New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

It's a turn up and wait clinic so depends how many people will be there. Think I will be ok on my own. Am feeling quite calm and can come straight home for a hug, or go and cry on my own somewhere. Would have to tell friends what is going on and am feeling quite private at the moment. Mum and sis are both on holiday and don't live near me anyway.

longest all the best to you today.

effin try google, or ask your midwife. If you have booked in with the GP/midwife for your pregnancy, you'll have a bounty pack. Inside there might be pamphlets for places that advertise 4D scans or bonding scans. (I have seen one for babybond for example). Most of them do early dating scans and anomaly scans too.

Longest - hope yours can goes well today. Here for a hand hold if you need it. I went to my early scans alone as I was sure I would cope better so I get were you are coming from with that. I have everything crossed for your that it's good news xx

longest hand holding, hope you get seen soon and that it is good news.

Hello too all the newbies! There have been a few of you in the last few days. Just be reassured what you are feeling are experiencing is totally normal, all of us "oldies" have been there :-)

To all the oldies I've been on here with from the start, how are we all doing today? Any signs of more thread babies ;-) xx

I don't come on here very often but I am always reading this thread - lots of hand holding and hugs for all of you going through a tough time at the mo
My EDD is tomorrow and nothing as yet. For all the newbies it took me 7 years to conceive, 0DC, 2MMC, clomid and IVF treatment then fell unexpectedly pregnant last September naturally. Even though I have had a very smooth pregnancy it has not stopped the worry and I still don't believe that I will be seeing my baby in the next few days (hopefully not weeks!)
Again lots of hand holding to you all, it does happen and as a lot of ladies on here unfortunately know it is a bloody hard road sometimes.
Hopefully my next post will be with birth date and name!

Well it was as I thought. A sac could be seen but for a much earlier pregnancy and no heartbeat, just like last time. They are refusing to call it a miscarriage till they have seen if it grows but I know my dates are not that wrong. Now wondering what on earth happens now? After three miscarriages in a row there must be a reason? What could it be? And why did it only manifest itself after dd? Is she my miracle baby and destined to be an only? Bit scared of facing up to things. Will get referred to RMC once the hospital admits I have miscarried so that is something. Plus gynaecologist at the scan is the first medical professional who has acknowledged my concerns about 42 day cycle so maybe I will get some answers there too.

Thanks all for your kindness over the last few weeks. Wishing you all well.

Longest I am so sorry that you got that news have been thinking off you think they do start investigations into mc after you have had 3. Wishing you all the best and really hope to see you back on this thread soon x

longest so sorry it wasn't good news. a very firm hand hold from me and
do they want to do a follow up scan in another week to confirm? what were your dates?
they should also do some investigations after 3 mcs to see if there's an underlying cause - lots of which can be treated.
but for now I would say just look after yourself and only think about the future when you feel ready too.

longest I'm so sorry to hear that. The RMC consultant is supposed to help find the cause of these recurrent miscarriages. I felt the same with DD too. I started to wonder if I was just so lucky to have DD without all these miscarriages. But take heart in stories like fishcake. It could happen to you still. Hopefully the consultant can help you find the answers you need, and then you can carry on with a successful pregnancy.

Take care.

I'm so sorry longest. I too have 42 day cycles - for me this was explained by a diagnosis of PCOS and resulting medication. I hope you are getting lots of RL support. Thinking of you...

thanks for your post fishcake - it keeps me going hearing about the thread babies, and the ladies who are much further on. I hope your baby comes soon!

Hi Longest. I'm so sorry your scan didn't go as you had hoped. I really hope there is a positive outcome for you with your bean. x

So sorry to hear your news longest No words can help, it is just so frustrating and heart breaking I hope you get all the love and support you need in RL

So sorry to hear that longest, big virtual hug for you I also need one, my brown discharge has now turned into blood I'm guessing it's the beginning of the end for me to ?? not sure how well I'm going to cope with the third.

Longest I am sending you lots of warm thoughts, hugs and positivity.

I hope the RMC referral will come fast and you'll get to the bottom of what is going on. Not knowing the reason for things/outcomes is often times the worst form of torture... try to remain positive and don't give up hope. (i know, easier said than done)

Lovely news, Quiet, sorry it has brought up mixed feelings for you, that is totally understandable. Are you speaking with a professional/counsellor? Perhaps it would help to process some of your thoughts/feelings.

Glad to know you've reported that woman Oh. How unprofessional, to say the least.

Lovely to hear good scan news/ heart beat news and baby news!

I really felt like I had 'spurts' of horomones in the early days, based on symptoms being worse/ not as bad as previous days. It's hard to relax about it but I really do believe it's not a continual/smooth & even process in terms of hormones/growth.

I am finding it hard to keep up! It doesn't help that my brain is like cotton wool and I can't remember what I've read by the time I've scrolled down to reply!! I asked dp the same question 3 times the other day as each time I couldn't remember asking him. Is this it now, will my brain be mush forever?!

Aggghhhhh, I wrote that and then remembered I put the oven on half an hour ago but yet to put any food in it! Help me!!

Welcome to new faces. Sorry there's so many with the dreaded spotting. It really is very normal in pg tho I know when confronted with it it doesn't feel like it.

Ahh, yey, Fishcake I look forward to your next post!

Longest I am so sorry you've had such shitty news . I really hope you can get some answers soon

Hugs Mrsgiblin though I hope it isn't the worst case scenario for you xx

Sending to those who are feeling down and worried today. Longest, so sorry about the news today.

So sorry to hear this Longest. :( With regards to your testing - Over half the women who do suffer 3 losses go on to have a child with no medical intervention required ... and for many of the others it can be as simple as aspirin, so there is definitely still hope.

longest I'm so so sorry to hear that thinking of you and very much hoping you get the answers you need xxx

Longest and MrsG - hugs to you both, so sorry to hear your news. I hope you both get some answers after this.

Oh no longest I'm so sorry for you as others have said hopefully RMC referral will happen quickly and provide answers
Sorry to hear your news as well mrsg

Oh arse - just had to confess to my boss that I'm pg. My own mother doesn't even know yet, FFS! I'm in the forces and although I'm not strictly speaking in a deployable role at the moment, there was an urgent trawl for manpower (deploying tomorrow) and I was the next nearest person. This also means that I've had to stitch up somebody else while everybody knows perfectly well that it should have been me going instead, and I therefore look like a twat. Oh well, at least if I do need a couple of days off for another MC then the boss is warned.

Anyone know if I need to tell my chiropractor when I see him tomorrow? Don't really want to, but since he'll be adjusting my lower back it might be sensible... Gah, there really is no way to keep this quiet for long, is there?

I just wanted to run in and shout I FEEL SICK ALL THE TIME! YEEEESSSSSS!!!

I am well aware this could all end in tears but at 5 weeks 4 days I am over the moon for symptoms. Even this sicky dizzy heartburny feeling....