New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Reported!

The OHtheDrama was just looking on lots of other pages and threads and seems like everyone in infertility got a visit. Nice.

Tossers, just preying on people at a vunrable time in their lives.

And I agree with cake g&t don't change your name, we can all have one in the new year :)
Also cake I've still got brown blood everyday, and my scan yesterday showed baby's okay but as for symptoms I'm tired with this pregnancy and feel sick and am sick very occasionally but with my dd I was throwing up multiple times a day upto 20 weeks, the complete opposite to you :) with my last pregnancy I had more symptoms than this time and it ended in the mmc so it's probably no help but it's true that every pregnancy is different and symptoms or lack of mean nothing x

quiettiger oh dear. I am sorry. I don't know what to say. I hope you get a moment to work through your feelings. Also a big hug from me!

butterfly86 congratulations! Enjoy!

ohthedrama what a horrible woman. What a judgment.

Welcome everyone who is new to the thread!

Thanks tea here's hoping you feel better soon. Symptoms or lack of are just another part of the gift that keeps on giving that is pregnancy after mmc/mc! X

Congratulation butterfly, thanks for the hope :) can't wait to post an announcement.

G&t don't do it!! I stupidly did another digi test at the weekend at 5 weeks and it still said 1-2 weeks made me panic.

I am also having brown cm nice to hear a couple of you have had that to. Trying not to worry to much as it's brown! Just hope it disappears ASAP and definitely hope it doesn't get worse x

Hello can I have a hand hold please? I have just started spotting today. It's pretty brown and light so far and the midwife says not to worry and spotting is normal and I know it can be fine but it has not been my experience (no bleeding at all with my healthy pregnancy) so I am deeply worried and expecting it to get worse overnight. They have said I can go and be scanned at the epu in the morning if I am still worried but have warned it might be a long wait.

Thank you butterfly for the lovely news and

Sorry, posted too soon. Meant to say hug to everyone going through a difficult time.

longest hand holding here x with this pregnancy I've had loads of bleeding, ranging from huge amounts of fresh red blood to some light brown spotting - I'm like a dulux colour chart! I had none at all with dd so like you I was so worried. To be honest if you can get a scan then do - there really is nothing much else that will set your mind at rest. Try to remember brown blood is old blood so in all likelihood your little bean is ok but I know from experience that I didn't believe it until I saw it on a scan and still don't some days xxx

longest there seem to be a lot if us on here with brown spotting. I had none at all with my dd, none with my mmc and with this pregnancy (successful so far at just over 12 weeks) I had a big red bleed and have had brown spotting everyday now for 3+ weeks near enough. You will be fine, deep breaths, if you can do something to relax do, watch a film or have a shower and just go to bed, the morning will be here quickly and you'll get your scan and I'm sure your bean will be fine, hand hold and big hugs x

Thanks both of you, you are very kind. XX

longest sending hugs and holding your hand. It's shit isn't it, I really hope you get some reassurance tomorrow . Try and relax tonight.

Thanks for all the condolences and good wishes everyone. It's been a hellish couple of days, things have progressed very quickly and rather brutally, but at least that means I didn't end up having to make any difficult decisions! I've had lots of support and I'm pretty sure the worst is over now so it's onwards and upwards.

Ohthedrama hope things work out well for you and please do report that midwife, such outrageous insensitivity should not go unchallenged.

Butterfly congratulations! And thanks for the hope, really needed to hear that

All the best to everyone. I'm signing off now, but I'll be back!

It certainly is oh. Please report that horrible midwife. Hope that campaign for better care does some good.

It certainly is oh. Please report that horrible midwife. Hope that campaign for better care does some good.

Hi Longest. This evening I started to have brown discharge also. My sister assured me that it's quite common. After our previous experiences, it's still very daunting though.
Here's to lots of hand holding..!

So sorry to hear so many of you are having brown blood :( but others on here are testament to it being ok. But I know how worrying it is when experienced mc or mcs before. I still check my knickers for blood, every time. As so fearful of it. So lots of hand holding here for all of you.

Congrats butterfly wonderful news!!! Here's to us all holding our healthy happy new borns

spotting can mean anything and nothing, little more than reading tea leaves sometimes it seems. hope you're all hanging in there. I'm looking for symptoms left right and centre, inspecting every tissue wipe and prodding my boobs every so often to check they still hurt. which of course they do because I'm poking them all the time!
I'm thinking of trying to get an early scan if I make it to 7 weeks. The epu doesn't do 'reassurance' scans, but hoping I can persuade my gp to refer me.

Ha ha Effin, I just have my boobs a good prod of reassurance, seconds before I read your mail! Not only is this pregnancy malarkey physically hard, it's emotionally draining also!
I have my booking visit at 10 weeks, but I've booked a private scan for this day two weeks when I hope to be 7+5.
Definitely worth the piece of mind.

Hello everyone. Thanks so much for your messages. The spotting hasn't got any worse yet but combined with the lack of symptoms I am fearing the worst and going in for a scan. Dh is taking the day off but it's a choice between taking him and dd with me or leaving him here with dd and I think I might leave him here so I can have a good cry if I want to. She was there when I found out about the mmc and that was hard. So I might need a bit more hand holding while I wait to be seen! Blankfornames sorry this is happening to you too. I hope your boobs were reassuring! Tmi but I keep needing a number two as well and am sure that's a bad sign as it happened in the very early stages. After I had my mc I went back through all the early pregnancy symptoms in reverse as my hormone levels dropped. Have also been too scared to take any more pregnancy tests recently as suspected they would be bad news. Now thinking that was me knowing deep down that it was over. Oh please let me be wrong!

longest I really hope it is all nothing for you x what time is your scan today? Hope it's an early one at least, the waiting when you're scared is horrible x

longest good luck today. nerve wracking I know but hopefully you'll soon have some more info.
how do you actually go about getting a scan privately? I've been nhs all my life so don't know the first thing about where to start.
boob watch update: right boob not so sore this morning...

longest is there anyone else you can go with? It's not a fun thing to do on your own. I went with my second mc on my own and wished DH was there. Any parents or siblings or good friends (off work) who could go with you? Totally get not taking dd with you.

Really hope it's all ok and keeping my fingers crossed for you xxxx

Ps I had the shits at the beginning of this preg and was not a bad sign.

effin google private scans in your area and some will come up. Baby bond is a company in most areas. Or your hospital might do them - mine do for £60. Same places as NHS ones but guess way of getting more cash! I had two private scans so far and 5 NHS with this preg. Mostly in the same ultrasound place (2 in EPU)