New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Hamster My friend told me she was my size at 35 weeks when I was 28, her perfectly normally sized 3 year old was running around as we chatted! :) Some babies just carry less out front.

FX for you silver

Radley Heheh I get the rage too! And the smell thing Tanny.

Fab name Nerdy!

G&T I had loads of aches and pains, which happened with my MCs too. Turned out they must happen every time because all was well after all the aches! :) It's hard not to associate everything with a worst case but if no blood most likely it's just pregnancy pains.

David I had a similar freaky dream. Totally illogical as I'm 30 weeks so in the dream it was like a 1st trimester loss with the big belly unaffected ... basically proof it's just a recurrent anxiety dream I guess! They're horrible when you have them, end up running to the loo at 3am to check!
I found boob pain varied wildly day to day if that's any comfort!

PSmith Pregnancy after a molar is a nightmare (I had a PM last year). Something to remember is that symptoms are your body's reaction to HCG, and molars/partial moles produce more HCG than a normal pregnancy: so if you don't have many symptoms it's most likely that your body doesn't react much to pregnancy (about 20% of women don't really lucky cows ) or simply that it's fairly early. It doesn't mean anything bad. Also after your HCG has tracked down to 0 on bloods for a few weeks, the chance of the next one being molar is very low indeed! You are far, far more likely to be having a normal pregnancy. Do tell the hospital though and keep them in the loop obviously: I would recommend the centre which treated your molar because they will be able to refer you quickly and check you correctly: local EPUs don't even know much about Molars they can go years without seeing one!
They get themselves puzzled and it can be stressful - better to have it ruled out once by the correct clinic.

Welcome psmith and congrats on the BFP!

Thinking of everyone in the seemingly never ending first trimester! God these first 12 weeks really drag on don't they? I'm 10 weeks, haven't even got a date for a midwife booking appt or a 12 week scan yet, beginning to worry that they've forgotten about me.

squiz 30 weeks already, that's fabulous! When are you finishing up work?

Hi all!
So I was alsmost resigned that was it, I've had no symptoms for about 3-4 days now - boob swelling and soreness gone, not even as tired. And then last night had a massive fall-out with DH. He'd been out with a mate to watch the football and was pissed when he came home. Fell asleep more or less straight away but woke up an hour or so later in an absolute rage. Was shouting at me for the smallest thing, wss throwing stuff about the room, etc. I ended up shaking and crying for most of the evening...
Have to emphasise that's very much out of character and he was very remorseful afterwards and this morning, but I thought well, even if it had been ok until then, that would have done it... DH was crying that he might have caused another loss...
But guess what, I had my followup blood test today and hcg had doubled up nicely!!! Could that finally be our miracle happening? We are off on holiday on Friday (we really need it!) and will go for a scan out there next week. Should be able to see a HB by then please god! Also have a scan booked for the day after we get back. FX!

psmith welcome. Hope it all goes well for you. Where are you off on holiday to? Could you have a scan there if not too expensive?
G&T I frequently get lower back pain too, I think it's pretty normal. You've seen HB now so chances are on your side, try not to worry too much. Hope you manage to get another scan soon.
David I wss freaking out about boobs going down too but I think it comes and goes anyway.
Hugs to all!

Thank you everyone for letting me know this is not a terrible symptom. I guess the date when things go wrong is always going to be tricky to get past.

Will book a scan for 9 weeks and hopefully be able to calm the flip down a bit

Squiz, you've calmed me right down, thanks for the advice. It's reassuring to know you went through the same thing- you're right, MPs are rare and part of the stress has been worrying that no one would understand.

Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies.

Cuppa I think you're right perhaps this being pregnancy number 14 for me means that I'm showing much earlier than normal, could be the same for you too? I've never had ms with any of the other pregnancies which is probably why it's such a shock. DP thinks it's a sign that this is a girl and is even considering placing a bet at the bookies!! Lol

Nerdy Congrats again. Love the name Abigail.

Psmith welcome to the thread. Best way is to stay positive and try to enjoy being pregnant today rather than worrying about the future. However, it's so hard to think like that in reality!

Silver Obviously DH was out of order but wondering if maybe he's feeling it much more than he's letting on so it came out when he was drunk? Men often think they have to be strong for us and put their emotions away and are often forgotten about. Hope all is ok now and the holiday helps you both to relax and sort things out.

Well I'm in need of a major fish slap or some reassurance as I wrote this from hospital :( I went to a Tour De France event today (the tour started a couple of miles from my house in Yorkshire so the town is full of parties etc!). Anyway, was feeling a bit crappy but then started struggling with my asthma and ended up having a serious attack a few mins later. I do have really bad brittle asthma and have been in ITU many times not expected to pull through but, obviously, I always have. Anyway since having DS 5.7 years ago things have been great apart from one attack and double pneumonia. Today was a huge shocker and we had to call an ambulance. The crew were fab and took 20 minutes to stabilise me before heading to hospital. To cut a long story short they knew I was pregnant and told then how precious this baby is but I'm now on antihistamines and steroids amongst other things. Of course this is making me panic that steroids may harm baby but they've assured me that it doesn't cross the placenta so baby will be ok. However, IF that's true why do they've give steroids to ladies in premature labour to bring on baby's lungs?? Surely that means they MUST cross the placenta?? Urgh I'm so worried now that my health will affect the baby. Trying to keep calm but it's not working :( Bucket of fish anyone????

PS Sorry for all spelling mistakes but am in a bit of a state :(

Radley you poor sausage! It sounds dead scary. I'm taking steroids to support my pregnancy, and they don't cross the placenta, but do control excessive nk (natural killer) cells in the uterus.

I guess it's also vital that you have enough oxygen in your blood, for both of you!

I'm sure they are doing the best for you. Big hugs.

Thanks so much Tanny it's so reassuring to know so done else is taking steroids whilst pregnant as that eases my mind a little. Am laying here starting to wheeze again and generally feeling fed up but I know I'm in the right place. Do you mind me asking what dose you're on? I'm taking 40mg prednisolone from tomorrow and had 80mg earlier.

someone not so done! Sorry

I'm taking 20mg prednisolone once a day, but check out the TTC or pg on pred page, as some women have been prescribed much higher levels than this to support their pg!

I'll try and post some links from my computer in a mo.

You will be fine, and yes, you are in the right place xxx

Oh radley that sounds scary!! I didn't take steroids but I do know someone was given them to stop prem labour. And worked. Agree with tanny it's important that you get the oxygen and they wouldn't give you something to harm the baby.

Google links to research papers

Pred Thread

I think these should help Radley

Radley so sorry to hear about your asthma attack. Completely understand your shock. Did they have any idea what had suddenly triggered it, given that you had not had one in quite a while?
You're right about DH. After I said I had not had symptoms over the last few days, he really cried, said he's not sure he can survive another loss... Also, he said he would not be up for adoption - something we'd never discussed before... God, I pray it all works out this time!

Thanks for reassurance Tanny and FedUp I'm feeling much more reassured now. Thankfully I'm only on the steroids etc for a few days and like you say the risks of tablets are much better odds vs the risk of not breathing! Realistically speaking that's what it boils down to. Thankfully I seem to have stabilised (touch wood!) and hope that it was just a one off.

Silver I've been feeling wheezy for a couple of weeks now, gradually getting worse. I fear that this pregnancy may in fact turn things around so that my asthma worsens again but I pray not. Another factor was that the high school (where the event was held) had recently cut their grass and left the cuttings all over the fields so sadly this could have caused it all to instantly flare up. Really quite cross that they had a fairly major event with NO first aiders at all - would've thought that St John's was a minimum requirement for something with hundreds, possibly thousands of people attending!!

Anyway thankfully I'm safe for now and assume baby is too, although must admit that I'm still super worried about my little grape. Just praying s/he is strong enough to hold on in there for another 31 weeks give or take.

Thanks for all the support and links. It really does mean a lot that I have people to moan at talk to.

Sending sticky baby dust to all.

Oh Silver that must be so hard knowing that DH is suffering as much as you are but trying to keep his emotions in check so you don't suffer more. Bless him. Thankfully my DP just kept on going with whatever I wanted but to be honest if you'd asked me at the beginning of this year (when I thought I'd never be blessed with another baby)I'd have probably said that I wished DP had put his foot down and said to stop after our 4th/5th mc. That way we'd have had one mc, had DS and mc'd his twin, then had 2-3 mc's after DS. I think that'd have been enough BUT now I'm just so glad he left it up to me as we'd never have been in this wonderful but terrifying position now.

I just hope and pray that this works for all of us.

STICKY BABY DUST FOR ALL OF US

Hi everyone

Hello to all the newbies, we seem to have grown again :-)

I'm having a mini meltdown already. I'm 31+1 today and have midwife appointment this morning. Thing is, this doesn't normally concern me too much (other than praying that BP is normal - previous pre eclampsia). However, it was this appointment in DS pregnancy (31 weeks) that my pre eclampsia was diagnosed, and seeing as my blood pressure has been climbing steadily this pregnancy (100/60 on booking, 138/82 last appointment at 28 weeks) am cacking myself. Especially as yesterday my feet and hands were really puffy too. And to too it off, I have a lot of white floaters in my wee sample (which happened when I had DS, was told it was excess protien).

I know technically everything could be ok, but in the back if my mind I'm thinking "shit, pre e again, another baby born before 32 weeks"

Wet fish slap needed greatly I reckon x

silver my DH found it really hard too. Sometimes acted similarly by getting angry and snappy. He also couldn't cope when I was upset. However, he does need to support you lovely, as you are the one with all the physical changes going on and on edge the whole time at each whiff of symptom loss or twinge. Hope this is your one though, I really do xx

mrsg thinking of you this morning - keep holding onto the fact that because something happened previously at this time it doesn't mean it must happen again.....am keeping everything crossed for you this morning that the midwife isn't concerned and sends you on your merry way! Good luck.

radley sounds a horrific experience - glad you are getting the care you need right now.

silver I think you said you guys are off on holiday? Hopefully that will be just what you both need - chance to relax and get away from the everyday stress and have some quality loving time together - it's always helped me and my DH just getting away from the everyday (although of course the pg worries never go but not having to do the washing up helps!).

FX all is well MrsG I have my MW appointment too (30 weeks). Currently trying to muster the bravado to do a number 2 tmi and hoping she can prescribe something.

squitza have you taken Lactulose? Vile stuff but gets it moving :-)

moomin thanks. I know that worrying will only put my blood pressure up too, which doesn't help haha x

mrsg, your bp was totally normal at your last appointment, so try not to fret. If your diastolic bp has gone over 90mmHg (systolic over 140), they should increase your bp monitoring and give you regular kidney function tests, and if more severe they will treat the hypertension, but there's no reason to suspect that this will be the case.
The NICE 'quick reference' for hypertension in pg is available here www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg107/resources/guidance-hypertension-in-pregnancy-pdf, should you have need for it (fingers crossed you won't).
I know exactly what you mean about feeling that rollercoaster sensation of 'this is where it all goes wrong' though... last week at the Mat Hosp all I could think about was my first pregnancy, where I spent the best part of three days in the same unit what with CTG monitoring, ultrasounds, ECV and eventually prem labour. All those memories came back.
I have heard more back from the hospital, mine was not the first concern expressed regarding the doctor, but she has been removed from all rotas and patient care, and they have expressed concern that the remainder of my antenatal care goes smoothly.
Also heard this morning a relatively of DH's, who died quite recently, wanted DD to have a piece of family jewellery, am strangely saddened (think the hormones are in full swing today).

quick stop in from me today; palava with the notes and me getting a bit huffy at being given the run around has now lead me to a scan on weds morning at epu. now i'm petrefied there will be no heartbeat. :( can't win. lol. symptoms are easing off majorly still esp since sats major burst. fingers firmly crossed as poor hubs prob can't take much more of my obsessions. lol.

PMA PMA, must be strong.

Pleased to say that BP was lower than previous appointment AND no protein in wee.

Only thing that "might" be a problem is the fact that baby has decided to stay breech. Obviously at 31 weeks this isn't an issue, but they've already stated talking ecv etc xx

Sorry for lack of posts, logged myself out and couldn't remember the flipping password :/

mrsg great news :)

My turn for a slap, just walked upto the shop for some lunch and was getting mild cramps so now I'm freaking out. It's okay now I'm sat at my desk but I'm too scared to get up. Pls tell me it's normal to get some cramping? I'm just over 14 weeks now x