New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Thinking of you both Badgers and MrsG.

Effin, I'm 7+1 and have no real symptoms yet. I hear you on the freaking out! My boobs tend to get tender as the day goes on but I generally feel nothing in the morning. I know people might think we're lucky being free of symptoms, but in actual fact, I'd prefer to have ms to clarify that all is ok in uterusland. I am booked for a private scan next Tuesday. Are you due a scan..how far along are you?

Thinking of you today badgers

5+3 today. Started bleeding on 5+4 with mc#2. Booked in with midwife (11 weeks) and have 12 week scan apt. Should phone epu see if they will give me an 8week scan but for some reason I am putting it off. Also need to phone fertility clinic and tell them I don't need an apt anymore

Hi all. Thought id check in after yesterday's wobble!

Had a much better night, pains appear to have stopped, and the fluid isn't anywhere near as great. Came into work with the thought that if it gets bad I'm right by the hospital to go see the midwife. Did give them a call on my break for a chat though and they said they are happy with the care interviewed at out of hours, and they will see me on Monday as planned for usual antenatal appointment unless I am concerned over the weekend in which case I'm to go in.

Thanks for all the concern and reassurance, it really is needed in pregnancy after loss!

Hand holding to all who have scans today. X

Just popping in, has my early scan this morning and there was a baby with a heartbeat there!! This my fourth pregnancy and I've never seen a Hb before :) dated at 6+4 which is bang on for ovulation.
Yay!

MrsG, I'm glad you're feeling better today. Long may it continue!
Seasalt..congrats on your little bean! Must be amazing to see the hb after all the anxiousness!
Hopefully I'll see mine on Tuesday!

Good news mrsg and seasalt :)

badgers hope you're okay as well.

seasalt congratulations, that's brilliant news!
Mine is still 'of uncertain viability' as can't see anything other that the sack at 5 weeks, but at least it's in the right place, measuring 5mm.
They also took bloods, to be repeated on Sunday, to check if hcg is doubling and I can be re scanned in a week or two.
Going away on holiday next Friday though so if they can't rescan on Thursday, I can have one out there. A bit nervous about the flying... and still nervous whether bloods and scan will show growth progress

Here to report that had a scan this morning and thankfully saw a little bean and a heartbeat. So glad to have seen it but somehow still don't feel able to relax. Measured at 7 + 3 so three days further on than I thought - bit of a bonus!

Thinking of those who need hand holding.

seasalt and G&T that's fab news! how exciting. Once you've seen the heart beat, the risks really drop substantially.

mrsg glad to hear things seem to have settled down a bit too.

sliverine it's an anxious time for you, I bet, but hopefully you'll get some more positive confirmation soon.

holly we're about the same stage. can you self refer to your EPU? Mine only see you with bleeding or pain, and you have to be referred by a GP.

Not too long to wait now for a scan blank.

I think I'm 5+5 today by my reckoning and I have a private scan booked for two weeks today, when I'll be 7+5. Deeply worried by relatively sudden drop off in symptoms, but not much I can do for reassurance except wait until things are further on. Just reminded that this happened at almost exactly the same stage last time, and at the time I was just pleased not to have hurty boobs any more. I don't want to push for scans etc earlier because it was even more stressful being in limboland for ages last time, when they scanned & took bloods but never really confirmed what was going on (diagnosis was initially possible ectopic and then after a lap that didn't find anything 'pg of unknown location' which miscarried soon after). It was probably what they so nicely call 'blighted ovum' where the egg just fails to develop - more common in old birds like me apparently).

Bloody doctors, bloody epu. My referral from the 23 rd has been lost apparently they epu haven't had my fax and usually scan at 6 weeks only not 7 plus as I will be hopefully on Monday. :-( awaiting a rig back, been supping ginger ale for the last two dys I feel queenly but not sick, my symptoms seem to have vanished the last two days. Now I'm paranoid again. It's going to happen again. :-( and breath and breath, wet fish slap please. I may have to go private for a scan as not sure I can hold out for the epu, unless they can get me in first thing Monday, but then do I want to know? I need to know, it will be a relief If I see a heart beat likewise a relief if I see blood as at least then I'll know one way or the other, very big wet fish needed.

Hi everyone,
Just attempting catching up on all the news after a few web free days following charger death!
Teensy slap for you davidtennant, symptoms come and go. We all know that it's so hard not to worry, but this doesn't mean anything is wrong. Hope you get the reassurance you need soon.
seasalt, gandt and mrsg fab news :)
Just off for the mammoth read and catch up session.
Bump made an appearance this week, and think I felt a few flutters in the bath after a run last night. I keep hoping that the next milestone will end the paranoia...
Huge sticky hugs to everyone x

Massive congrats nerdy xx

Seasalt, just wondering what you're doing now re scans etc. We were told today that unless there's any problem we wont get anything else until the 12 week scan. The next five weeks seems like an eternity, my mmc baby had died at 8 weeks but we didn't know until the 12 week scan.
Thinking about getting a private one maybe at 8 or 9. Any ideas guys?

My EPU are scanning me every 2 weeks til 12, maybe because I was under the consultant previously? Maybe because I'm just lucky, I don't know. I'm very glad they are though!

seasalt I think it is just another postcode lottery. I had two MCs and they won't refer me to EPU at all. Even with bleeding I was told to wait it out. (It should stop within 10 days)! All they told me is they could refer me for RMC after having 3. I went to A&E for my first MC and no scan there either.

I have had three miscarriages hence being under the consultant, so that's why I got the early scan, but it must just be their practice to perform more. I would have happily paid for private ones, but glad I don't need to now!

GandT I would have paid for at least one more if they weren't offering us one, but that just me. If you feel it will offer you reassurance go for it, maybe around 9 and a half weeks? Bang in the middle. Glad all went well today :) x

Thanks Seasalt , today was ace and I'm so thankful that I got a scan on the NHS, but I thnk that now I've seen it I can't shut it out like I've been trying to do. I'm much more scared now than I was yesterday.
I know that I need a hearty fish slap

Will think about booking one for around the 9 week marker. Off to obsess now!!

Good to hear MrsG and good that you have a Monday appointment as a double check as well.

Yey Seasalt and G&T that's great news!

Aw Cuppa that's lovely

Lots of hand holding for everyone stressing. Nothing worthwhile was ever easy eh? x

effin I should have a loyalty card for the epu given the time I have spent there When I had mc#1 back in 2010 epu said as soon as I got another bfp I should ring and they would book me in for an 8 week scan. I did and that was my one and only positive trip to the epu - dd is now 3. With mc#2 in sept I don't remember them saying anything. DH says he does so it is worth a try. They can only say no

I went to see the midwife at my GP surgery today and was a MASSIVE relief. She was so sweet and lovely as I was sat there trying not to be sick!! All she asked was that I didn't cover her as she didn't have a spare uniform with her :)

Anyway, after seeing how bad the MS is she has, thankfully, given me some anti sickness tablets. She said there's 4 stages of medication and is trying me on Avomine first and if that doesn't work she'll change to another in a few days. Sadly it's not worked so far and half an hour after taking the tablet I managed to bring it up Laying here listening to DP snoring and have the lovely aroma of sweaty feet and warm breath and I want to strangle him. Fish slap needed before I strangle him!!! :)

Blank please feel free to take my MS. I'm not tight I'd be happy to give you the lot (forget sharing)

To everyone worrying about lack of symptoms. I had the most wonderful pregnancy with DS. I had no symptoms apart from being tired in first trimester but that was it. I also lost loads of weight during the pregnancy and I wasn't sick once! Even my boobs weren't in the slightest bit sore. So please don't worry about lack of symptoms because it doesn't mean anything.

Radley I'm awake too, early bout of pg insomnia, and keep nudging DH to stop him snoring!

I think I'm ready to jump in, but will obviously jump out again if I mc. I won't add my stats for a couple of weeks if that's OK. Thanks for the warm welcome last week, it's lovely to see you all here.

So, I'm 4+4 and had a scan with Prof B in Coventry. Funny to have such an early scan, it was just a tiny back blob, but her was happy that it was in the right place and right size. Such a relief.

I have a treatment plan now, as I have recurrent miscarriage issues, and will be going back in a fortnight for another scan. I am already taking progesterone, and now start taking heparin injections and steroid tablets. Amazing what you'll do to have a DC!

I still can't think if this as anything other than a pregnancy and a ball of cells, not a baby, as my experience is that that's all I've had for the past couple of years. I still miss the old days when you got pregnant and had a baby after 9 months, but I am 42, and of course it's so much harder!

radley I too had the most as symptomatic pg with DS; no weight gain, no sickness, no fatigue, no pain... All other pg also the same (and 3 of my losses were quite late). This time total change. I was soo sick early on and they had to try to find meds which worked. I will look at what it is when I can stand up. Still icky at 15w :( glad to hear MW lovely, and hope you're feeling better soon.

I also look like a whale and have horrendous over inflated leaky boobs, which look and feel like they are full of marbles. Yukkers! And everyone telling me it's my age makes me want to punch them because you know, I'd rather have had 2 kids closes together too...

Sorry to rant. Thinks it's just because DH is snoring, and I'm grumpy, sickly, sleep deprived, and in need of tea.

Hi tanny, the early meds are vile aren't they? Sickness dropped off a little when I stopped the progesterone :) good news re early scan x

Hi all, just updating and checking out of here :( Scan showed what we expected, nothing left, but at least I won't need any medical management and they can't see any problems (although they did take about 5 minutes to find my right ovary, which resulted in us all getting the giggles - very surreal!). It's also made me much more relaxed about the maternity unit at our hospital. I hate hospitals but there are no MW-led units near here and living deep in the middle of nowhere a home birth doesn't feel like a sensible option, but the midwives were incredibly lovely and kind, the whole place felt nice and I'd be much more relaxed about the idea of going back there with the successful pregnancy that I AM DEFINITELY going to have one day. Posifrickintivity remains!

Had some sympathetic friends round for dinner and a few glasses of wine and am feeling okay today, but thank you all for the support. Really glad to read so much positive news elsewhere on here and fingers crossed for you all. I'll be back...

Sorry you're going just as I arrive, badger. The RMC thread is very supportive, I joined when I was 2 down, and they have been great. Good luck, and keep that posifrickentivity going.