Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Willow Hugs. I can only echo Meerka's comments, or maybe having a look at the websites on Hyperemesis. I do so feel for you, wanting to be a happy mum for the Lo's. It's not fair. but it'll all be a fading bad memoery for all of you. Time does pass, though on wings of lead.
waves to EmysMarie Meerka and Everyone.
xx

Tonight I'm just laying here stuck on the sofa feeling so sick I can't even get up to bed. I feel starved. I can't even remember what it feels like to be normal. It just feels so endless right now. I want to cry I just feel so down.

Okla huge congrats and well done for making it so far. I hope the HG has gone and your gorgeous little baby is a joy!!

I hadn't posted on this thread for so long it had fallen off my threads list! Feeling much better now and beginning to come off my medication.

I'm so sorry so many people are struggling.

willow I remember feeling just as bad about missing out and not being great with DD as I was at my worst during the summer hols. Please please be assured this won't be this bad for long, it's all temporary and as someone else said will be a fading memory for you all soon. You do need more support, not putting the shopping away is very poor of your OH. It really sucks being so dependant on others but again it's temporary. You need help next week, even if you have to organise it yourself. The best thing you can do while you are in the thick of the worst bit of this is to really lower your expectations. You need to take the pressure off because feeling like you are failing will make you feel worse. Big hugs. Just remember it's temporary, make it your new motto! x

Glitter sorry things are so bad. Do you think you need some different meds?

Can I pick your brains ladies? I'm down to one dose of promethazine a day now, which I take before bed. I am struggling in the evenings, but evenings have always been worst for me even on 3 doses a day. Just wondering what you guys think about whether I ought to take that one dose in the morning rather than at night? Just wondering if it's wearing off by evening time. Another sorry side effect of pregnancy for me is my absolute inability to make any decisions. About anything!

okla congrats!

willow can that be a shitty side effect of the medication? I'd be cross if that were my dh. Although we move in 9 days and nothing's been done. I keep getting people asking where I am with packing. .. nowhere. I've got nowhere. My main priority os trying not to die of dehydration at present.

My dsis took dc to London today
I'm sad I couldn't go, but so glad they got to have an adventure!

Maybe try lunch time in the beginning emsy ?

glitter I'm so sorry you're struggling.

very quickly huge congratulations okla such wonderful news. xx

Still need to catch up properly but my husband said I should post about this now.

I am sat on the sofa sobbing with happiness. I just woke up and had breakfast. It didn't stink. I wasn't worried with every mouthful I was going to throw up. I hugged my MIL yesterday. It didn't make me gag. The low level of nausea that you stop even noticing because it is just part of life has gone.

I was worried I wouldn't bond with Oklette but she is just the most precious and amazing little thing.

To those of you suffering so badly, I really want to give you hope! You will all get through this. And it is absolutely worth it xx

glitter im sorry you feel so awful. Is it worth trying a different drug?

emys i too would try at lunch first.

newshoes good luck with the house move: you are brave

I'm back to the docs tomorrow. I guess the diziness coukd be a side effect. So i guess the choice is vomiting or diziness. Hmmprh. Will see what the doc said as my sole aim this pregnancy is to not be hospitalised for dehydration.

aww cross posted oka - i remember that post birth bliss when i felt human again. Enjoy your baby moon.

Oklahoma I'm so happy for you and am smiling like a Cheshire Cat (though I'm mother hen). It was so nice of you to post to encourage others.
Glitterbug MUDDYFreckleWillow Fraggle and Everyone, that will be you.
I do feel for people who feel they're failing as mothers, but almost certainly, you aren't - by definition if you worry about failing as a mother, you're a conscientious one. LO's are resilient - they're a bit upset by Mummy being ill at the time, but forget about it soon from all I've heard on these threads. It isn't your fault you're stuck in bed or on the sofa.
ToAvoid That is very happy news.
Emysmarie Waves. When I get back form being away, now Oklette is in the world, I'll start to compile a due dates list.
Waves to elizabethsmum Meerka and everyone.
xx

Morning all. Today is a bad day. Bad days always follow days I pushed myself too hard. I can't move without feeling like I'm going to puke. Sorry to hear others are also feeling awful. willow can family help with childcare? My mother has been fantastic but can only pop down at weekends as she works so I know how you feel faced with a long week of trying to care for children when you can barely care for yourself.
I let dp have a lie in this morning as he worked overtime yesterday straight after a night shift. So was up at 6 with dd. Spent two hours lying on sofa or puking in loo and when I eventually crawled upstairs to wake him up so he could take over it took an hour for him to get up. I basically had to shout at him to get up, get dd dressed and go away and leave me alone. Slightly miffed I had to spell it out for him and he didn't think perhaps I might need a rest after he had a lovely lie in. Men.
Oklahoma that's so lovely. Hope it's given everyone hope. X

What a lovely message Okla, it has given me hope that I will eventually have positive feelings about this baby! I'm currently preoccupied with thoughts about the baby being breech, I've been doing some reading and depending on what website I go on she has a good chance of turning, or little chance at all now I'm this far gone! Not very helpful. Luckily I'm seeing doctor at clinic in just over a week so I will go in with my list of questions.

Sorry for everyone suffering so badly, I'm still in the 'up' cycle following fluids so making the most of it.

Hope everyone has as good a day as possible xx

Felt relatively okay this morning...boy has that ship sailed. Sat on my bed shivering trying to drink some still lucazade and willing my stomach to stay calm an my headache to ease.

I had thurs and fri off work sick and am dreading feeling this way and dragging myself in tomorrow. May have to work from home.

Hugs to those suffering as well as trying to look after kids, etc. I raise my hat to you.

One question I did have...how do people cope with brushing their teeth? I'm really struggling with not heaving.

bagessiti they usually offer to try and turn baby manually.

trying i found experimenting with different toothpastes helped - there is only one i can use to brush with without heaving. Hope you get some relief. Be aware that headaches can be a sign of dehydration.

I despise brushing my teeth trying
I think they'll end up all bloody falling out.

Having a bad day emotionally today. I really snapped at my eldest (who has asd) For something I dont think he could help. It's not his fault that his mum is a Vomity useless bitch.

Dh just announced he's tired. .. I may Leave The Bastard.

trying I'm afraid that sometimes tooth cleaning, um, went by the wayside. it just wasn't possible.

Things to try:
Baby Toothpaste (plain or strawberry)
Mouthwash
Cleaning teeth in your good moments rather than waiting for morning or night.
toothpicks but they can make things worse too sometimes.

newshoes I'd be tempted to aim my next session directly at him. But you're not a vomitting useless bitch. Well you might be vomitting but not the other two. You're incubating a baby!

Teeth cleaning for me is usually a ten second affair. My dentist will probably have something to say about it next month but chances are I won't let her anywhere near them anyway. Teeth are the least of my problems.
newshoes last week dp thought he was having sympathy sickness. Funnily enough he didn't get much sympathy from me and lo and behold it disappeared!

muddy I think I will! Sound advice.

meerka it's like they have to take back the attention isn't it. .. sympathy sickness? Just no.

teeth brushing- horrible as it is I just couldn't do it sometimes so used mouthwash to rinse. apparently shouldn't brush teeth immediately after vomiting as it can seal acid into teeth should wait 20 mins or so- which on a bad day is a waste of time anyway!!

to those struggling with childcare/useless DH's , you have my sympathies- nightmare looking after children when you can't look after yourself- my DH was a lot better in my second pg tgan the first- resigned to it I think. tbh it was easier when I was in hospital as at least he had to get on with it- even though I had to spend most of my time, head under covers- texting people calling in child care favours. we told dd1 quite early that she was going to be a big sister- as she was getting upset by everything- then just had to put up with all the 'congratulations' from her nursery when I was 9 weeks pg as she had obviously told everyone immediately (that I was having 3 babies!)- but at least it made everyone aware and nursery were very accomodating over extra days etc. dh just had to be later for work taking her.

okla apart from the joy of having baby I remember the added joy of feeling 'well' for tge first time in months- makes you realise how ill you have been- enjoy! (and thanks for your lovely words of encouragement) xx

waves to everyone xx

newshoes the most selfish words ever uttered by my Dh during first labour were.... "I'm knackered' , quickly followed by "you should have just had that cesarean, it would have been quicker"
at which point I told him to go home (having been told I was not yet in labour) - only for me to have dd1 less than an hour later so he missed the birth!