well i didnt think i'd be posting this.

[misdee]

i am not pregnant. well i dont think i am. but you know, uits entirely possible to do thing with a VAD in place

which leaves me in a pickle. MAP or not? i have never used it. never had reason to.

i dont know if i entirly belive in it.

but now isnt the right time for an accident. i know that and dh knows that. but the overwhealming feeling by both of us, is to leave it and wait and see. but i dont know if i can. the fall out would be massive. we'd get a ticking off by the health professionals and our families.

and then there is the practicalities, we'd need a bigger car. we'd eventually have to move.

argh.
tell me to be sensible.

and do tesco pharmancy sell the MAP?

Didn't you start a thread yesterday about feeling broody?? Or at least post on it??

OMG misdee misdee misdee - you naughty girl you!

Half of me is thinking you should be sensible but hte other half of me thinks these things happen for a reason and let nature decide.

Oh God I don't know!

Am mightily impressed though!

(Were you not afraid it would do some damage - the excitement I mean???)

WoooHHooooo!!! Go that man!!!!!!! Ah I'm chuffed!

Don't take it See what happens Let fate decide!

I suppose sex is a strain on the guys heart? That may be why the VAD team wouldn't recommend it? But I bet nothing else makes him smile quite as much, eh?

Good girl!!

But can't offer any advice as 1st time I got pg I had only come off the pill 2 days before and 2nd time was one of Mr Branson's esteemed products which didn't do its job very well...both times was ecstatic though

so sometimes stuff happens for a reason IMO.

Bloody well done the pair of you

Can only say follow your hearts, no pun intended.

misdee I can't help saying don't do the MAP, I can see enormous regret later if you do, whatever the struggle.

And I wish everyone would stop telling you off, you're a married couple and I'm really pleased you're managing to enjoy what we all take for granted. You've gone without long enough not to have people ticking you off. And for Peter, who could begrudge him that bit of pleasure after what the poor sod has gone through? xxx

first instinct for me was - MAP. with a little more thought though - sod it. wait and see.

I say DON'T take it. I think you both seem to deep down even though its not the best situation/timing There never really is the best time to get preg though is there?

And I think most people on this thread have been saying good things about the whole having sex thing, not bad.!! Yeay for the sex!!

Sorry my post went funny!! I clicked the 'insert' button and lost some words.

I meant that you both seem to want the new baby deep down , hence the leave it and see .

Misdee... you've coped with so much already. I think whatever the next 9 months bring you, you'll cope admirably with that too. There's love enough there for he/she to be a very lucky baby either way

Wait and see, my love. You and Peter make lovely babies.

You'd regret it if - oh heck, don't make me finish this sentence. Just...don't have any cause to wonder what if if your worst case scenario happens, OK? x x x

oh god..
every part of me wants to say see what fate brings but I know you all have a lot on your plate but as you said worst case you are in same position or if had gone even worse then would you regret it???? Best case you get the call and as you say new life and new baby...I know sensibly and rationally MAP is probably the better option but ...arghhhh I dont know..sorry no advice.

omg and admiration that this is your thread ! Would love to tell you to take your chances but you've had so many ups and downs regarding dd3 and how much of her life dh has missed out on, yet she's probably kept you going. Sensible head says you don't need the added stress, or perhaps disappointment, but emotional hat ....

I'd imagine it did Peter a great deal of good tbh! Surely emotional wellbeing plays a great part in how he copes with everything else? Three cheers for managing it

If you both feel that you should leave it, then leave it. Blow being sensible.

Let the fates decide... g'wan!

well i am back.

i have taken it.

tbh, as much as i would've loved to have let fate decide, i felt i had to be sensible.

but i can help thinking of queen of quotes right now.

now i guess,i just wait till AF is due, and add a week.

btw we had to pay, peter was [shocked] at the price. but its cheaper than a baby.

glad you came to a decision that was right for you......

can i be really stupid and ask what VAD is, bet it is something really obvious, and ill think why didnt i know that!!!!

Awww. Hope that it works as expected then, misdee.

You can always ttc properly once life has become easier.

bi-vad pictured, peter has one of those not two

Did you buy any condoms too misdee? Just in case

no, but i have docs appointment on tuesday so will discuss options then.

well my reaction is to say, dont take it, if you are meant to fall pregnant you will, what will be will be.