 30/03/2015 20:56

No twins in the family at all. Maybe post miscarriage body fires out some extra eggs.
In some ways, it's difficult because now there is obviously a higher risk of a loss of either one or both, plus a whole range of other complications I haven't even considered. So I don't feel very reassured, it feels more like an 'if' still.
And that's not even considering the question of how we would cope with twins. We only planned to have two children. I found the newborn stage hard enough last time and that was just one. I don't have a car or a driving licence, I cycle everywhere. Can't fit 3 in my bike trailer. I refuse to give up work but passing for 3 in childcare will cost more than my salary.
No idea how we will cope. God. It's such a shock.

happygojo · 30/03/2015 21:00

guy I am not particularly religious but there is something truthful and comforting in the phrase 'God breeds them, God feeds them'. You will find ways to cope whatever happens, you have already found out how strong you can be when required. I don't have the answers for the practicalities but now is not the time to stress, you will work it out. Big love and big congratulations xxxx

MsJupiter · 30/03/2015 21:29

Guy yes it did occur to me that while it's brilliant news, in some ways it is going to cause you extra worry during the pregnancy. I think in terms of the family you'd planned I would try to put aside those concerns for now, as you have lots of time to work out the practicalities. I know that's easier said than done! But so far we have all just focused on the here and now, the 'today we are pregnant' so don't lose sight of that as I think it can be really helpful.

I saw one of my friends today who has twins, they are so lovely and so close. Their relationship has been lovely to watch develop over the last few years.

It must have been quite a shock! But a beautiful sight as well to see those hearts beating. I am so happy for you.

chasingtherainbow · 30/03/2015 21:47

OMGGGGGGGGG

amazing! Congratulations!

fromwesttoeast · 30/03/2015 21:58

You will have lots of practicalities to consider. First one will probably be an earlier than expected due date. They don't usually let them go to 40 weeks. Also you will probably need to start your maternity leave earlier, as the end stages of twin preg is harder than with one.
But you will work things out one way or another. My twins are teenagers now. Smile

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onefootinthebed · 30/03/2015 22:13

Guy that's amazing, how bloody fantastic for you and your family. How wonderful,have a hug.

I love reading your good news ladies it gives me hope.

chasingtherainbow · 30/03/2015 22:29

Amyy was your scan tonight too?

Amyyy27 · 31/03/2015 06:53

chasing mine is Saturday afternoon. Dreading it!

mrsthoree3009 · 31/03/2015 08:26

My scan is tomorrow morning. Fingers crossed I get some good news too!

onefootinthebed · 31/03/2015 09:09

I'm not sure what to do? I know I am only 5 wks but last week I told the fertility clinic I was pregnant and I thought the would be in touch by now, I rang the my doctor also. I'm just starting to worry as weeks 6-9 are the weeks that I misscarried.i don't want to wait till it happens I would rather know if it's viable or not(I know a horrid word) but last time they could tell at7 weeks because of the shape of sac. I also feel if I have a date for a scan I can then focus on having a countdown which I know will stop me worrying.

Do you think I am being ott, I can't make my mind up if I am or is it just because what I've been through.

onefootinthebed · 31/03/2015 09:10

Good luck Mrs.Threoo

Amyyy27 · 31/03/2015 09:38

onefoot i dont think its OTT at all. I would give them another call.

Good luck for tomorrow mrst!

I got all the way to work, parked up and kept vomiting (into bags thankfully!). Felt like death so i called in sick and have came home!! This is definitely the worst i have felt with MS :(

mrsthoree3009 · 31/03/2015 09:43

Onefoot I was the same feeling very anxious as iv lost 3 in 2yrs but they wouldnt give an early scan :( I know its a horrible feeling just wanting to know what is going on. I did an online referall for my booking in appt. So maybe see if your hospital can do that? Just get the ball rolling and hopefully they could offer you an early scan?

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onefootinthebed · 31/03/2015 11:01

Thanks after I posted I rang the doctors again and the Dr who has seen me through my miscarriages is off till tomorrow so I will call her then,I think she will refer me as she is sympathetic.

Sasha they are my only two symptoms aswell,I was just driving to work singing and thought on no I feel well then bloody started worrying.
I'm glad none of you think I'm being ott,but if I sit in this car typing any longer I'm gonna get motion sickness,bloody wind .