The Berry-Copter!!!

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The Berry thread - berries (over 30s) pregnant with first baby after trying 12+ months.

Support, advice and hand holding from the grads.

Don't forget to CLENCH!

Pip I count days obsessively, even now. When I was at your stage, I was thinking: right, x hours till sunset like some type of bloody vampire which means this day is almost over, then when I wake up tomorrow I'll be on 9+2 or whatever...... Argh!

Maybe best not to be like me.

Anyhow, the time WILL pass, just like all the 2ww did. You will get there. Courage!

Oh pip, no advice here either. Just sympathy. I thought about it constantly. At work I was always googling stats on my phone, couldn't concentrate on anything. Men don't get it, I think. It's not the same for them. They don't have the constant reminders. Big hugs. It will get here eventually. Xxx

Bushy, I think jumping is absolutely fine, but as the others say, if it makes you anxious I wouldn't bother. I didn't do much in the first tri, too anxious. Started yoga, Pilates, workout DVDs after that. Finding it a struggle now though

I am just so very frightened of losing it. I've got very few symptoms and I don't feel pg. Sticks are giving me a lovely strong line.
A colleague I work very closely with lost her IVF pregnancy at 8 weeks and I just worry that this will happen to me too.

If I lose this then that's it, game over. I can't make another one.
In the days leading up to testing I hadn't even entertained the idea that it was going to work. I had planned what I was going to do. I just don't have any way to cope with this. It is like the worst 2ww ever but with so much more at stake.

Hey ladies,

Pip the only advice I can give you is take one day at a time, the wait for my 6 week scan felt like forever, then the wait till the 12w scan felt like forever, it's natural to feel that way. I am praying it's a sticky one for you x

Hope all you preggers are doing well

Oh pip big hugs to you. Think you need to try and take deep breaths and look after yourself, meditation, nice baths, crap tv, whatever but I don't think constant googling/ testing etc will help. It's just going to keep it at the forefront of your mind and worries. If it's possible try to take some of the pressure of from yourself. Yes mmc after Ivf do happen- I'm a case in point, lost mine at about 8 weeks but in hindsight I had a big bleed before that & just think it was a weak fetus. The doctor said that Ivf is no more likely than natural to miscarry and that if you do there is a good reason and that miscarriages happen to 1 in 4, she just said it was bad luck ( doesn't help much I know!) if it's at all possible then lose yourself in work etc so that you are not always thinking about it.

Thanks for the exercise tips. I'm impressed rp, you did loads!! Think I will take up pregnancy yoga later on after scan. Just don't want to rock the boat. I did do yoga in a normal class last time and I am reticent to do it without a pregnancy yoga trained teacher so am steering clear, even though I love it.

My phone app said 6 weeks today so a little victory there. It's ticking away pip, rp's vampire countdown made me laugh!

Congratulations to sparechange, come and join us when you're ready!

Thanks Bunni!
What is copter etiquette? Can I claim my seat? Bfp this morning and still hasn't sunk in

Yay!! Welcome spare!! Congratulations! How're you feeling??

Hi winnoah
Feeling ok. A bit crampy which pip has reassured me are normal and to be expected and definitely nothing to do with the witch.
I've had a productive morning and booked a scan for 15 Dec so it is starting to feel real now. Arrgghh!

Dumb question. At what point do I need to go to my GP? Now, or after my scan with the clinic?

Hi Spare. Plenty of space in the 'copter of worry and wise berries.

Spare. I went to my GP last week and have made my first midwife appointment because I wanted to get the flu jab.
The clinic said not to really before my first scan as they do the official hand back after that.

Check with your GP practice if you even need to see the GP, I just booked an appointment with the midwife.

Hi Spare!! Congrats

There is no etiquette round these parts so do whatever you like!!

Are you an IVF bfp then? Don't know about the rules there but I waited till 6w and then rang my surgery and booked in with MW for 8w.

Hello spare woo hoo we do have a clusterdiff. I hope it gets even bigger with trill et al.

I finally sorted out ringing the fc today. They were really nice and congratulatory and have booked me in for a scan next week! Yay! The nurse did scare me slightly by saying that they wanted to get me in because of before and because I have issues with my tubes and they want to check it's all in the right place... Guess they were hinting at ectopic. The issue with my tubes on the lap and dye was that they were sluggish and was told they were quite wide??!! Anyway, not long to wait and hopefully by then I will be 7 weeks so they should get a good look. I so want it to be good news.

How are you feeling pip?

I told the nurse about tender breasts which she said was good. She asked was there any pain. I just said I have twinges. It's def like something is going on in there. I've also phoned doctors who will get back to me with what I have to do. I think you could ring spare & see what the deal is. It's a v weird and surreal conversation saying you're pregnant over the phone to a receptionist!

Oh eek Bushy what day next week? So exciting, though I know the big one will be the 12weeker. Everything xed.

The dino is extremely active tonight, thrashing about like an eel in there!

RP yes, and ivf bfp, from a frozen transfer that was touch and go. They'd defrosted 3 ahead of the transfer, intending to put one back and re freeze any others, but all three perished overnight before transfer day, so they quickly defrosted one and put that back instead. So quality was totall unknown but so far, so good!

I've made a GP appointment for 2 weeks, and they've said I'll have to do a urine sample.
And scan is booked for 7.5 weeks. They said I could have it any time after 6 weeks but the longer we left it, the more chance we had of hearing a heartbeat and seeing the sack

That's an early scan Bushy. Mine isn't until the 9th of December.

Arrrgh! Just wrote a big post and lost it on my stupid phone. And sheesh ladies, I turn my back for 24 hours and it's all go in here!

Yippee spare! Congratulations! Another Berrie in the copter! How are you feeling? First few days are a bit of a shock. So pleased for you. Hoping for lots more Berrie bfps - this is turning into a proper little clusterdiff!

pip can totally empathise with how you're feeling. It's an especially worrying time when you've been through what we have to finally get pregnant, and I was very anxious and panicky in the early stages. The best piece of advice I was given was from our very own rp (I think! Sorry if it was you win or bushy - my memory seems to be getting really hazy), and that was the mantra of: "today, I am pregnant". It sounds harsh, but the reality is that there is nothing you can do or say or think that will change the outcome - pregnancy is totally out of our control. All the fear and anxiety is understandable, but please try not to let it take over. Stay as stress free as possible and just breath and do the mantra - I know it helped me!

How is everyone else? win? bushy? lady? rp? Is it time to refresh The List?

I hear you on the wriggly baby, rp! Got kicked so hard in the belly button while sitting at my desk today, I leapt out of my seat and yelped. My colleagues think I've turned into a right (moody) nut-job.

Was thinking of barking today. Wondering how she's getting on. I know she was a member on the FB group. Does anyone know how she's doing these days?

Feather She's around on fb (and the besh on here)

feather Feeling ok. Still some crampy twinges and more tired than I've ever been (please tell me 9pm is not now my natural bedtime?) but otherwise nothing remarkable.
Does the symptom spotting only get worse from here then?
I have visions of my boob prodding escalating into stomach prodding to see if I'm nauseous and then deliberating taking a whiff of the bin to see if it makes me gag...

merk oh. I though when she left the berries she was leaving MN. Fair enough. Good to know she's alright.

spare I went through the first Tri absolutely obsessing over every little twinge and in hindsight, I think that was wrong of me. I stressed and freaked about everything and it was exhausting. As for sleep time: you wait - you'll be tucked up in bed by 8pm come week 9ish!

Spare. I am currently obsessing over my nipples. Are they darker, bigger, more sensitive, tingling........
They cramps have slowed down but they are so like AF cramp that it's unnerving.

Anyone having really vivid dreams- mine are like Steven Spielberg apocalyptic end of the world big budget movie stuff, v weird. Looking forward to trill's news, channelling positivity to her.

Those cramps must be unnerving pip but implanting and af are all the same area & don't they say early labour is like v strong period pain. Have a good day berries!

Very dizzy today. You know when you are pissed and the whole room is spinning? That.