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The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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Gr33dyeggs · 04/03/2015 19:27

So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far Wine

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

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Amyyy27 · 25/03/2015 16:15

MsJ Sorry you didn't get very reassuring results today but pleased that today you have a healthy pregnancy. I hope they are out and that it fits in with dates. Will keep everything crossed everything progresses well for you Flowers

Guy Sorry for the backache. It is also a common pg symptom so try not to worry too much x

gennibugs · 25/03/2015 16:17

mrsj sorry it wasn't the outcome you wanted. i can understand all your fears though. Sad Have they arranged to see you again?

gennibugs · 25/03/2015 16:21

tori that is really interesting to read. Just shows how hard the first 12 weeks are for us all with all the uncertainty and how much in limbo we are.

Is anyone else tired? As in absolutely shattered type of tired? I'm actually struggling to stay awake at work and have no energy to do anything. I feel permanently like I'm jet lagged. I really wish I could take a few days to just sleep and rest at home.

MsJupiter · 25/03/2015 16:26

Thanks all. Tori that is really good to know and very heartening. Amyy I liked your link, good to see those odds reducing day by day.

I feel like I am being very ungrateful when Reverse has had such sad news, I am so happy to know the pregnancy is there but I think it's natural to be a bit less elated than if I hadn't had a mc. I am going to keep hoping and keep smiling. Thanks again everyone. Smile

Amyyy27 · 25/03/2015 16:38

MsJ Don't feel ungrateful that is what this thread is here for Flowers

Reverse thinking of you hope you are coping as well as can be Flowers

Tori that's very reassuring!

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 25/03/2015 17:08

I found that graph a few weeks ago too. The only thing is, I think those statistics must assume that on that day, everything is fine. For example at 7 weeks, you have x% chance of having a mc if on that day, a heartbeat is visible etc. Because none of us are being scanned every day, it is impossible to calculate.
At 9 weeks last time, my chance of mc wouldn't have been 2% because what I didn't know was that it had stopped developing weeks before. So it doesn't account for what you don't know.

Still nice to see the numbers going down though- especially if you feel confident that everything is fine.

MsJupiter · 25/03/2015 17:09

No scan now till 12 weeks as they were happy with things (which is good obviously). It's possible that the 12w scan will come in early as by LMP I would be 8w6d. So I'll have to wait and see and decide what to do if that's the case.

I've had a few 'afternoon naps' Blush in the last few days so I get the exhaustion Sasha and Genni. Just hits you like a brick.

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Gr33dyeggs · 25/03/2015 17:30

MsJ sorry you're not reassured. The mw I saw said thats why they don't offer them here because its rare you are re assured and if you are it doesn't last long. Fx time flies til the next.

Yep, I too am exhausted - i could have had a nap at the desk today! Plus I have the worst taste in my mouth that I can't shift.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 25/03/2015 19:56

chasing is it your scan tomorrow?

earlydaysnovember · 25/03/2015 20:17

Yes..

My body feels like it's tingling, or like a very low vibration but when in touch my skin I'm not.

I keep feeling my heart pounding if I so much as climb up the stairs. I keep taking huge gulps if air but feeling like I'm not getting my full capacity of air and in turn I'm yawning loads.

Is this anxiety? It's been happening since bfp but it's so bad tonight.

MsJupiter · 25/03/2015 20:26

Guy I agree about the mc % chart but it is definitely nice to know on a day when you have had a scan. However of course it's only reassuring up to a point and as we having been in the 2% I know it doesn't matter if the odds are with you, it can still happen.

I feel much more positive than earlier and it's mainly thanks to all of you. Even managed to look at the scan picture.

Earlydays are you chasing? I think I saw your other thread earlier. I hope you are doing ok.

MsJupiter · 25/03/2015 20:28

Sorry meant to say I think some of your symptoms are due to anxiety (which would be natural in the circumstances) but some of it is probably hormones/increased blood flow as I feel like this too. Very buzzy and slightly breathless.

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Gr33dyeggs · 25/03/2015 21:09

I'm very breathless. I do have mild asthma but I suffer if I skip my inhalers atm.

Not sure about the vibrations though.

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chasingtherainbow · 26/03/2015 06:04

Sorry I forgot to nc back. My redundancy situ is so identifiable I didn't want boss to spot and link back to these posts.

Would I be unreasonable to ask the sonographer to try for an external scan first?

Oh shit shit shit.

I'm terrified. Literally can't keep anything down, shaking scared.

Amyyy27 · 26/03/2015 06:26

Good luck chasing what time is your scan? Theres no harm in asking them so definitely do ask x

chasingtherainbow · 26/03/2015 06:33

Our epu is a ticketed thing. We'll drop dd at preschool and then head on over.. We might just make it for half if we are lucky, it runs till 11.30. We were waiting over an hour last time.

Amyyy27 · 26/03/2015 07:00

Ah ok well will be thinking of you, have everything crossed!

Romeolovesjuliet · 26/03/2015 07:17

Just checking in from the other thread (have been lurking a little to check how you're all getting on) to wish chasing all the best for your scan today. Also, my thoughts are with reverse.

gennibugs · 26/03/2015 07:34

Well I've woken up to very light bleeding/spotting. This is how my MC started last time so I guess it's happening again. I don't have any cramps but I guess they will come.

I don't really know what to do. I'm supposed to be having a scan at the EPU tomorrow so don't know whether to wait until tomorrow or see my gp today. My heart is in my throat and I cant think straight. I cannot go through this again, I really can't.

I feel absolutely sick with fear. Sorry to post such a miserable post but I haven't got anyone else to share what is happening (except for poor poor DH). I've emailed in sick to work, they are going to be furious but I cannot go to work and deal with people being rude and demanding all day long over such trivial things when I might be losing my baby again. If they want to disciplinary me - well fine, I really don't care at this point.

MsJupiter · 26/03/2015 07:40

Oh Genni I'm so sorry you've woken to this, it doesn't mean it will be the same as last time but I totally understand that it feels like that. I had bleeding in both previous pregnancies and one of them is a lovely 2 year old now. It could go either way but the waiting is so horrible.

I would see if the bleeding gets worse before contacting your GP, give it an hour or two (unless you need to call early to get an appt). If you have any backache or dizzy spells treat it more urgently in case of ectopic but for now I think all you can do is wait and see.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 07:45

oh genni, so sorry you have this worry. It might be fine. How many weeks are you now? I would try and get a scan today. My epu is always reluctant to scan but if you have a history of miscarriage and have any bleeding, they will. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
MsJ how are you feeling this morning? And how is your sister?
Best of luck chasing- thinking of you.
Reverse, how are you?

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 07:46

And genni don't worry about work. When you're pregnancy, it isn't sick leave, it is pregnancy related. Just don't think about it. Of course you can't go to work today.

MsJupiter · 26/03/2015 08:17

Thinking of you this morning chasing - hope all is well.

Keep us updated Genni. I'm thinking of you.

One thing I did find oddly reassuring in the scan was that they could see where the bleed was coming from. They said it was consistent with implantation (although I had a bleed on 1 March which I think was the actual implantation) and there was some more blood which would probably come out. I did have some more red blood last night and a bit of brown this morning, both times after a BM. So obviously the solution is not to poo for 8 months Blush

Hopefully you might get the same result Genni.

gennibugs · 26/03/2015 08:41

Thanks mrsj and guy for your kind words. I'm hoping really hard it's just one of those things and all is ok. It's still the same level as when I woke up this morning but hasn't stopped. I seem to have lost the few symptoms I had though which isn't good. I've booked a doctors appointment for 1030 - I know they can't do anything but thought it might help just to be able to talk to someone and try to beg them to get me into the EPU today - unlikely I know. I think I'm about 6+5 (perhaps a little earlier) so I think that would be too late for an implantation bleed?

It just seems so like last time though so I'm finding it hard to stay positive.