OH SH*T............................

[HRHQueenOfQuotes]

I'm 99.99% certain that there's a very faint positive line on the pg test I've just done. It is very faint, but compared to one I did the other day I'm sure there's a line there. And it is still a couple of day until AF is due.

Need to go to the chemist and get another one just to make absolute certain but I'm not feeling very optimistic that it's going to show a negative.

SHT SHT SH*T

I'd still have a glass of that wine if I were you!

oh gawd I think I'm going to cry - just called DH.......couldn't wait until 9.30 tonight - and he's talking about termination. Says we have to sort our relationship and finances out first

HRH, thinking of you, hope you are ok. please come and shout at us or just talk if it helps

oh hun, just saw your last post

oh crap. It may be his initial shock talking. Keep calm till you can speak to him in person.

Get your head round what you want to do before you talk to dh. Be sure that you can cope with whatever you chose.

Oh, darling

Don't do anything hasty.

Email me if it'll help. hunkermunker at gmail dot com

I meant re DH talking about termination, btw - I know you wanted another baby and I hope you can get DH to see how much too.

He's probably in shock.

he's just rung back and I feel awful. He cited a combination of finances, our relationship (which does need work - we've never really had time to 'have' a relationship as we fell pg with DS1 so quickly), and this issue.

QoQ,

Your DH's reaction was knee jerk. When I found out I was pg with DS2, DP was very shocked, as it was very unexpected. DP wasn't best pleased, but we managed to get through it. I am sure you will too.

Hope you manage to talk it through x

the only "positive" (if you'll excuse the pun) from the conversation we've just had is that he wouldn't rule out having a 3rd in the future - but just not now.

Tis the truth fio. Hope you sort stuff out QoQ. Sorry you're having a nightmare here.

it was a very 'calm' talk we had - lots of long silences though. But no getting upset, or angry, thing is I never thought he'd say that. I always thought he was so anti-abortion - like me

But what would a temination do to your relationship? Has he thought about that?

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Honey- at least he's being honest but it's absolutely not primarily his decision and this is v early days to decide anything anyway. There is much discussion and adjustment ahead and you need to chill a bit if possible. xxx

Oh god. I didn't say it earlier as I was hoping that might not happen to you, but dp wanted me to have a termination too. Spent weeks saying same things about relationship (crap at that point) had lost his mother earlier in the year etc, finances etc it was shit for a bit, but everyone else is right. It is a knee jerk reaction, he will be feeling desperate and will say anything to make it just 'go away'. My dp even said, 'it's fine, it's just a tablet these days'. He was panicking. But we got through it and now it's ok. Sending you huge cyber hugs, give him time. Poor you.

To find yourself pregnant after taking the MOP is a huge shock. It took days for it to sink in when it happened to me and much longer for DH. I don't think it's something you can discuss rationally when you've only just found out, Fio's right, you both need a bit of time.

I'm just scared about what will happen with "us" if I don't have one, and equally what will happen if I DO have one.

QoQ, what do you want to do, what is your gut reaction to being pg?

sorry haven't read your other thread re MAP

Oh QoQ, what a horrid situation. Talk about a rock and a hard place. I agree with those who've said give it a few days to sink in and for DH to get his head around it and think a little depper than 'Oh bloody hell'.

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