New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[squizita]

Hand holding and fish slapping...

MrsG I've got 3 weeks left at school and am looking forward to getting shot of the 6am wake-up followed by commute. :) I seem to wake up 2 or 3am and struggle to sleep fully after that.

...hi newbies. By the way I work at a school I am not a gymslip bride!

Corpore you must have been fuming once you got over the shock. What a twat.

silver and blank and Seasalt - I'm 6w today after 3 mcs so I'm in the first trimester and terrified club too. Also obsessively prodding my breasts and fretting about the complete lack of MS - the fact that I never felt sick with any of the previous ones (although 2 were v early losses so may not have done anyway) is clearly irrelevant in my stressed out head. I am however utterly exhausted and keep getting dizzy so I'm hoping that's enough symptoms to mean things are progressing. Still getting slight brown spotting but the backache I had at the weekend has subsided (even after building a seaside rock garden on Sunday to give myself an excuse for backache!) so fingers crossed for us all. Seeing the doctor at 1130 today so that'll start the ball rolling here and make it official. Hoping I can get an early scan too...

Silverine, mine is at 10am! good luck.

I'm a mess this week. I didn't feel as sick as I have yesterday, or as tired and instead of being pleased I decided it must be a bad thing and then this morning my boobs didn't hurt where I thought they should (even though they definitely do still hurt)
I just want Friday to hurry up :(

Squiz I was picturing you as a wholesome 18 year old for a second then!

I'm in the first trimester too. Have my 12 week scan next Tuesday so am very nervous about that. All was ok at the early scans but still worrying so much. The sickness has passed but the constant queasiness is still around. I really want the scan next week to go well so I can announce to people. Really struggling and think telling people particularly at work will be a relief.

Morning all. I have a question about Braxton Hicks. I think I started getting them last night. Crampy tightening on the underneath of my bump with backache. Seemed to come and go and was able to doze between them. Moving about helped a bit too. But I'm still getting them this morning and it's quite uncomfortable.

Is this normal? Shouldn't they stop at some point? Would like to be able to catch up on sleep.

squitz I actually laughed out loud when I read that. Now my colleagues are giving me very funny looks in the staff room :-)

nerdy how far aling are you? if your near term and they are not going id query labour xx

Good news Tiger! Well, apart from the cider!

Silver I had sharp stabby pains on one side from early on til about 16 weeks. At 20 week scan my placenta turned out to be at the front right side. I speculate but am sure it must have been that area growing/twinging in the early days. Obviously worth checking to rule out ectopic but isn't necessarily that. Also, I never felt period style cramps, which most others on the thread seemed to, for me it was just the sharp stabby prods.

Squiz!

Sorry Nerdy I don't know. I would imagine as they are 'practises' there'd be no reason why they couldn't go on for a bit? Sorry not helpful.

Wow this thread moves fast! Just been catching up on the last couple of days, too many to reply to individually but for those having early weeks panics this is totally normal, I think we are all nutters here with all the stress of pregnancy after mc/mmc!

I hope those of you who've been feeling low are having better days and the sunshine is lifting your spirits a bit.

So news from here, decided on another private scan as I was worried about going to the 12 wk one and getting bad news from a stranger, plus I had yet another big fresh red bleed (I've lost count how many I've had now) so we decided for the sake of £50 to go and do it. Am amazed and happy to report that all is well, the bean is clinging on in there and even managed a wave at us, it's all measuring completely normal for my dates (11 weeks today). I still have a small clot in there, hence more bleeding, but it's a lot smaller now and the clinic were pretty positive that as the weeks go by it will eventfully go away. I feel much better about going for the official 12 wk scan next week now.

I wanted to share this mainly to say to those that have had spotting/bleeding that bleeding in pregnancy is f*cking terrifying but not always terrible news - I have bled pretty much from 5/6 weeks on and off ranging from brown to bright red to clots as big as my hand. I never thought you could bleed so much and still be pregnant! The only way to see if bleeding is bad news is with a scan and I can't recommend having some private ones enough if you can afford to.

So obviously no guarantees here, but certainly feeling better than I was. Until the next time I have a wobble then I'll be back for a fish slap no doubt

3rd trimester fish slap/query. Bit TMI.
I know you get more mucus in the 3rd trimester. I have some it is clear, thin (but not quite water/too little to tell) and doesn't smell bad. Unfortunately I bought a different, cheaper pantliner recently so it seems like there's a bit more than before.
I'm paranoid about how to tell whether it's mucus or leaking waters (I know, I know... I did yoga yesterday and am convinced for some reason I over strained).

Cake - glad everything went well I am only a few days ahead of you in terms of dates I think. I have my 12 week scan on Tuesday

Speaking off two people at work have guessed that I am pregnant ( am quite slim built and have a noticeable bump/morning sickness bread belly) have been wearing baggy shirts but clearly not hiding it well enough. So here is my question. Do I tell my boss now before he finds out from someone else? I really wanted to wait till the scan on Tuesday (week today) but now am thinking maybe I should just tell and get it over with ( he won't be happy!)

Just a quick reply squeezing in a bit MN during work

squizita you will know your water is gone. It's unmistakable. That's the first sign of me going to labour last time. I didn't get a gush, but a very steady trickle. Google on fore and hind water if you want to know more.

Thanks one - I thought that would be the case, but am a bit paranoid because on all the (even respectable) websites they say 'if you have increased discharge check...' but of course they mean mega increased!
In the USA they say if you need a pantliner call your obgyn - WTF I've needed one for months!

Hi all, just checking in and glad to see some positive posts. I would also like to put my hand up to being in the 'first trimester freak out' gang! Have a 7 week scan on Friday like a couple of you and totally dreading it.

I've decided to look at it as nothing more than a visual pregnancy test and not as a sign that all will be well. At 7 weeks, the 12 week safety zone seems a veeeerrry long way away!

My doctor is brilliant. Just seen her, and she had done all my fertility tests last year and so was absolutely overjoyed about my pregnancy - I think she's more excited than me! She made me POAS again and it came up as a massive strong line straight away so that was good news. She was also very reassuring about a bit of spotting early on (my weekend panic is definitely not justified at this point - you may all retrospectively slap me very hard with the biggest fish you can find) and about my chances of this pregnancy succeeding. I'm also having a scan this week or next, just waiting for the unit to call me. G&T - I like your "visual pregnancy test" idea, I think I shall adopt that. Fingers crossed for good news for us all. Booking appointment with the MW on the 18th if I make it that far

Oh that's brilliant news cake :) lovely to hear.

squiz with my waters with my dd I had a steady trickle as well for about 12 hours then got a woosh of waters but I found they had a really really weak pink colour and also (sorry tmi) smelt slightly of seamen that's a sick face btw
you'll def know x

Saw the midwife this afternoon, who is wonderful. :) She found Beans heartbeat (caused a few tears) and said everything is fine.

I'm now 14+5 and still pregnant. :)

So my waters seem to have broken and the pains are now stronger and closer together. Waiting for DP to come home. Rang labour ward and they said put a pad on and ring them in an hour and it's been nearly that. Worrying a bit cos midwife asked if baby was moving ok and I don't know. Also obviously don't have any pain relief. And had electrician here all day too so it's all happening in front of a stranger!

Oh Nerdy! So exciting! I hope all goes smoothly and quickly for you

Nerdy! Yay it's exciting, try not to panic, if you can turn the tv on and watch something to distract yourself until your husbands back :) xxx

eeeeeek Nerdy how exciting! good luck!!

Ooooh nerdy good luck!! And I couldn't feel baby move either as was so absorbed with contraction pain. No idea how they expect you to be able to judge if your baby is moving normally in labour!!

Wishing you all the best for a smooth and to plan labour xx

Nerdy-Good luck!

Just think of it like this; the electrician has probably gone home and said "You'll never guess what happened to me today..."

You'll be his dining out story for years! He was probably shitting himself he'd have to deliver your DC!

Wooooo Nerdy how exciting!

Rang midwife who pretty much said it was probs mucus. Told me to use a simple unscented/plain pad and check it wasn't like water (I guess that means dribbling like wee) or smelly. Its not - just clear with some cream and I can't detect any weird smells.