The Berry-Copter!!! (Early 2015 edition)

[FeatherFeather11]

Here we go! Here's to a big Berrie clusterdiff from the other thread and many a safe and healthy baby Berrie arrival in 2015!

Oh Nolly, that is just dreadful news.
Hopefully we will see you here again soon.

So sorry to read your news nolly. Sending you all the love in the world right now. It's just so unfair. xxxx

So sorry Nolly, that really sucks, I hope you're back soon

Oh nolly what a crappy way to start the new year, so sorry, hugs x

nolly you poor thing, what sad news. Gutted for you & hoping you and your dh can support each other to get through this difficult time.

Thinking of you today nolly.

How is everyone else?

I'm not thinking about anything until my 12 week scan. I can't let myself.

Also thinking of you today nolly .

pip hope you're ok.

Happy 2015, everyone. Spent last night on the loo wondering if I was going into prem labour. Think it just turned out to be a dodgy stomach.

How are you all?

Feather. I'm fine, but I just can't let myself start thinking about it all until I've had that scan and the combined test results.
I think all the years of trying and IVF means that I try to cushion myself from failure by assuming the worst.

Understandable pip. Think most of us feel that way. Be kind to yourself though.

I'm ok thanks feather, still trying to manage the GD. I think we're going to get induced in 2 or 3 weeks... How crazy is that! Not long left at all. Starting to worry about the birth and things going wrong now. Need to get on with my hypnobirthing book I think! Also starting to feel really tired and uncomfortable. Really glad I'm on mat leave!

RP, I had the same thing with p massage. Think I caused a bit of a tear and started bleeding. Totally put me off and scared me about how I'm going to get a babies head out! Having a break from it, May or may not come back to it!

Babies clothes wise, I think layers are the way to go, I think they need to have one more layer than you do.

Nolly, still thinking of you.

I was exactly the same pip. Even after our scan at 14 weeks and good harmony results it took me a couple of months to get my head around it all and come to terms with the fact this might be happening. I echo feather, be kind to yourself.

Induced in 2-3 weeks win!! Can't believe it's all happening so soon. I'm beginning to worry about the birth a bit too, but then the other side of me is totally Warrior-woman-I-can-do-this-raaaah! Just keep remembering: the planet wouldn't be overpopulated if birth was that hideous!

Re P massage. You've both kinda put me off! I will give it a go soon, but I watched a video on YouTube (using a dummy wazinga, thank gawd!) and I was shocked at how, err, rough you have to be.

rp someone recently told me that a snow suit isn't ideal for car seats etc so better to go for layers as win says. I'm a bit worried about baby feather getting too hot/cold. As for the anti-blanket brigade...sheesh! All leaves me totally confused!

I think I watched that video feather! Perhaps why I was a bit too rough and tore a bit. I think I need to try and trust that my body will know what to do when the time is right.

Feather the star wrap I linked to earlier is supposed to be okay for car seats. The danger with car seats is something to do with puffy fabrics that 'deflate' during crashes so the star wrap is just made of woolly fleece and is supposed to be safe. That's what they claim, anyhow.

Ours arrived today and is so cute

Win I'm getting back in that saddle tonight. Determined! I am going to use olive oil and see how I go.

And...induced in 2-3 weeks! Hot damn. How did that happen??? I have just realised with a bang that I will be at term in exactly 10 days. !!!!

Pip that's v sensible, I think. Just take it one day at a time. You will get there. (Know that's easy for someone else to say, though.)

I'm feeling just the same Pip, can't really think about it in real terms, trying not to think about it at all

Booking appt today, couldn't put Mum off but I have warned her I will be talking frankly, was awake until 5am worrying. I was very optimistic with previous ones so this is a real downer

Best of luck lentil at your appt and no holding back.

Guys your perineal massage antics are making me wince!!

Rp loved your 'hot damn' comment!! Makes me think of that uptown funk song by Bruno Mars.

pip I think the day at a time approach is best & also stops you getting overwhelmed by it all. Last time after our 7 week scan I went mental doing lists of all the pre baby jobs I would need to do. Felt like a bit of an idiot when it all went wrong. Now I'm not even going near it.

Didn't see my brother over Christmas so we've just been out for a lovely pub lunch with him and family. He picked us up in his new car & drove us out on very twisty, country roads. I was in the back- def not good for nausea - that's meant to be a sick emoji not an envious one!! Bagsied the front seat for the way back!!

So it's the Friday of the last week of 2 week teacher hols- prospect of work looming & need to do prep work. Have done absolutely nothing over the past 2 weeks & it's been lush!! It's like that Sunday feeling you used to get as a kid before school starts on a Monday!! I can't remember if we have any other teacher berries on here now.

bushy from 7-17 weeks I drove everywhere, no matter what. After a memorable Sainsbury's trip with DH driving where I dry-retched the last mile at 15-second intervals

lentil this is sooooooo not my place to say so please excuse for me saying it, but: you can just tell your mum 'no, I don't want you there'. And I find it a little weird that she is insisting....? Remember this is about the health of you and your baby, and her wants come second.

I'm just saying as assuming your pregnancy is successful (it will be :) ) there is a lot more room for unwanted interference and whilst you don't want to be burning bridges at this stage, you also want some boundaries in place. I have had relatives offering to set out for the hospital the minute they hear I am in labour, a sister saying how cool it would be if I went into labour whilst she was visiting the week before I'm due as she 'could watch' , and DH's relatives booking a holiday cottage in the next village from us days after my due date so their children can meet the new baby.

All of that is way way ahead of where you're at now, I know, but these things can feel really stressy and you don't need any extra pressure on you.

Anyhow let us know how it goes :)

Win, can I ask you a few questions about the Harmony test?
We are thinking of having it, but it looks like it has to be done at 10 weeks and therefore before the nuchal fold? Is that when you had yours?
Did they also tell you the gender?

Bushy Another teacher Berry here - but I have a funny job so I don't have any prep to do for Monday. (I teach one - to - one)
Do you mind me asking what happened last time? Don't answer if it's too difficult.

Spare, we got 2 scans with harmony as well as the blood test. I think the first apt was at 11 weeks, a scan to check viability and then the blood test. Then we went back 2 weeks later for the results, and they did a mini anomaly scan then too, looking for markers of various things. We had it at the fetal medical centre in london. and I couldn't recommend them highly enough. Check out there website, they'll tell you more about timings. I think you can get it after the nuchal, but it's a 2 week wait for the results which I imagine would be totally stessful if you got a high risk nuchal result.

RP, I know, it just didn't seem worth it, but... I explained how I was feeling before appt and when we went in there she pretty much did all the talking, I'm booked in for a reassurance scan on Monday at 10 and being referred for counselling, so it turns out, I completely underestimated her and she definitely performs when she can, just not that great at listening to my whining!

All I need to do is pop in to work before on Monday, beginning to think a career switch to teaching sounds good, seems much more understanding about maternity

Bushy, like you I'm taking mental notes about the massage thing, might leave googling that for a while

I got that star wrap for a friend, she said she loves it

And, yeah, what's Harmony? Should I ask for it?

Evening All,

RP directed me here after seeing my other thread.

Firstly just wanted to send my love to Nolly, my heart sank for you when I saw your post.

I'm here after 3 years 4 months of ttc. We had reached top of the list for IUI but have managed a natural conception, god knows how but I'm not complaining. I have a 11 year old DS. Got my first BFP on New Years Day.

Doesn't feel real, although the nausea and headache I have today is making it unignorable. Just reading through and catching up on your stories, headache making it harder to take it all in.

Welcome Bair! The rest of us are on number 1 but after 3 years + I'm sure you qualify!! It will be great to have the perspective of someone who's been through it all before.

Win & Feather are either of you get random pains in your breasts, like shooting pains or nerve pain? I've had a couple of episodes over the last few days - really ouchy!

Also, are you still driving? Bump now about 0.5mm away from steering wheel and need to see if I can push sear back further and still reach pedals. I really don't want to give up driving as I'd relied on it for a bit of independence during mat leave :(

Thanks RP. I was 18 first time round so all I remember is panic and fear. I drove though, try leaning the seat back a bit without moving the base IYSWIM, might give more room without taking your feet away from the pedals. Have you tried moving the wheel itself?