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well i didnt think i'd be posting this.

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:28

i am not pregnant. well i dont think i am. but you know, uits entirely possible to do thing with a VAD in place

which leaves me in a pickle. MAP or not? i have never used it. never had reason to.

i dont know if i entirly belive in it.

but now isnt the right time for an accident. i know that and dh knows that. but the overwhealming feeling by both of us, is to leave it and wait and see. but i dont know if i can. the fall out would be massive. we'd get a ticking off by the health professionals and our families.

and then there is the practicalities, we'd need a bigger car. we'd eventually have to move.

argh.
tell me to be sensible.

and do tesco pharmancy sell the MAP?

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sahmtotwo · 08/10/2006 11:43

Round our way they charge £20 for the MAP. You need to take it within 72 hours. If you have a coil put in I think it is within 5 days (someone correct me if I'm wrong)

Good for you having a lovelife even with everything going on.

As for weather you do anything about it then I have to say you really have to way up the pro's and con's of how a lo will effect your lives as they are at the moment. Only you know for sure if you are strong enough to cope with a lo and an ill DH at the moment.

Thinking of you

Xales · 08/10/2006 11:44

Bet he went to bed whistling....................

and you too (-:

SoupDragon · 08/10/2006 11:45

So, everything else aside, do you want another child?

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:46

yes SD, but not convinced now is the right time. i kow our lives culd change dramactically overnight when that call comes in.

OMG can you imagine my MIL face.

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beetroot · 08/10/2006 11:47

your MIl face might push me in the direction of wiat and see!!!

SoupDragon · 08/10/2006 11:47

How much of a disaster would it be if you had another one now (or in 9 months)? Possible to cope with? Utterly impossible?

beetroot · 08/10/2006 11:47

infact thelook on everyones face...

'How did they manage that!!'

BATtymumma · 08/10/2006 11:48

Must be said, i am mightily impressed at the fact that you have managed to even GET into this position right now.

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:48

lol, that would be classic.

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BATtymumma · 08/10/2006 11:48

lol yeah MIL's face would make me forget to go to Tesco's actually

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:48

battymama as long as you ask quite how we got intio that position lol.

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giddy1 · 08/10/2006 11:49

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TheUnholyTrinity · 08/10/2006 11:49

i would be worried that you would regret taking the map as you so obviously want another child How are your pg's ? do you think you could cope with a newborn in 9 months whatever the situation may be by then

LadyTophamHatt · 08/10/2006 11:49

My head and heart are both screaming at the full volume "Noooo...don't take it , if you both don't want to...then don't"

but theres an teeny weeny little sensible thing inside saying Asda pharmacy do MAP so I assume tesco would too.

Surely, if peter is..errrr.... capable of...ummm...it, then why would the health professionals tell you off? You're a married couple, and these things happen.

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:51

i cope with dd3 as a newborn and dh in hospital for 90% of her first 18months. i juggled childcare, hospital etc with small blips. i am still b/f dd3, which shocks people immensely due to the situation we are in. I know we would be able to cope.

i am certain that sex with a large LVAD in palce isnt recommended by the VAD team.

oh goodness, i hope none of the team at harefield use this site

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alexsCURSEDMUMMY · 08/10/2006 11:52

maybe they would tell them off because peter needs lots of help right now, has carers coming in everyday, misdee has has lots of stress coping with it all and looking after their children who have some health problems and another baby would cause so much more stress!!!! which isn't good for you!?????
i hate having to be the voice of reason.

LadyTophamHatt · 08/10/2006 11:52

and like giddy says....I'm just pleased you're getting some.
Bloody marvellous

BATtymumma · 08/10/2006 11:53

OFGS!

DONT take the bloody pill.

If we are going to be sensible then lets look at it like this, both you and Peter want another kiddy, your youngest is 2/3 isn't she? so by the time baby arrives she will be at school for at least some of the time.

Its probably some huge rigmoral to get errrmmmm you know, at it! so it probably isnt the sort of thing that happens every friday night....so this might be your only chance for a while

Go for it....let fate decide!

is it strange to feel excited for someone you dont actually know?

LadyTophamHatt · 08/10/2006 11:54

it might not be recommended misdee, but you've proven it's not impossible

alexsCURSEDMUMMY · 08/10/2006 11:54

feel all grumpy and curmudgeonly now. sorry

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misdee · 08/10/2006 11:55

i am going out now. will report back later.

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alexsCURSEDMUMMY · 08/10/2006 11:56

good luck

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 08/10/2006 11:58

DONT TAKE IT!!!

I know how much another baby means to you, and I think you need to let fate decide.

Good on you though girl!!!

SoupDragon · 08/10/2006 11:59

I don't want you to take it either... You want another one, both of you want to leave it and see and (to be completely morbid) who knows when you'll get another chance

Stuff the medical team and your MIL and everyone else - what can they do?

hulababy · 08/10/2006 12:00

Do what is right for you guys. That's all that is important.