The posifrickintivity continues... another shiny and new posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage

[charlieis30]

Here is to us all having uneventful and smooth pregnancies, with healthy and happy babies!

catbus so very sorry for your loss

So very sorry catbus - really hope that you have the support to get through this in whatever way works for you - even if that means saying no to prearranged stuff this Christmas - do what you need to do for you and your partner

Thanks all. I'm feeling surprisingly calm this morning. Going to leave thread now, if someone could please remove me from the stats?
I will be thinking of you all and wishing you all sticky and wonderful pregnancies
And a big Merry Christmas, too! X

Hello, sorry I have been missing from the thread lately. I was distracted by a health scare dh had but it's now resolved thank goodness.

So sorry to read your news cat. You sound very brave and I hope you manage to enjoy Christmas with your family. Hold them close.

On the opposite end of the scale it was so lovely to read of the new babies. Quiet's story of joy after so much pain brought a tear to my eye.

Welcome to the newbies but sorry to say goodbye to blue. Really hope to see you back here soon.

I am feeling quite a lot of movements now, which is nice. Also still having intermittent nausea though generally much better.

Am at mil's now for Christmas. Dm is just down the road. Can be a bit stressful but looking forward to spending Christmas with dd and feeling thankful for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy dh.

Feels slightly weird that this time last year I was pregnant too. Still a bit wistful for that alternative life of blissful ignorance I could have led but so grateful for the lovely women who have helped me through this difficult year. Here's to 2015 being totally different!

I wondered if any of you could advise on my unnecessary pre Christmas worry.. I had a good reassurance scan at 6-7 weeks and the consultant was really positive about everything, said it was a good strong heart beat etc.like a complete idiot I then googled it at some point and found that some women have been told that 115bpm at that stage is a bit low. Why on earth I should worry when my doctor who is a highly experienced consultant was happy with it I don't know, but I can't help it and I'm sure you will all understand...! I don't suppose any others have had similar fears?

Little I am sure it's fine. I am surprised they measured it at this stage. I have never had more than a "nice strong heartbeat" recorded till much later on and counted with a doppler rather than on a screen x

Thanks longest. I'm ten weeks now and still have super strong symptoms so I've really nothing to worry about, but I seemingly can't help myself!

So sorry to hear your news catbus

I wonder if anyone can help me feel better? After days of bleeding and cramps I had an early scan today at 8 weeks, and was told the baby was small and too small to detect a heartbeat. I was booked for another scan in two weeks. I now have horrible pain, heavy bleeding and so am pretty sure I am losing the baby. I'm 44 and it took me 18 months to get pregnant. I'm terrified this was my last chance and I'll never get pregnant again.

Has anyone else failed to accept the fact that they are pregnant after previous miscarriages? I've never gotten past 5 and a half weeks in previous two pregnancies and I'm really struggling as I'm so scared of every little twinge and convinced myself it will happen again. I just can't get past this in my head.

Oh abi, hope you're ok. Fx everything is ok.

disney, I'm struggling yes. I'm ten weeks tomorrow and am convinced that my stomach ache tonight and last night is me losing the baby. I've had no sickness today (bar first thing, when it was vile bile), after weeks of vomming at least three times a day. I'm going to worry over everything and anything I think, whether all continues or it doesn't. We know heartache and pain now, we've lost the naivety that comes with that precious bfp I just pray it all works out, not much else I can do xx

Thanks Sunbathing. How awful of your DH's aunt to even suggest that Some people are so thoughtless.

broody Hope it gets easier for you too. At this point I just want to get through to next week. Everyday is a struggle, every hour at this rate. I'm only just 4 weeks as found out very early. I miss how oblivious I was to this fear the first time around. It is just an utter sense of powerlessness.

abi I am sorry you had that news, and right before Christmas too. Is there a possibility your dates were wrong? Hand holding for you.

Disney I am 18 weeks now and feeling kicks but still less convinced there's really a baby than I was this time last year when I thought I was about 9 weeks but sadly the baby had already died.

Hope your christmases were good. I enjoyed seeing dd excited. She is tired and whiny today though and I am ready to go home. One more day here though. X

Abi so sorry you're going through this over Christmas and fx you can get some medical attention in the next few days. Broody I know what you mean - any few hours without sickness induces panic. If you and I are still on the same EDD as I remember, you're in the 11th week now and I think is really quite common for sickness to ease off around now, as bodies get used to the hormones. So I'm sure that there is nothing to worry about, but these first 12 weeks really are a nightmare

Hi everyone,
Just popping back to wish you all a merry (and sticky) Christmas xx

Sorry to read so much bad news, hugs to all having an awful Christmas and going through this again. We had a very long drawn out mc over the whole of December last year, and it's dreadful, especially trying to grit and grin through it for DCs when all you want to do us curl up and cry
Thinking if you all xx

Congratulations on the new babies too. Hoping to see you on the grad thread xx

Percy has finally passed his birthweight, and is doing well. Still going back and forth for blood tests, but he's so chilled put and doesn't mind at all
Thanks again for all of your support over the last few months. I couldn't have coped without you all xxxxx

abi hope you're ok?

Disney I'm over 19 weeks & still don't feel that it's real. Not feeling any kicks yet when everyone else seems to isn't helping, and the fear is kicking in big time for the 20 week scan, I'm expecting them to detect some awful problem. I keep wondering when I will relax a bit....

Hope you all had a lovely Christmads, xxx

No sickness again for me today (10+1). V v worried. I know for some women it comes and goes, but for me, sickness has been a constant in my dd pg and with this one so far. The baby I mc, I had not so much sickness but then it all stopped at around this time and I mc two weeks later. Hence worry

Broody I'm so sorry you're worried like this - when is your 12 week scan? It should be coming up in the next couple of weeks?

Hi all, new to the thread. My partner and I started trying this summer as i was 37 and didn't think we'd have much more time, and got pregnant straight away but miscarried at 10.5 weeks, which was so much more devastating emotionally than i thought it would be.

Got pregnant again and had a positive test in December, but started bleeding at 6 weeks and genuinely thought the worst. But we've just had a second perfect healthy scan at 7 weeks, and I think we're ready to say that we're having a baby! I even heard the heartbeat! Due August 15th 2015, and we're SO EXCITED.