New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Oh god david you sound like me! I was so happy to hear a heartbeat at 7+2 and relaxed for about two days and now I've been googling ever since. I know all the statistics off by heart and I know the chances of miscarriage are now very slim but it doesn't stop me worrying.

I have my booking in appointment tommorow and then I have a private scan on Saturday when il be 10 weeks, convinced myself there is going to be something wrong but in trying to be logical and calm about it! I think all this worry is only natural xxx

I think we all need to make a pact to stay away from dr google and try and take it one day at a time :) just try to enjoy it as much as we can it's dead tough I know my next scan is exactly when we lost out last one and I am really stressing even though I know it's not healthy to stress maybe some times knowing too much is as bad as not knowing enough :) my friend said something that really stuck in my head to today " the past is history the future is a mystery but today is the present so we're meant to enjoy it" give me a nice injection of pma :)

silverine congrats on the great scan news!

To those who have done this before... How can u tell if ur loosing ur mucas plug? (Appologies for TMI in advance here) been fine all day n then jus had looooads of really stringy think clear discharge, and although my CM has increased a lot recently I havnt had any like this all pregnancy, I always thought the plug was bloody or atleast snotty coloured but dr google tells me it can be clear too, is that true or is dr google just screwing with me as usual?

Good luck with ur scan tomorrow mrsg

alb1 your plug normally is snotty with a tiny bit of blood in it or at least my was with DS I clearly remember freaking out when I lost my plug coz I saw blood seems silly now but it's why I remember it :)

Alb where are you timewise? My mucus became clear at 29 weeks, quite suddenly. It scared me a bit but the MW checked and said it was just mucus. If you're worried, why not ring the local MW helpline?

33+1 today, I'm not paranoid that he's not moving as much as normal either, but iv only finished work an hour ago after a very busy weekend so I'm most likely being paranoid on that one cos iv been running around like an idiot in work so it'd be hard to feel him moving really. Might wait n see if I loose any more over the next few hours before I call... I'm the first to recommend people phone their mw if concerned but when it comes to phoning then myself I'm terrible, so worried theyl think I'm being stupid. With my miscarriage I was bleeding really heavily n felt really ill so I phoned n they asked me to come in but by the time I got there the bleeding had (temporarily as it turned out) slowed down n the Docters response was 'your not even bleeding heavily, go home' I was there less than 15 mins and left feeling like the biggest idiot ever (I then went to work cos of it and the bleeding started up again an hour later n ended up almost passing out, needless to say I did not go back to the hospital tho) and I think it's put me off phoning them, silly I no, it's not even the same hospital now, but it's funny how things can stick with you... Anyway sorry for that little story there, going to go wake up the bump now with some lots of chocolate for reassurance

If your worried alb1 call your midwife they can monitor baby for you the number of times I went in to be monitored with DS I practically had a bed reserved :) sounds like the doc when you had your miscarriage was an arse :( chocolate is always good though hope your feeling better soon :)

alb I would count the kicks. Sit down on the sofa, drink a glass of ice cold something / eat some choc. See if you get 10 kicks. They saw look for 10 kicks in 2 hours. And kicks can be anything from a swoosh to a jab! Basically 10 movements. But I wouldn't do it if it's not a usual movent time.
Yes - my plug was pretty snot like and gross and huge first time round.
I too got scared earlier this preg with mucus though. But found it was after I had had sex. Have you dtd recently? It def wasn't sperm coming out so I got really scared and we have t dtd since!!

Fedup Do they still say count? I thought it just had to be some sustained movement (as the baby could be asleep) over an hour or two when lying on your left side. I do it often as it is much easier for me to feel than standing up!

Ali, mine was also a bit of bloody snot like a thick snail trail. How's your movements? I always found a good swig or two of coke and jelly beans got the bean moving about. With my second though I had that but then when I went into the hospital it was all there still how far are you?

Sorry I am stepping away from doctor google, I have a nice dose of pg poorly tummy! To contend with today... Oh..... The..... Joy, on the plus side 8 weeks tomorrow.

They used to say 10 clear movements a day but now it's really any clear changes in pattern of movement. But counting the kicks over a 2 hour period when they usually wriggle is a good way of telling that!
But basically if you are worried then go to get it checked, it's better to be over cautious work these things. I've had days when really busy so I don't feel / notice movement but then if I sit down and concentrate then he / she usually sets off again!

Ps. I might be wrong but it's an easier way than finding time to lie on your side for two hours a day - unless sleeping!!

Re: Movements , I'm just glad I've got my scan today as I've had reduced movements since I've been awake (about 4am due to scan anxiety - at 32 weeks you think I wouldn't have it lol). Why does pregnancy turn perfectly rational ladies into woman as mad as hatters?

Morning ladies, great scan news all around. We're on a roll!

Quick question, I had a private scan at 7+5 and all was good. I'm supposed to have my booking in visit in hospital when I'm 10 wks exactly. Even though it'll kill me to have to delay it, would I be better to wait till I'm 12wks as I heard there are some tests that cannot be done before 11 wks. Am I right in what I have heard or what would you girls advise? Thanks!

Is anyone else feeling the urge to just sit and cry, for no apparent reason, apparently I'm being highly emotional and sensitive at the minute, or hubs is just being an insensitive ass! Could sit down watch girlie movies and cry into my pillow feeling sorry for myself.

On the plus side mrsg I would like to say we are all unlikely to miss any problems if they were to arise as we are all hyper aware!

Knackered already and it's 7.45. Going to be a tough day!

blank what tests are you talking about? They do bloods at booking in and urinenand I don't know what you would want to wait for 12 weeks for? Also sometimes need to book inn to get a scan date for NT scan and combined test? Each area is different though.

I was late for work due to 1/2 hr lying on side drinking ice water until the little blighter wriggled.
The hilarious thing is she was up all night having found a particularly uncomfortable place to shake her ass (based on anatomy at last scan). Maybe I should book street dance classes for her young? She could be my meal ticket haha!

David, I keep getting mood swings. I'm 5+5 and I am veering from optimism to existential despair daily. It's quite a range of emotion; only just occurred to me yesterday (in a very down moment) it could be hormones. That was a reassuring thought.

Morning all.

Worrying myself this morning as feeling v crampy - could just be my tummy and nerves (and maybe i need the loo???) but still scaring me though.

Trying to keep calm - got a week off this week so me and DP are having nice day out so something to distract me but I know I'll be shit scared every single time I go to the loo

And breathe!!!!!

MrsG hope you have a good scan today. It's all very worrying isn't it?

blank I'm confused about your post too. In my trust, the booking in is done at 8 weeks and it's basically a form filling exercise. The midwife sent a request for the 12 week scan after all the forms are filled in at the 8 week appointment. The scan and the booking is two different things. Have you got a scan date booked for 12 weeks? Or will you be paying to do it privately?

I just came back from my whooping cough vaccine. Still have had sore arms yet, so fingers crossed I'll be able to sleep tonight. (The nurse warmed some find it so sore they can't sleep on that side)!

Blank - are you thinking of the nuchal fold tests ? At your booking appt they take blood then at 12 weeks, if you are happy to do so, they do the nuchal fold test at your scan then you have bloods taken afterwards to give you a combined result of likelihood for Down's syndrome. The bloods at 12 weeks and the bloods at booking in are for two separate things so you would still need to see your midwife to have your bloods at booking in.

Does that make sense ? Is that what you meant?

Hello all, I've just been trying to catch up as I've been offline for a while in an attempt to try and stop looking at dr google and stressing like mad. I had my 12 wk scan last week and all was well, have had to get my maternity clothes out as I'm massive already unlike when I had dd when I was months and months down the line before needing them! So I thought I'd finally been able to give up my title of Queen of Bleeds as I've not had anything now for 2 weeks (the longest gap since week 5) bit nope this morning at bang on 13 wks I've got more bleeding, oh joy. I really am just f*cked off with it now, feeling very why me so I need a fish slap please. It wasn't much blood and I've had much worse before plus was told at the scan to start feeling more confident, but blimey it's hard when faced with a knicker load of blood. Sorry for the woe is me post.

I've joined the Jan antenatal thread but feel more comfortable here really - they're all v nice and I think some of you are on it but I just can't get into the whole which pram are you buying, which crib etc thing. I'm not sure I'll be able to feel any of that excitement this time around. Anyone else feel like this or am I just being an utter misery? I think I know the answer really

To all those awaiting scans, lots of luck. And yes to making a pact to stay away from Dr google forever! X

cakebaker really lovely to hear you got a good 12 week scan. I know how hard it is to ignore the bleeding, but your little bean has survived much worse. And you know you are supposed to bleed isn't it? Also, chances of miscarriages decrease rapidly after a good 12 week scan. All you should be worrying now is 12 and 20 week scan results, ie if the baby will have x or y or z wrong Not miscarriages! So you definitely need a fish slap.

I haven't joined the Sept antenatal thread. I just didn't feel comfortable, and definitely not in the mood of pram and crib buying at 12 weeks. I didn't feel real until 20 weeks! I'm 30 weeks now and I bought some cheeky wipes a couple weeks ago, and a soft toy last week. I'm sure it's normal to feel a bit unsure for those of us who has problems with pregnancy.

Hubby has threatened to ban me from all internet use if I don't say away from dr google lol deffo feeling pregnant today lunch was delayed by an hour and a bit and I was all hot and shakey and feeling awful seems since the tablets stopped me being sick if I don't eat every coue of hours I am a mess all I can say is thank god for dry toast and ready salted crisps and no davidtennant your not alone DH said to me today I am unbearably moody if I'm not on the verge of tears I am ripping his head off :( the joys lol

Thank you onelittle, I needed that big haddock slap. I was told I 'may' bleed more but they just don't really know. And yes good to be reminded we have survived much worse! I just so want to be able to enjoy this a little but the bleeding makes that so hard, I'm always scared it's the start of something worse. It's probably not helped by me knowing two people who miscarried at 16 and 19 weeks respectively, just so grim.

But must keep chin up and never ever look at google when feeling low, just pop on here as that's where all the sensible people are!

Hope you're all enjoying some lovely sunshine today x