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When did you announce?

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Emilyjane11 · 22/11/2014 17:33

Hi ladies,

I realise this is a lame question to ask as everyone is different but I am DYING to do a little cute facebook announcement about my pregnancy, I know that kind of thing isn't for everyone but I really love it.

I am only 8 weeks but pretty much all of our family know and most close friends so kinda just want to make it public knowledge now so people don't gossip.

Do you think its too soon?

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Only1scoop · 22/11/2014 17:36

I personally wouldn't but only from my personal experiences....

Probably best to wait until around 12 weeks plus ....although I'd wait a little later....

You say your close friends and relatives already know. I'd personally keep it secret a while longer just incase as you're so early.

Congratulations

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Emilyjane11 · 22/11/2014 17:41

Yeah I agree you have made me see sense. I will wait until my scan I think xx

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Foggymist · 22/11/2014 17:42

Have you had a scan? If not I'd definitely wait until after that at least.

We told family and close friends from 13-14 weeks onwards, still telling a few now at 18 weeks and there are some who won't know until about Christmas unless they hear it from others first. Won't be doing a facebook announcement.

So what if people gossip? Personally I'd prefer people having a natter to themselves than the whole world knowing at only 8 weeks.

Mrsgrumble · 22/11/2014 17:43

Congrats Emily, but definitely wait for your scan. Even though your close friends and family know I think it's better to wait.

The later you leave announcement, the quicker the time ill go for you.

Have a great pregnancy

Foggymist · 22/11/2014 17:45

So you haven't had a scan, jeebus wait until then so for definite. Hate to be blunt but I wanted to see that there was an actual heartbeat and something growing before we told a soul. Didn't want the hassle of possibly having to go back and tell them that something had gone wrong, and that was just family, the thoughts of having to post on facebook with bad news and put up with everybody knowing all my business is just rotten.

Hoggle246 · 22/11/2014 17:45

I agree, wait until your 12 week scan at least. Congratulations!

OhMjh · 22/11/2014 17:47

I told my mum, closest friends and boss ( nature of the job, had to) when I found out at around 8 weeks and then everyone else when I had a picture to wave in all their faces! It's personal choice, and actually, had something gone wrong, I'd have been glad a handful of people had known to help me through it.

Foggymist · 22/11/2014 17:49

OhMjH yes a handful is good to support you if needed, not all of your facebook.

RainyLion · 22/11/2014 17:53

definitely wait before you put anything on fb. We told a couple of people before the scan with dd and everything turned out fine. However during our second pregnancy we were less bothered about keeping it a secret and ended up telling quite a few people (we had several weddings and they all guessed) and I ended up having a missed miscarriage which wasnt detected until the scan. Having to then go and tell people we had lost the baby was the most painful thing ever. hopefully that's not going to happen to you but wait just in case!

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Emilyjane11 · 22/11/2014 18:11

Yeah I will do. Thanks xx

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BananaToast · 22/11/2014 20:11

We staggered who we told when. Immediate family when we found out, close friends after 12 week scan, work at about 14 weeks, and then wider friends/acquaintances are still finding out now at 18 weeks. We haven't done a big announcement, just told people as we see them (friends) or if it happens to come up in conversation (work colleagues/acquaintances).

I definitely wouldn't have done a Facebook announcement so early as I would hate to have to untell people I'm not all that close to later on should anything go wrong.

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Emilyjane11 · 22/11/2014 22:39

I only have friends that I see and socialise with on facebook, no randoms, but some are in different countries for 6 months etc and most people know that matter it's just I wanted to make sure everyone knew at once. I won't be doing an announcement until I have had my scan. I wear my heart on my sleeve and if anything were to happen which im praying doesnt obviously I really don't mind sharing my story with others as so many other people have been through it. Not that I'd do an announcement like that at all.
Im just thinking positive and got a little excited but I've been brought back down to earth now! My work know as I have been signed off due to bad sickness and an infection.

Anyway, thanks for your advice guys! I did ask for it! X

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wtkt33 · 22/11/2014 22:44

I'm 17 weeks and still only told close family !

Zahrah5 · 24/11/2014 09:53

I am 18 weeks, told parents at 9 weeks, work at 16 weeks, will not be telling anyone via FB.

dayspringjubilee · 24/11/2014 14:29

We told our parents and pastor right away, and one or two others before the scan. After the scan we contacted our close friends directly with the news (and lovely picture!). We didn't put up a FB announcement because we struggled with infertility and knew how heart-wrenching it can be when you see yet another couple announce a pregnancy. Not to say you shouldn't do it, but do be sensitive if you have friends who you think are struggling to conceive, and maybe contact them privately before they see it on a public forum. I had to temporarily unfollow several friends on FB because it was just so painful seeing their CONSTANT pregnancy updates.

croon979 · 24/11/2014 14:34

Congratulations Emily!

All being well, I am announcing tomrrow! I will be 12+2 and my scan is in the morning. It seems like it has been a very long time that I have had to keep it a seecret but I am glad that I have.

Bothofyou · 24/11/2014 18:09

Told people in person, as I saw them after 20 week scan. Told two close friends at 13 weeks.

Serafinaaa · 24/11/2014 19:04

Told close family at 14 weeks, boss at 16 weeks, friends and wider family at 20 weeks.

FreckleBee · 24/11/2014 22:26

Congratulations :) I think it's nice you are so keen to tell everyone important to you. It's good to get advice but everyone is different so you should do whats right for you.
I told everyone at just over 10 weeks because I was very unwell with hyperemesis and couldn't hide it at all, it was easier to put out a notification than answer a million questions as to what was wrong with me and I didn't want to keep lying.
I had an early scan due to the sickness (ended up being twins) so I suppose that made things a bit easier as it was confirmed.
It's hard to keep it to yourself wind your so happy and excited but use your time until the scan planning creative ways of telling people!

Toucanet · 25/11/2014 00:20

Congrats Emily! It is nice that you want to share it but as I think you've seen from responses already maybe worth holding back a bit just in case something does go wrong & you have to un-tell people. While you think might be ok doing that you just don't know how you might deal with it should the worst happen/find it easier maybe if some people never knew than to have to deal with everyones' sympathies. That said it may be nice if a handful know so could support you, instead of no-one.

As dayspring says another consideration perhaps is do you want to shove it in peoples' faces? Though a fb update does at least allow people who may be struggling with fertility/miscarriage to find out in private then prepare themselves for meeting (or avoiding) you & your bump, on fb or in person! (I unfollowed SIL as didn't want to see constant pg photos/updates after I'd mc'd. Still found it hurtful to see her bump profile photo popping up in that random selection of friends you see sometimes despite unfollowing her, hence would never make a pg/scan shot my profile or cover photo, only a status update).

(Personally found out losing my 1st at 11wks & my 2nd at 12 wks, after seeing it with a heartbeat a few weeks earlier - nothing's certain in pg - but you just have to enjoy it as best you can while bearing that in mind). Good luck!

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Emilyjane11 · 25/11/2014 07:45

Yeah im now in panic mode that everything isn't going to be okay so although i was keen to announce, that's before I got scared to death by reading replies and looking at things online. I knew things could go wrong but I really don't need this is be a bad experience I have two years of unrelated hell and I need this to be a a positive experience. But I won't know until 4 more weeks, which is awful.
Thanks for your advice and I will be waiting for my scan. I have about 50 friends on my facebook, no one I wouldn't tell and I wouldn't put anything as profile pic I just want to make sure my friends that are away or don't know yet know at the same time. Xx

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dayspringjubilee · 25/11/2014 09:20

Emily, I should have said congratulations :) Part of the reason we waited a while was because I had no symptoms and we couldn't believe it was really finally happening to us! Just sit back and enjoy this time when it's a precious little secret - it doesn't last as long as it feels, and it is lovely just to have your baby all to yourself. And get excited with the close people that you have already told. It's such a sweet time! Don't bother worrying as long as you have no negative symptoms, just enjoy fitting into your old clothes for a few more weeks ;)

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Emilyjane11 · 25/11/2014 10:08

Thank you I'll try! X

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Foggymist · 25/11/2014 10:39

I only have close friends and family on facebook too, about 70 people. But I'd prefer to tell as many in person or if I HAD to private messages, I just really dislike the big announcement on fb, it's so impersonal and just, I dunno, I don't like it.

Stop looking at things online, that'll do you no good. Yes things can go wrong, it's better to know that and just be wary and wait for a good point to tell everyone than to blindly go into a big fb announcement early on. While it's good to have support if something does go wrong it's not pleasant to have to correct people who don't know if you have gotten bad news and congratulate you anyway.

FreckleBee · 25/11/2014 12:28

I suppose the op was asking when people told not how they told. So whether we all like or dislike facebook announcements is irrelevant and we should try really hard not to let our own personal opinions take away from something someone else wants to do, unless of course they ask for that advice.

After telling close family and friends we made a lovely little video revealing we were pregnant using our shoes haha - it was a bit silly but we were excited and we had a laugh making it together. I don't think that is impersonal. But I appreciate that doing that is not for everyone!

Each to their own :)