New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Wonderful news re scans everyone! So lovely to read of people slowly creeping closer to a baby at the end.

blue - I know, was almost expecting to be told they wouldn't listen, but my midwife said straight away to hop up - she said she might not find it straight away but she usually did in the end and not to worry if it wasn't there immediately. She also said in very rare occasions she couldn't find it she sends the lady straight up for a scan which usually reveals the baby hiding somewhere....she is an older midwife so maybe just very experienced and confident, but I have to say the care I have experienced so far has been amazing - cannot fault it - feel very lucky as I know that hasn't been everyone's experience.

Good news bonanza!!! Congratulations to all the good scans :) very happy for you all :)

Hi everyone hope I can join you all as I feel like i need my hand held and a good fish slap at the same time!

I am currently 5wks with #1 after a mmc in April at 9wks. I am trying to stay positive however the fear of it happening again is always present especially at my ripe old age of of 41. How did everyone survive these early weeks? Thinking maybe I have to stay off the internet!! I have an early scan at 7 weeks which I hope will be reassuring everything is ok. My symptoms are different this time...feeling much more nausea so fx this is a good sign.

Hi all - may I join you? I had a mc in February (blighted ovum). Got a faint BFP on Saturday, and another faint on Tuesday. Dates would put me at 5+5 but I think I conceived late in my cycle, so I am probably not quite that far. I'm hoping that is why the +ves are faint, and why I feel so symptomless, but the weak symptoms last time (compared to my DS pregnancy 2.5 years ago) are making me worry that all is not well this time either.
Flipping between wanting to see GP / get (private) reassurance scan, and also partly wanting to pretend it is not happening :(

Great scan news everyone! Hope we can all keep it up and that it rubs off on me for Friday!
Welcome blue and fergie!

Hello Fergie and TeaandH, nice to have some more people around the same stage as me, though obviously wish you didn't have to be here!

It's completely different after a mc isn't it, I don't think I'll every feel as laid back as I did when pg with dS this time round.

Amicable your midwife sounds lovely, hope the good care continues!

Effin I definitely think you should push for more tests. Print off info and take it to the GP, they may not even be aware of all the evidence for increased mc risk! I'd be prepared to make a nuisance of yourself and not take no for an answer. If you've had previous mc's how do they know they weren't related to thyroid? So surely you may have already reached your quota anyway? (Sorry I'm not sure how many losses you have already suffered).

blue this will be my 1st so it's hard when the only experience I have is a mmc. We just need to stay positive, are you getting a early scan? I am very fortunate that just before first pregnancy we had been referred to our local fertility clinic. The nurse has been so supportive and she is scanning me at 7 & 9 weeks before discharging me from the clinic.

I haven't arranged any booking in appointments, waiting till 1st scan, anyone else feel that way?

Welcome Tea & Fergie! Best way to stay sane Fergie is by baring all here. Amazing support on here, when secrets of pregnancies have to be kept in RL!
We are 8 wks tomorrow so told both sets of parents tonight. Between that & the scan..seems all very real now!
Lovely to read such positive scan stories! We're on a roll ladies!!

Welcome fergie & tea&h congratulations to you :) also any other new faces, I've only got my phone so it's a bit hard to keep up with the thread some days chatter boxes that we are :)
tea&h I had loads of sickness etc with my dd's pregnancy, a lot less sickness with my mmc and this time round I have even less, and last scan at 12 weeks showed bean was a okay (With my mmc baby stopped growing at 9 weeks) have a 16 week scan next week so I might feel positive after that :) basically every pregnancy if different and symptoms or lack off, mean nothing x today you are pregnant :) xxx

Fergie, totally haven't arrange midwife at all but will do today for a few weeks time.

Blank, brilliant news telling parents mine know but hubs is reluctant to tell people until 12 weeks which I understand, also told my nan as she starts cancer treatment next thurs so now she knows she's got to fight so she can meet is great grandchild!

Effie, try seeing a sympathetic female doctor if you can that's who I have, even if she's gone the long way around the houses to get my referrals etc. she's done all blood work I've requested and often if she's unsure has spoken with consultants directly.

Tea, these ladies will tell you how obsessive I've been the last few days especially. Each pg is the same, for me my m.cs have all had v v strong symptoms until about 6 weeks then nothing stopped dead. This time is more steady coming and going. I'm sure you will be fine, but if in doubt scans I say, we were very lucky to have a scan just after I ovulated (said I was obsessive lol) then eps did one yesterday at7+1 which was all good. It's natural to be worried etc etc especially after all most of us have been through to get here.

For us hubs and I are decided no more after this he can't live with me being obsessive and the stress it puts both of us under, so hoping all remains ok.

I need to tell my sil/db as well which I'm dreading, they've also had three m.c this year. oh hum how does one start that email? All good here though

Today I am pregnant. 7+2 to be exact!

Waves to all! No news, just a big old sleepy heffalump today!!

I didn't register with a midwife until I'd had my first early scan and seen the little heartbeat, I felt like I was tempting fate if I did! I have now got my midwife appointment on Monday-I'm so excited after 4 years, fertility treatments and a miscarriage I still cannot believe I have a baby in my tummy and a midwife to see!!! :) I've also got another scan next sat when il be ten weeks so I think we will go and tell parents after that.

Welcome to all the newbies! X

Hi all. I've no news to report other than feeling fat and tired haha. 32 weeks on Sunday. Oh my god, the end is in sight :-)

Morning everyone! Welcome to the newbies and lovely to hear about the good scan news in the past couple of days.

I'm staring to feel quite ignored by the NHS. I'm 11 weeks now, and went to my GP weeks ago to get referred to the midwifes....and that's all that's happened!
I don't even have a date for a booking appointment with the midwife or a date for my 12 week scan. I just keep getting told 'wait to hear from the midwife/hospital'. 12 weeks is rapidly approaching and I'm quite concerned about missing the nuchal scan window. In my last pregnancy I had already seen the midwife by now, gone for blood tests and had a scan date booked weeks in advance. It just seems weird for someone with a previous MC at 12 weeks to be left to fend for themselves like this, with not even any midwife details to contact for advice.
How has everyone else found their early pregnancy care?

gail it does seem odd that no one has been in touch with you I would make an appointment to see your gp and kick s

(Stupid phone) gail what I was trying to say is make an appointment to see your gp and kick some butt have been seen at your local epu or anything? I am only 5+3 but yesterday the nurse at my epu called my community midwife team to check they knew about me so they might be able to help aswell

gail I too would try and get in touch with your gp again. I only hadn't my midwife form in last Tuesday and she called this week to arrange my appointment. I think it ideally needs to be done between 8-10 weeks. It's so annoying that they are adding to your stress! X

Gail that doesn't sound right at all! I know some places are just busy and end up giving appointments with a few days notice but I'd be trying to get hold of a number for the midwives and ring them direct I think! Or at least phone the hospital scan department, possibly they've misplaced your paperwork!

I'm not doing anything about seeing GP or midwife for another few weeks yet. I don't think we'll have early scans this time unless I have any bleeding etc - last time I had one at 7 weeks that showed small baby with v slow heartbeat (meaning almost certain not to make it, tho I found that out from Dr Google), and then I had another at 9 weeks that showed everything was fine, which gave me false hope, then I mc'd a week later. So I'm not sure how reassuring I'd find one really! (Sorry don't want to scare those of you with early scans, mine was quite clearly not destined to mKe it at the first scan, and I was having horrendous bleeding and clots for weeks so not the same as you at all!).

How do you all feel about traveling whilst pg? Work want me to go to Japan for a week in September when I'll be about 12 weeks - I really don't want to go but not sure if I'm being silly.

gail My GP surgery just gave me the phone number for the midwife clinic and told me to call them and sort it out myself. They've booked me in for about 10 weeks. Seemed a bit like tempting fate as I'm only 6+5 right now, but the area I'm in is a total baby factory, so thought I'd better make an appointment even if I end up cancelling it. Can you find out from your surgery the number of the midwife clinic so you can chase it up yourself? Maybe the GP did refer but the clinic have mislaid it... maybe the referral got lost... get on the trail!

what a horrible thing to go through blue. I hope things are much smoother this time round.

gail I'd contact them n harass them some more aswell, with my mc I lived in a different area n after telling the gp the midwife contacted me, and then for this pregnancy id moved quite far away n the gp have me the midwife number n told me to contact them myself, but in both cases I'd heard from them by 6 weeks n booked in long before 11 weeks

2 days after my blood results I still can't get anyone to pick up the phone or call me back to tell me were I can get a prescription from (they told me the results in voicemail) I bought some iron tablets from the shop but iv been told the prescription ones are stronger, and again it's annoying cos obviously it's only anemia but if there was anythin more serious it's going on nearly 5 weeks now and they won't even pick up the phone, I jus hope there arnt any ladies in my area with any serious health issues. Other than that nothing interesting is happening here, 33 weeks on sat and other than absolutely everyone I come across insisting I must be having twins because I'm so huge, all is quiet

I know I shouldn't complain about ms coz it means everything is healthy ect but honestly today I've had enough I've been sick 4 times already and I can hardly move without my head spinning and feeling like I'm gonna chuck my guts up again :( any suggestions guys although DH and DS are very sweet DS is a very busy 3 year old and DH is really irritating me today :( fish slap would be hugely appreciated right now

Baby - I was were you are a few weeks ago so I feel your pain flat fizzy drink and ginger ale worked for me and then constantly eating salty food like crisps kept the nausea at bag. Not the healthiest but it's not forever (we hope!) keep a cool face cloth nearby so you can put it on the back of your neck when you feel sick. Don't know why it helps but it does.
Get DH to take DS out for a bit, to the park to run off some energy is good. That way you can have some peace. It's horrid, hope you feel better soon

Feel better soon Baby. I too find salty food helps, eating it ALL the time!

OK bit of a TMI moment for the last three or four days I have been needing to go to the toliet for a wee a lot. I know this can be a sign of preg but I've also had a bit of leaking . Sometimes when I feel I really need a wee and go its only the smallest wee in the world. Just wondering if I need to take this to the GP or not. idon't yet have midwife number to ask for advice. Also there's no pain, just lots of weeing and a bit of leaking. Has anyone else had this?