The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

Sasha I would be furious. Leaving fag buts around when you have a child? Even without a child that is disrespectful and lazy.

I had someone in my life similar to her. Never interested in me, would never ask how I was or anything but would talk constantly about themselves, but expect me to run round after them while not caring less what was going on in my life and never receiving anything in return. I cut them out of my life. Best decision ever for me.

Morning all.

Back from EPU. Had my scan and bean is measuring as roughly 6+2 but she said my dates of 6+6 could be right so not to worry, at this stage it's hard to say for sure. We saw a good strong heartbeat too, DH cried bless him. i was shaking with fear. She said for 6 weeks what she saw was the best possible we could expect for but that obviously until 12 weeks is still a risky time. As for the spotting - she thinks it's one of those things but to keep an eye. I feel reassured well until tomorrow when ill be back to worrying but still very nervous about the spotting.

They also gave me my booking in and 12 week scan dates which I'm amazed about as I was originally told I wouldnt hear until 11 weeks.

Sasha I also carry my toddler all the time (she's 2.5) and cycle about 50 miles a week. No choice- no car. Plus cycling keeps me same.

I am not eating well. My diet is usually really really good- loads of fruit and veg every day etc. At the moment, I am getting precisely 0 fruit and veg because I can't face anything but toast and Marmite and boiled eggs. Barely any nutrition at all. Feel guilty.

I am struggling today. So so exhausted. It's my day off work which means dd on my own all day. It's easier going to work.

Yey genni!

genni that's fantastic news! So happy for you :)

sasha I booked mine for 8 weeks when I was 4 weeks and actually now its only a week away it seems to have gone fairly quick (although I know it feels like its miles away!)

Guy I am eating very poorly too. Don't worry, baby will get all the nutrition it needs when you are feeling better and can stomach something more nutritious. I have also found out today bananas are good for sickness. It was on my pg app so I forced one down and feel much better! I have brought in boiled new potatoes to eat cold for lunch as they are also supposed to be good for sickness (albeit not very nutritious)

Hi ladies
Just wanted to drop in and make a comment on the food thing. Honestly, don't beat yourself up about what you're eating. First trimester was tough for me, I didn't vomit at all but just couldn't face food. Had no appetite at all. Subsisted on coconut water, toast with either marmite or raw tomatoes, and mandarins. I wasn't even getting 1000 calories per day. I felt crap, obviously it wasn't great for my own energy levels and I lost 5kgs but baby is perfectly fine, I'm now at 23 weeks and she's consistently measured slightly larger than size on LMP. 12 and 20week scans showed lovely wriggly baby (and I can confirm as she's wriggling round right now!). Just eat whatever you can whenever you can and don't worry too much about it!

Congrats on the good scan news! It's great to read good news!
I'm an oldie on here, I'm 42, (waves to Office Lady) and back when I had my eldest we didn't even get 12 week scans. First time the heartbeat was detected was at 16 week midwife appt when she got the Doppler out.
In 2002 I had a mc, started bleeding at 11 weeks, went to my prearranged booking in appt with the midwife and all she said about the bleeding was "please god it stops soon". No mention of a scan and I didn't know they were available so didn't ask. No 12 week scans were done then at that hospital either. Mc a few days later at home. So times have changed ladies!!!

I have had an awful night,my ds was up at 1am with high temp and crying for about 2hrs. I don't think I managed to get back to sleep.i now have an upset stomache and I feel like crap,I also have an ache in my left side.

Genie great news,congratulations.

Sasha what a nightmare your friend sounds. I'm also 4weeks I havn't got a scan date yet.

Charlie that's lovely to hear glad all is going well with your little girl :)

Thanks amyyy! It's such a relief after 2 mcs.

Hi everyone, I am just popping in to say it's goodbye from me, woke up last night with heavy bleeding and cramps so it looks like it's another early miscarriage. By my dates I would have been about 7 weeks but I strongly suspect that things stopped developing about 2 weeks ago. At least this time my body has recognised it, I really was dreading another mmc situation. Despite all this, I will probably keep trying for another year until I decide I really am too old (waves at fromwesttoeast).

Right now I am looking at the positives - I'll be able to have a glass of wine and I can start training for a marathon (one of my ambitions in life!).
Good luck everyone and I wish you all a happy and healthy pregnancy x

Office lady,so sorry this has happened, take care of yourself .

office So sorry this has happened again for you. Thinking of you and take care

Oh, sorry to hear that Office Lady. Pg over 40 feels so much more fragile, it's hard. Hopefully you will be pg again soon. I mc in the autumn, but conceived again after one cycle. There is a lovely thread for us "older" ladies over on the conception board, once you are feeling ready.

Oh officelady I am so sorry. That is just so utterly rubbish. So unfair. We are all here if you need hand holding or support.

officelady

I'm sorry office. It's so utterly shit.

Oh officelady. I'm so so sorry

I'm away until next weekend now and Internet will be erratic.

Take care of yourselves everyone. Thinking of you all.

Have a nice time chasing!

I'm gunna sound like such a tit as I should just be happy that as far as I'm aware everything is ok... but I am so worried about everything its dragging me down :( I just sneezed there and had an excruciating pain in my lower tummy.. cue 10 minutes surfing Dr Google sobbing sure I had sneezed myself into MC, only to find out about ligament pain still worrying though! I just want to hibernate until after labour assuming I get that far :( whinge whinge whinge, sorry

Have a nice time chasing. I'm the same Amyy.
I keep telling myself that if it's going to stick, it'll stick. If it's right, I can sneeze, pick up dd and climb Everest if I want to and it won't make any difference. And if it's not right, no amount of lying still and trying not to sneeze is going to make it. Whatever I conceived with my mc, it was never going to be a baby and I couldn't have done anything any differently that would have made it become one.
There's nothing we can do to make this either work or not work. Just wait and see and hope.

I keep trying to tell myself that Guy because you are totally right if this baby is meant to be then it will be.. if its not meant to be it isn't through anything I do. I would tell someone else that if they were worrying but I just can't take my own damn advice! I just wish I was at my scan now to find out either way!

We have just conceived twins (6w 3d Atm) off the back of an 8wk missed miscarriage. I am trying to get excited but because of the miscarriage I atupidly googled and am now petrified of vanishing twin syndrome! I now can't help but feel constantly sick and panicking that we will lose one or both these babies and now am feeling a little how you are. It's never going to be easy but I find it reassuring to know how many other people go through it and come out the other side and hopefully that can give us all a little reassurance x

Ps it's only been 2 days since we had he epau scan and got 2 more weeks to wait does it feel to anyone else like each day is a week?!? X