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The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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Gr33dyeggs · 04/03/2015 19:27

So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far Wine

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

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bernard105 · 24/03/2015 19:16

Hi ladies
Please can I join?!
I'm 4 weeks 4 days, got my bfp last Tuesday at 11dpo. Have had 3mc and have no children Hmm
Last mc was last August at 10 weeks and am so so nervous! I have to try and be positive for my own sanity and my dh!! However I'm becoming more worried. Just joining as were in the same boat and that is so reassuring. I'm 41 so time isn't on my side and I can't go through another mc.
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MsJupiter · 24/03/2015 19:31

Hi Bernard, welcome and good luck to you. You have obviously been through an awful lot.

Guy there are so many pregnant women hauling toddlers around (myself included), I am sure it can't have an effect, I expect it was due to your ligaments softening. I was worried after lifting a double buggy last week though so I can understand why you are worrying.

I had some darker blood earlier when wiping after a BM so called my GP who said to come in, she checked BP and did an internal exam. There was no blood evident so hopefully it's just a bit of old blood causing this spotting. She's booked me for a scan tomorrow at 2.20 so I guess at least then I will know if this pregnancy is real or not. I keep thinking my symptoms are disappearing, hardly any nausea and just a bit of breast tenderness. So maybe it will be bad news. I really have no idea. Schrodinger's Womb.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 24/03/2015 19:45

Fingers tightly crossed for you MsJ.

Amyyy27 · 24/03/2015 19:54

Hello, welcome and congrats bernard! Fx this is your sticky bean :)

Oh MsJ hope you are ok :( good luck for the scan tomorrow. Will keep everythong crossed for you x

Amyyy27 · 24/03/2015 19:55

Oops everything **

GirlSailor · 24/03/2015 19:59

Guybrush lifting wont have done anything apart from to you as you are more likely to pull something when pg. That's probably what it was. I think I pulled something getting out of bed this morning. I'm putting it down to pregnancy, rather than extreme unfitness...Hmm

Best of luck MrsJ

bernard we are on the exact same day! Welcome!

MsJupiter · 24/03/2015 20:05

Feel free to keep every thong crossed too Amyy Grin

GirlSailor · 24/03/2015 20:25

Crossed thong sounds uncomfortable!

Amyyy27 · 24/03/2015 20:27

I shall keep all thongs crossed too no matter how uncomfortable Grin

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Gr33dyeggs · 24/03/2015 21:03

My hip/lower back area clicked as I got out of the car earlier too. I thought I would be in real trouble but it was absolutely fine. Odd.

Thanks for the replies to my cysts. Its just hard to not associate things with the miscarriage, especially due to having no confidence in the pregnancy anyway. I was cuddling a friends baby today and just couldn't imagine holding my own again.
Such negativity can't help.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 24/03/2015 21:12

I don't think it is necessarily negativity gr33dy. A baby is such an abstract concept. I remember not really feeling like I was going to have an actual baby with dd. I think I only realised when I heard her cry and held her.

chasingtherainbow · 24/03/2015 21:58

So today I lost my job and then narrowly missed being run off the road on the way home. Paramedics came and checked dd and i over but I felt really sore immediately after and had a full blown panic attack. Terrified about baby now.

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Gr33dyeggs · 24/03/2015 22:00

WTF? chasing I hope you're both as ok as you can be? ! And regarding the job - isn't that suspicious after just telling them about the pregnancy?

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MsJupiter · 24/03/2015 22:08

Chasing that's awful! I second what Gr33dy has said. I hope you're ok.

GirlSailor · 24/03/2015 22:16

Wow Chasing hope you are ok! I hope you are being looked after.

Amyyy27 · 25/03/2015 07:09

chasing hope you are both ok! What an awful day! Whats their excuse regarding the job? X

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 25/03/2015 07:16

Oh my goodness chasing! Hope you are both ok. Unlikely that there would be any pregnancy problems.
What happened at work?
Thinking of you today MsJ.
Reverse how are you doing love?

chasingtherainbow · 25/03/2015 07:27

MsJ how are you? And your sister?

Reverse I'm thinking of you also.

Dd and i are ok just really shaken. .she woke up crying this morning. I'm very nauseated this morning but I'm guessing stress is making it worse.

She's quitting her profession and so I'm redundant from July. A whole 3 months pay packet earlier than I'd intended to leave. I'm going to have to call my nanny insurance and work out where I stand. I just can't believe it. Well I can. This is exactly why I didn't tell them when I was mcing.

ReverseTheTrend · 25/03/2015 07:27

Goodness chasing fx everything gets sorted for you

Hospital rang last night, hcg levels mean not e topic. Won't repeat bloods as apparently it is the sac that produces it, and it is high as there are two empty sacs. I am the least woo person ever, but I knew it was twins

chasingtherainbow · 25/03/2015 07:28

Blimey reverse. I'm so sorry. I meant to say earlier but did they see fetal poles? Could your dates be way out? Xx

ReverseTheTrend · 25/03/2015 08:00

No poles, nothing

By the scan I could be 4 weeks, but got bpd 4 weeks ago so it just doesn't work however much I wish it did.

Does anyone know how this happens, does it mean eggs were never fertilized or that they just didn't grow? Last time I saw a baby with a hb at 7 weeks. So I understood my baby died, but I don't understand what this is

chasingtherainbow · 25/03/2015 08:03

I think I understand it that the egg is fertilised (else there'd be no sac etc) but for whatever reason the cells haven't continued to grow. I'm so sorry. It's so unbelievably shite. Is this your 2nd? Will they start tests?

happygojo · 25/03/2015 08:22

Hi Reverse I think this is what they call a blighted ovum, and is what I had, so I did a bit of research. It is where an egg is fertilised and implants but something is not right like on a chromosome level so the cells don't multiply, however no-one tells your body and it continues to grow the sac and release HCG. It is the most common kind of MC (little comfort I know), but is also very unlikely to happen again. I don't know about your other MC, but a blighted ovum just tends to be shitty luck. One of the things I struggle with is that there was no baby so I almost feel like I have nothing to mourn if that makes sense, but obviously the baby was real in my mind. I found it confusing and still do. However you feel is ok, be kind to yourself. I actually got very pissed off because I felt it had all been for nothing. Everyone processes in different ways though.

The MC association has some good info on blighted ovum.

Unless the doctors say otherwise there should be no reason why you can't try again as soon as you feel ready. I had a period first and a definite BFN but I fell pg again straight away.

Amyyy27 · 25/03/2015 08:29

Thinking of you reverse im so sorry you are having to go through this :( hope you are getting lots of support x

MsJ thinking of you also. Hope your scan today goes well x

chasing pleased you are both ok. Rubbish about the job, hope you are able to sort something out!