Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Freckle that's totally normal. You are sick so why would you be feeling warm and fuzzy towards the parasite that is making you feel like that. Even now I'm looking forward to not being pregnant and not being sick but still haven't really bonded or accepted there is a baby coming.

A lot of people feel like that and it doesn't mean you won't love your baby or anything like that.

As for meeting the baby, you will. They are excellent parasites and you could half kill yourself from malnutrition and they would be fine. So you really don't need to worry about that aspect.

As for work, I have been off for. 7 months now and the guilt and feeling like I was failing people was horrendous until I accepted that I was ill and couldn't work and just gave up. Try not to be too hard on yourself about that.

Your job at the moment is to get through the day. Everything else will sort itself out in time. I know it doesn't feel like that right now but I promise it will get better and you will get through this.

Hi again everyone

Like Oklahoma says you just do your best to get through it. I'm not really thinking about the baby, it's more about surviving. Last time was even worse and we didn't buy a scrap of stuff until 38 weeks.

Now you all say it's kind of funny nobody noticed! I'm actually quite glad although it does make me wonder whether anybody would notice if I really needed help! Start mat leave next week and not too soon

Best wishes for lots of sleep to everyone tonight

Muddy I'm so glad you were signed off, it's the only thing. From anecdotal experience, women with this do improve a lot in the second tri at some point, sometime between weeks 15-20, later than in MS but for almmost everyone, even those who suffer throughout, there is a big improvement compared to the dreadful early days when they can be in and out of hospital. Things will get better. Forty-five minutes in the loo unnoticed does seem a bit amazing...
FreckleBee You were in quite a long time. Sorry you feel bad again already,that's dismal; what meds did they put you on?
Glitter and Ducky how are things?
Elletorrioto and Oklahoma I so agree about nobody should feel guilty about not bonding, that always comes, doesn't need to be forced, after birth. Might take a little longer than if you hadn't been ill, but all will be well. How can you be excited when feeling so terrible?
Oklahoma Special cyber pats, it is so good of you to encourage others when you've been suffering for so long.
ElleTorrito I'm still shocked about their not noticing you flaked out under a desk! It's like something from a spoof detective story,or something. It's almost better to have the sort of co-workers who never miss a thing.
Apologies to anyone rudely overlooked.
xx

Hi all, the scan went ok yesterday. Turns out I'm slightly further along than I thought and due in April not May. Baby wouldn't stop wriggling and the nurse had a fair bit of trouble getting the measurements let alone some decent photos for us. We were only supposed to get 3 pictures but she ended up giving us 8 which was nice of her. It was really exciting once I was actually there, I hadn't realised how much it would be moving around and stuff already, we saw its mouth opening and closing and it kicked it's little feet and rolled over and wriggled about (away from the sonogram thing). DP was sooo happy.

My ondansetron has run out again and I'm quite nervous about going to ask for more, they are SO reluctant to give it.

Hope everyone else is having a good day

Congratulations Red glad the scan went well. Hopefully that will help with the bonding.

And don't be nervous about asking for the drugs. You need them!!

Might drag dp along for support. He's better at insisting on things for me than I am..

Morning All. I had a good couple of days and now I feel hideous. I had my scan yesterday and have had my due date brought forward to April rather than May I have found out, however, the the subchorionic haematoma that I have is rather large. The larger the haematoma, the higher the risk of late loss, placental abruption, pre-term labour and stillbirth. Oh, the joy. I am not going through hyperemesis to end up without a baby. Not. A. Chance.

I have to go for a GTT at 24 weeks and growth scan plus consultant at 26 weeks.

The registrar expressed surprise that I still need ondansetron to keep anything down. She said "do you know it's the strongest drug to stop the sickness?" Errr, yes, because this is my 4th HG pregnancy so I probably know more about HG than you do!

Oh, and I told my mum last night that I'm pregnant. All she could say was "oh, no" and "I feel quite sick now".

Morning all.

You are all one day closer to the and have one day less of HG to endure!

Oklette is still showing all the signs of coming but not actually putting in an appearance.

Sending out drugs, lollies, gentle pats and bags of sympathy to everyone.

GettheRedOut It's lovely to see that scan, I'm so glad it cheered you up and it'll be sure to encorage others.
NoRoom Goodness, that's so worrying. Didn't they offer any sort of reassurance? What with the Registrar's comments - didn't she notice if was your fourth Hyperemesis pregnancy- it all seems very insensitive. Think, though, of Meerka's experience, though I don't know if you were with us back then - she had an infection of the uterus, chances horribly high of mic but all was fine, and I'm sure the statistics are hopefully far better for you. But what use are statistics by way of comfort, when you're worried about your baby? Hugs. I think you need some tlc from someone, for sure.
Oklahoma That is a lovely message of suport (looks greedily at cyber ice lollies, but wouldn't dream of taking one).
I hope people are managing with those wretched ketones...
xx

Goodeness, it's quiet on here, having been frenetic!
I hope everyone isn't in hospital, or otherwise, too ill to post...
xx

That was my concern Lucinda but I'm choosing to believe it's cause people are having ok days or have company so are too busy to post.

Hi all, sorry I've been awol for a couple of days. Not in hospital (yet!) I'm keeping enough down, mainly lucozade and plain crisps so my ketones aren't going above 2, but still getting sick alot in between. Now getting really bad pelvic pain too which is making it hard to walk much, feeling like a bit of a prisoner at the moment! I spoke to GP yesterday to get another prescription and he ordered me to get fluids if my ketones hit 3 and not let myself get in the same state as last time so I'm going to just see how I go over the weekend. Luckily my parents would like to have DS for a couple of days for half term so I don't have to worry about childcare.

32 weeks tomorrow.

I hope everyone else is feeling a bit better today, any developments yet Okla? You must be so fed up by now.

Nope same cramping and contractions but still no sign of Oklette.
Mumbles - patience is a virtue...

I'm still here just caught up with 4dc. DD1 and 2 are starting to suggest names

NoRoom That must be so sweet. What names do they like?
Oklahoma Poor old you, it is the pits. basgeti ludozade and plain crisps, my staples at one time, but I didn't suffer very long at all, unlike poor you.
Apologies to anyone rudely overlooked.
xx

Hi all, just checking in quickly, I am 26 weeks now, still on max dose of cyclizine and omeprazole, but finally came off the steroids a month or so ago. Nausea still unrelenting and still vomiting too but not too often so am finally putting on weight OK. Unfortunately my pelvis is a total disaster - even on crutches I can only walk a few metres once a day so I am basically totally housebound and my pelvis gave up so much earlier this time, I am really worried about recovery afterwards (which took long enough last time). Only plus is that I think not being able to move at all is (ironically) helping to keep the vomiting in check - I would definitely be throwing up a lot more often if I could do more. As it is I have noticed that I end up throwing up every Thursday morning because that's the morning our cleaning lady comes and I always try and do a bit of a tidy up before she arrives. Even just staggering around the flat picking a few things up sets me off every time!

Consultant last week gave me quite a serious talk about definitely not having anymore as no guarantee I would ever recover properly from a third pregnancy. Not really a surprise after my mammoth seven weeks almost continuously in hospital on massive steroid dose and we are definitely NOT planning any others but it's still sort of sad to have the option taken away.

Anyway, baby seems fine and is in fact positively hyperactive in there. I've got an extra scan in a couple of weeks as I am measuring a bit small but at the moment I'm not too worried - I think the baby must be getting decent oxygen etc or he wouldn't be kicking ALL THE TIME! In fact if he's a bit skinny I reckon he has only himself to blame, since he could definitely be conserving a bit more energy in there . . . DS was very lively in the womb too and is still not sleeping through the night at nearly 2 so it doesn't bode very well for the next couple of years . . .

Hope everyone else is hanging on in there, sorry I haven't read the thread properly. Have actually been working quite hard recently (from home, obviously! - in fact mostly from bed) so a bit out of touch.

Kali that pelvic pain sounds horrific.

Lucinda their main list includes Eric, Mark, Joseph, Benjamin, Grace, Helen, Elsa, Anna and Doc McStuffins

Kali how lovely to hear from you! It sounds like you are still suffering horribly but at least you are managing to stay out of hospital. I really hope things continue to improve for you although I guess there isn't much chance that your pelvis will. Hang on in there...

Kalidasa I've been thinking about you. Really sorry things are so bad still. No wonder the consultant would be concerned at a third pregnancy. Two is a nice number. Given how you suffered the first time, you are so brave going for it again.
Oklahoma waves sympaethetically.
NoRoom Elsa is my daughter's third name.
xx

Having a really hard night tonight. After the ondansetron ran out the other day I went downhill really quickly and spent all of thurs and fri vomiting every 20 mins. Nothing stayed down at all, I've basically not eaten since Wednesday. Got a new prescription Friday morning but then had to wait most of the day for it to be delivered to the pharmacy. Dp then went out and got it eventually but not until after a fair bit of unnecessary messing around (making DSD go with him in her Halloween costume then embarrassing her so much while they were out that he then had to bring her home from halfway there and then go all the way back himself, I'm reeeeally annoyed at him for being so stupid when he could see how badly I needed the medication!).
Have managed not to be sick most of today although the nausea is incredibly overwhelming and I'm gritting my teeth constantly. Still haven't managed any food, am feeling so so sick.

Also we told DSD about the baby last night and she didn't seem at all bothered, other than wanting the baby to be called Taylor after someone in Hanson (her mothers thing, nothing to do with me).

hi im very glad to find this thread! I have two dds and am 7 weeks pregnant - this is my second HG pregnancy and the worst by far . i have a wonderful gp who put me on cyclozone so im not vomiting but i am bed bound by the relentless nausea and utter inability to eat anything bar salt and vinger crisps and pink lady apples. My poor dh has had a massive shock at this is his first bio child and altho i tried to warn him he thought i was exaggerating. We have quite an old fashioned marriage and my poor MIL has had to teach DH how to work a washing machine and shop.

What i hate most about HG is how it robs you of pregnancy. And im a full time mum and i hate how it impacts of my dds. Added into this is that i am at high risk of miscarriage so until i hit 12 weeks i might be suffering and being a burden for nowt.

Hi all, just checking in. Haven't read all the posts. Sorry you're having a tough time Gettheredout hope now you've got the odanestron you'll improve again. Hi and welcome Willow, you'll find lots of lovely people on here who will have the best advice. I've had a tough few days, vomiting returned for some reason, suspect I was doing too much. My mother has DD today so I am taking the opportunity to do nothing... except I'll have to take the dog out at some point. Sigh. I look like hell thanks to appalling diet of crisps and no fresh air. Got my booking in appointment with the midwife next Thursday, looking forward to that in a marking the passage of time type of way. One step closer to the end of hg. Can't come soon enough, my guilt about dd grows every day, especially this being my favourite time of year, Halloween, bonfire night etc. So hoped to do all that with her this year but it doesn't seem like it's going to be. Hope everyone has a restful Sunday. X

WillowHouse Welcome, you are brave going for it a third time, with a DH clueless about housework, but things will get better, though it's so upsetting having to neglect the LO's, and he will learn as goes along. You mustn't feel guilty about not being able to do anything; it's a serious illness.
With any luck you'll be one of the majority who get a lot better in the second tri and young LO's soon forget a period of relative neglect.
GettheRedOut Oh dear about delay with meds and silliness of OH.
I know the temptation to grit the teeth so as not to vomit, but it does seem to lead to headaches, or anyway, did with me, though it's hard to know if that's not just dehydration building up.
xx