I am 7 weeks 2 days and have my early scan tomorrow (got pregnant through first time ICSI) I am so worried!

[anroga]

I am 7 weeks 2 days pregnant and have my first early scan tomorrow for a heartbeat (or beats they put two back!).

I have generally been feeling pregnant, cramps, very tired, boobs have got bigger and hurt plus a little bit of nausea when I wake and constant trips to the toilet but even with all these symptoms I am still worried about the scan tomorrow that there won't be anything there or no heartbeat.

Can anyone give me some guidance on what to expect at the scan tomorrow please (plus some sucess stories!) thanks x

[ToesAndFingersCrossed]

Hi Everyone!

I remember lots of you from the infertility threads, can I join in for some nervous waiting for the 7 week scan please? Mine is also on the 6th March.

I think the wet knickers is a pregnant thing, I only had 14 days worth of progesterone, so haven't taken any in a while! I've ended up just buying a massive multipack of little pads because it was getting annoying.

[anroga]

Hi Toes!

I remember you from the infertility threads, so, so pleased you got your BFP!

I started this thread because I was a nervous wreck before my 7 week scan plus I wanted to mention that I had got my BFP through ICSI.

It is all a terrible waiting game but I went for my 7 week scan and there was my little bean with a nice strong heartbeat. I felt so much better to see and hear our baby.

I am now waiting for my 10 week scan which is next Thursday, I am not as nervous as I was but I am constantly worried about miscarriage.

As a few of us have said I think it is made worse by how much we have had to go through to get here.

All I can advise which one of the girls did to me is keep yourself busy, DO NOT google and tick the days off on the calender until your scan date, good luck x

[whittlefish]

Hi toes at least your scan isn't too far away now. Like angora said just keep yourself busy and try not to think about it too much which I know is impossible. Just remember today you are pregnant and that's the most important thing

[ToesAndFingersCrossed]

Thanks for the support ladies :)

I'm keeping busy, have invited a friend over tomorrow and the inlaws on Thursday, so hoping Friday morning will turn up in no time!

[anroga]

Not long to wait Toes! :) x

[Verkey81]

Hey ladies, have been following but have been soo exhausted I haven't had the energy to type the last few days! I just want to sleep, sleep and keep sleeping! I'm starting to get nervous now as only a few days until my scan. I'm finding the pregnancy thing fine other than the nerves and its annoying me when we go out for dinner, can't have this, can't have that, but I know it will all be super worth it in the end! How is everyone else doing?

[whittlefish]

I must say I am struggling a bit at the moment everyone keeps asking me how I'm doing which is very sweet but I just want them to leave me alone, nothing has changed in two days. honestly I don't feel as excited as I should as I'm still petrified something will go wrong. Also I'm really missing having someone who can tell me/ help with what I should do and when. Sadly my mum passed away so don't have her, I have a sister who has a daughter and she is very good but doesn't live close by and her daughter is 10 so doesn't really remember now about being pregnant really. Just feel a bit lost. Sorry to have a bit of a whinge just a bit tired and hormonal today. Physically not feeling too bad tho

[Verkey81]

Oh whinge away! that's what we're here for :) You're around 16 weeks aren't you which I guess means you're just in a waiting and growing bubba stage, rather than scans and appointments? I guess like you say there's probably not much to say between each time you see people! People (other than us) really don't want to hear us give a proper answer when they ask 'how are you?' They just want to hear "yeah, really excited, can't wait, loving it, etc etc" rather than "petrified, can't sleep, have nightmares I'll MC, can't stop thinking this might be my last chance for a child etc etc" - might be different thoughts for you, but these are mine, so I smile, I tell them everything's great, so excited and then come on here, read or write, and feel reassured this is a normal feeling for me!

People expect us to be sooo happy that it worked that all the negative feelings and memories of infertility, just wash away and we're floating about on cloud nine for 9 months! It's not their fault, this is something you can never understand until you've been through it! My friend had ivf a few years ago and I think I probably thought the same, that she was on cloud nine, but now I know, as she'll tell me now that I understand more, that she was petrified the whole way through!

Sorry you don't feel you have someone to talk to, I have a few people around, but still don't feel able to say how scared I am to them and talk to them!! Whereabouts in the country are you (don't need to say exact, just north, south etc?), is there any local groups where you can meet up with anyone, or anyone else on here near you who might want to meet up for a cuppa?! If you're near me (south/east ish!), I'll happily meet up for a moan and a cuppa!

[Fabuluce]

Hello ladies can I join in? I'm currently 5w 4d following 3rd round icsi with all the immune drugs. 7 week scan on 17th march and a bit of a stress head about it all. Having constant lower abdo cramping and boobs fluctuating so think I'm still in the game but had a mmc at 8w 4d previously so need to get past that milestone before I even get remotely ok with everything.

Lovely to see a couple of the old Egg Buddies here

[Fabuluce]

Waves at Cups and Turq - congratulations ladies!!!

[ToesAndFingersCrossed]

oh whittlefish I totally feel your pain!

My mum keeps calling me and asking me how I'm feeling every day, and I keep saying I'm absolutely fine, and she days things like "oh you're being so brave, you don't have to pretend, I bet you are feeling really sick all the time", and I'm not. Not even a tiny vomit in my mouth when picking up the dog's poo or anything! My boobs are massive but that's it! I'm so terrified that my lack of symptoms is a bad thing :(

I must confess though, I have one friend who is being fantastic, she's currently pregnant with her second and really good at reassuring me that everything is normal. I think I'm so lucky to have that.

[anroga]

I hear you with feeling exhausted Verkey! Could sleep standing up at the moment!

Welcome Fabuluce great news you are 5w 4d! Know just how you feel waiting for that first scan but the cramping and boobs are just what I have had and all was well with out little bean on our 7 week scan.

The nurse confirmed the cramping was completely normal which was so reassuring as I was convinced it was bad news. It is where it is all growing and stretching.

Good luck for the 17th not too long to wait now x

[whittlefish]

verkey thank you for your lovely message and yes I'm thinking all the things you are. I keep thinking that when I get to - weeks I'll feel better but still worry so much. I think my fear is if anything does happy can I face more ivf and start again when we have come so far. Would be so much more reassuring if we know we could just hop back on it and get pregnant naturally.

Yeah I 16 weeks have a midwife tomorrow which should help and then my 20 weeks at end of March, seems like such a long gap in between appointments though.

I'm based on the south coast

[whittlefish]

toes thanks for your message too, sorry my app didn't update when I replied so just seen everyone's elses too. Sorry not with it. I didn't really have any symptoms until about 8 weeks apart from tiredness and sore boobs and was very smug then started to feel sick. That'll teah me but fingers crossed you will escape it

Welcome fabuluce congratulations on your BFP. Cramps really scare me too but as angora said I think are perfectly natural. I think unless they become very painful and are accompanied by bleeding all should be ok.

[Fabuluce]

Fingers crossed!! I'm in total agreement on the what if it fails, can I go back to ivf again thing. I'm 42 so this really was our last chance. DH did mention in a moment of dispair that we could maybe do one more round but I'm not sure I've got it in me.

[RubySlippers77]

Hi everyone - and hi anroga, we met over on the Infertility boards, lovely to hear that you're getting on so well!

Just been for our first scan today, we're expecting twins from our first round of ICSI all looks fine, we've now been discharged from our IVF clinic and I have a GP appointment next week.

Was feeling absolutely fine till about a week ago and now I feel dire; like a hangover without the fun bit beforehand! Tired, achey, nauseous, can't stand smells, can't stand being too hot, etc etc. I'm sure OH thinks I'm just moaning but a quick scan of MN shows I'm far from alone…..

[Fabuluce]

Wow Ruby congratulations! Was this your 7 week scan?

[whittlefish]

Welcome ruby and congratulations!

Just a quick update from me had my 16 week midwife yesterday and all went good she listened to the heartbeat which was strong and amazing and reassured me all was well, was a bit gutted DH wasn't there to hear it as the first time we have. Was going to ask if I could record it on the phone but thought she might think I was weird! Also she said because it's an ivf pregnancy that I get extra check ups, I know I have an extra consultant appointment but they also want to do extra growth scans at 28 and 34 weeks, which is lovely as get extra chances to see baby. I don't know if that's standard with all ivf pregnancies or depends on your nhs trust but thought I would let you ladies know, as it helped reassure me, so hopefully you will get the same.

Hope everyone is doing ok. toes thinking of you today, hope it goes well, keep us posted x

[ToesAndFingersCrossed]

Bad news from me I'm afraid. Weak heartbeat and embryo is half the size they want it to be. They want me back in a week for another look, but they basically just prepared me for the inevitable miscarriage.

Why can't it be easy for us?!

[anroga]

Hi Ruby

Great to hear from you and you have joined our thread! So, so happy for your with your BFP with twins! First time ICSI like me! Glad the scan went well yesterday and all was well.

I was expecting twins aswell but sadly one stopped growing which showed up at my 7 week scan but my other little bean had a nice strong heartbeat and was the right size so we were thrilled.

I have my next scan next Thursday, I will be 9 weeks tomorrow. I am the same as you wake up every morning with a hangover minus the pinot grigio and my sense of smell is ridiculous but I don't care just wake up every day still in disbelief plus I developed that hyperstimulation after transfer and was so ill with that nothing will be as bad!

So glad you have joined and we can keep in touch x

[anroga]

Sorry forgot to say so pleased your 16 week scan went well Whittle and good to know about the extra scans because of the IVF, bet you are feeling much more relaxed today

[Fabuluce]

Oh Toes I'm so sorry to hear this. It doesn't necessarily mean the end but I can totally understand that is how you are feeling and a week will feel like an age away. Am keeping everything crossed that your little embie is a fighter.

[whittlefish]

Oh toes I'm so sorry to hear that but as fabuluce says it's not over yet but totally understand how you must be feeling I would be the same. I really hope it's a strong little fighter, so much can change in a week you just never know x

[anroga]

Toes so sorry to read your post. I can only imagine how you are feeling at the moment. As Fabuluce says it doesn't necessarily mean the end your little embie could be a little fighter and in a weeks time the results could be completely different.

Its hard to stay positive but try to along with keeping yourself busy until that scan comes round.

[Verkey81]

Oh Toes, I'm so sorry to read that :( that's heartbreaking for you :( were off for our scan in a minute so we're still in blissful ignorance of whether or not it will work out. Hugs to you and have everything crossed for you.
Ruby congratulations, was that single embryo twins or 2 embryos?