Over 35 and pregnant? - "Mature" ladies walk this way...

[Juicylucythe2nd]

Thought I would start a little thread for us over here on the pregnancy side so we can support each other though this

Here are my stats to start us off
Me 39
DH 45
No Kiddies
7+3 weeks (second pg, first ended in missed mc in May)
Due date 29.05.06

trace2 and K1K2, so glad to see you both on this thread! I've been a bit sporadic on MN lately and missed your positive test announcements.

me 41
dh 58
ds 3
due december 15th but section about a week and a half earlier

Jabberwocky, your dh is almost same age as mine. How does he feel about being a Dad for the 2nd time. Mine is horrified as he thinks he is too old.

Not that I think he is btw. I think he is daft

I still feel the same inside as I always did,and I find it offensive for anyone to make out that anything that I feel in this pregnancy is because im 43 and not because im growing someone inside me.I cant say that I feel any tireder this time than when I was in my twenties or thirties.I have just been diagnosed as having pubic symphosis disorder at 31 weeks,and its bloody painful.Ive been assured that its not age related just one of those things.I dont feel mature, just alive,vibrant,incredibly sexy and so damn lucky to be doing this all over again.there are so many women out there who try and fail to do this at my age that I cant believe my luck.

Ha ha
I'm 36
Dp 36
2 children ds 12yrs dd 4yrs (well she is in one week)
17 weeks
Luckily my consultant is also the fertility gyn man and I'm his spring chicken

For ds he was pretty into the whole idea, but with the second one it took a little more convincing. It's a bit tiring running after a toddler, you know

He's a great dad, though, and loves every minute of it!

PS, just tell him if Michael Douglas can do it, so can he!

Good for you, Stingray

GGF, I was knackered (and very sick) in first trimetser, but energy picked up around 15/16 weeks and I'm running around after a 2.5 yr old. Sex drive wonderful from about 18 to 26 weeks, then waned again (same last pg, just my pattern I think).

Only got really tired again when I caught dd's virus, and started cleaning everything in sight in case she had threadworm (still not sure she ever did). That was at around 30 weeks.

I'm not convinced I'm more tired from being older than last time, I think I'm more tired because I can't sleep in, can't nap, and have a very active dd this time!

not pg but hope to be trying next spring.
Me 39 (just)
dp 39 (soon!)
ds1 14
dd 12
ds2 10
ds3 3
ds4 8 months

hello - can I join in?

Me - 39
DH - 38
DS1 - 4.9
DS2 - 3.2
EDD - 20/02/07

I feel too old for this pregnancy game...

Well I definitely feel more tired than last time when I was a mere youthful 37 (or was it 38?). Although now of course I have a very lively 3 year old and last time I only had my very laid back 10 year old (now nearly 14).

It is good to hear that people are getting it back at around 15 weeks - I was so disappointed that I didn't get a sudden energy rush at 12 weeks! Went shopping today, which normally I love and was worn out after 2 hours.....

Me too. Definitely more tired than at 37, and DS is at shool all day so I can't claim he wears me out. I've been sleep-walking for 14 weeks. Maybe next week I'll perk up.

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am definitely more tired this time round with no3 ubt in my defence I have a 4yo with sn and almost 2 yo to run after - where as last time non walking 2yo who was happy to just hang out and play quietly.

Me 38
DH 38
Ds 15 months

6+4. Due 7.06.07

Feel scarily fine. Not very much nausea, slightky tender breasts, no tireder than usual although am taking it pretty easy (social life ahs become a thing of the past and slept for 3 hrs yesterday afternoon whilst DH dook Ds out). Totally different to last time when felt ghastly. Bit nervous that this means all is not well............

Impossible not to worry, IME, but...every pg is different and all that: I felt fine first time, crap the second, at 6+4 and ms often doens't start till abotu 8 weeks...

Sounds like there's more of an energy level gap between 37 and 40 than between 43 and 45...makes sense, though imagine everyone gets that overall drop in energy at a different point. I seem to have had both my pgs after mine

Oh hello! I'm delighted for all you pregnant after mc people, motto- perseverence pays off!
I have never had a mc but last pregnancy I was really nervous cuz people close to me had mc and it really brought the horrible reality home.

I also know all about being desperately broody and the emotional rollercoaster of ttc!
But that is in my dim and distant past, now I am expecting no4 march 11th.
I will be 40 by then dh 46 ds 15, dd 3, ds2 22mnths.

Hi Greengirl [waving emoticon]

Hi Rosy [thanks for the tip off about this thread], Piffle and Eidvs from the March 07 thread

Me 43 but with the ovaries of a 31 year old
DH 64 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DS 6
D 3
EDD 03.03.07
Two beautiful stepdaughters in Oz, 23 and 24

Had a missed MC last year and also have cervical erosion, so in constant fear of what I might find on the toilet paper. This baby is moving loads though

Stingray - absolutely agree with you. Each time I get a tweak or twinge, people say "well you are PG and 43". Arrrggghh

Yaay! Hello Foxy!

Hi everyone

Hi All, first time on mumsnet.
My sister recommended after recent m/c. Have found alot of comfort/support from reading some of the threads. My details:
Me 40
DH 42
No Kids
m/c feb 06
currently 9+4 pg, but possibly missed miscarriage, went for early pg scan at 6 weeks and they couldn't find a heartbeat but gestation sac and yolk in place, called back for another at 8 weeks, found tiny fetus measuring 4.7mm and still no heartbeat. Hospital protocol insists on another scan this Wednesday, if no changes to size of fetus/heartbeat status then I will probably need to go in for D&C as nothing as yet has happened naturally. (no bleeding). Am obviously distraught as so desperately want a baby. D/H has been wonderful and work very supportive, but still the whole experience has been traumatic although am managing to stay positive(most of the time).
Would love to hear from anyone who has experienced the samething.

oh muckers, I'm so sorry to hear that - it's such a horrible thing to go through. I really, really hope this works out for you.

I had a missed miscarriage last year and then two very early ones, but am now 40 and pregnant, so I hope that's some small consolation. I know there are quite a few people on this thread who have had miscarraiges as well, but if you start your own thread in the miscarriages/bereavement topic too, you'll find an awful lot of support and advice. Not that there's too much you can do other than ride it out, allow yourself to be sad, and be as kind to yourself as possible.

Muckers - Hi, I'll be thinking of you on Wednesday and hoping your baby is hanging in there. I had a missed MC last year at 8 weeks. I bled lightly for two weeks then I had a scan which showed the baby was 6 weeks old, indicating it had died at 6 weeks. I let it come out naturally, but really sad.

Good luck.

Hi, Thanks fox and twocats for your responses, although very sad, it's reasurring to hear about other people's experiences. My heart goes out to all of you, My family have been very supportive, so in that respect, I've been very lucky.
The hospital have told me to expect the worst, so I'm not expecting miracles on Wednesday, would just like to get it sorted now, so we can move forward.
I'm not giving up yet and will try again soon, it amazes me though that health care professionals wont do anything about looking into the reasons until you'v been through the pain and heartache of 3 miscarriages. Take Care and thanks again. Muckers