New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

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Hand holding and fish slapping...

Hi All - I am 14+6 currently and was so excited about the 12 week scan, but now am panicking about everything else! def need a slap!!! Is this normal after having a m/c before - am I the only panicky one?

Yup Gail that happened with me.

hi liesal I am in the same boat as you - am 15 +3 and battling the doom - I was so excited after 12 weeks. My MIL emailed this morning to update me on the list of friends she has told (read: hundreds of them) and I had a mini meltdown wishing she hadn't told them. Last night I dreamt the baby had died which has done little for my mood.......I am just trying to battle through to 16 week midwife appointment. I just feel in such limbo at the moment....

gail - definitely for me was normal until well after 12 week scan - I only just last week have been unable to fit into my normal jeans (15 +3 today) - although I'm still not sure it is baby, given the amount I've been eating....

Morning ladies

Been trying to keep up whilst he PILs are here but am in my own self absorbed bubble as dp's bro&SIL have announced their pregnancy yesterday and I am being selfish piggy about it all. They got engaged 18 months ago and wedding was 6 months ago. It's all I have heard about for 18 months and this weekend when the PIL's were bringing the final photo album I was thinking thank goodness after that it will all be over and done with and frankly, I could have some attention, I won't lie. Now I feel like my thunder has been stolen and I was also -a very nasty person who is-- jealous of the fact their pg has worked first time. Isn't that awful? I wouldn't wish mc on anyone but I feel like SIL is the golden girl as they had a wedding and now a baby first time. Ours will be first grandbaby on this side but they will only be 3 months behind and I feel like why couldn't I just have this? All I ever hear about is them (they live other side of the world.) Also they sent pictures of SIL holding the weekly number you know when you document each week. We did that the first time but of course then realised that the bean had died in the latter photos without us knowing So we didn't do it this time and I am jealous that they have those pictures and it makes me cry every time I think of it.

I am terrible to not just be happy for them but I didn't even get this one weekend of showing our new home to PILs and just 'being pregnant' with them as this will prob be only time we'll spend with them now before baby comes and only previous time was when we announced preg.

God if I wasn't pg again now this news would crush me. SIL is 5 years younger than me could they not just wait and fit in better with my schedule?!!

Sorry to whinge. They are the other side of the world so really it shouldn't effect us but honestly first thing MIL said this morning was that SIL had emailed me and her about something preg related. I am going to turn into a pregzilla soon!

Hi new faces sorry to be a moaning minnie. I am saying MIL but of course we aren't married. They are. Their baby will have the 'right' surname. Ours is getting both. I feel judged and like the underdog. MASSIVE FISHSLAP NEEDED TO GET OVER MYSELF AND BE GREATFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE!!!!

amicable I blame the food I have noticed my bum got bigger too.

London - I sympathise my SIL announced her wedding shortly after ours and booked it for a week after ours (we got married abroad she had the big white wedding) then when I was pregnant with DS she announced she was pregnant a month later. It is hard when you are constantly compared to a relative. I suggest just focusing on your family and your baby. It is easy to say but hard to do! We no longer talk to BIL and SIL so that make things easier for me!

Thanks for the reality check.
There is no reason why this will fail. In fact there are extra reasons why it wont. Aspirin and Cyclogest should work wonders. PMA.

amicablemoomin - Thank you for your reply - I feel the same since we announced it last week - at 14 weeks and then spent the day wishing I hadn't! I have moved my 16 week appointment forward to Thursday ( I will be 15+2) as my dating scan showed I was further along, and I didn't wanna wait for another month!

Hope all are OK, self-absorbed rantette coming up...
Went to GP this morning, she sent me off to Mat hosp to get checked in case of UTI or something.
Horrible time parking at hospital so turned up feeling already stressy and reasonably sure it wasn't a UTI. Asked DH to come find me (he works an hour away, so wasn't a big deal but had started remembering being there during my first pregnancy and was getting more worked up).
Doppler for fhr and checks seemed normal so had relaxed a bit and told DH not to rush, when registrar asked to examine me. She promptly told me that she thought my waters had gone and that they would need to scan to check whether sac intact and baby OK. I dissolved, thinking that this was it, and that baby was going to die. DH at this point just outside the door comes in to find me in a puddle of tears.
Quick scan shows baby alive and well, sac intact.
Second look showed a polyp from my cervix, which whilst not ideal, is far from life-threatening for either of us at this point.
Sent to ultrasound where sonographer was horrified I'd been told the above. Baby all well and sucking thumb as usual.
Senior registrar apologised for the craziness, and took another look. Confirmed as polyp - she said she would whip it out if I'd not already had two prior internals that day, but that Consultant had told her to leave me be and let me go home.
Have sent a stern email to director of Mat services, and will involve PALS if I need to. Am still shaken and close to tears hours later.
Sorry for this long and self-absorbed post but I needed to put it all down in writing.

Corpore - what a awful experience some people just do not think. I remember visiting my friend in hospital after her son was born. She had previously had a still birth and was recovering from a c section when I was sitting there a junior doctor came in and checked the baby. Listened to his heart and announced ' he has a heart condition I have to take him immediately' and whisked him away! My friend burst into tears as her baby was taken away I wasn't allowed to go with them as I wasn't a parent so had to call her DP to come and find out what was going on. 3 hours later the baby was absolutely fine and there was nothing wrong with him at all. Even the consultant who came round after said the doctor had been an idiot! My poor friend was a nervous wreck after that.

Corp Grrr feel your pain. Junior docs shooting their mouths off causing fuss and bother... have had it with my MCs and with this pregnancy. DH tends just to automatically ask for a consultant opinion no matter what now. :( Hope they apologise!!

Oh my corpore that is awful. I really wonder what goes on in these people's heads. on the positive you know what it was and that bubba is doing ok.

I had my 6 month dentist checkup this morning. Dentist wanted to do some xrays. I had to say no I am pregnant. The dental nurse then snapped 'you should have told the receptionist when you came in as you won't have to pay'. I wanted to say to her I'd much rather pay the £11 than have it on my records I am pg. What if I go back in 6 months and there is no bump or baby? 4 pregnancys one dd mot great odds are they. What I actually did was mumble about not thinking...

corpore what a horrible experience for you - how horribly horribly stressful. Very glad you've had the strength to write straight away. Hope you and DH are able to relax together tonight.

liesal so glad it is not just me being silly - it is such a weird period of time, isn't it? I am away visiting the parents next week and hoping that will distract me somewhat until the appointment -good idea moving yours I think!!! Must stay positive, must stay positive.....!!!

London sending you lots of sympathy. Do you have any good friends you could meet up with? I found a night with my besties when I explain I need some tlc can work wonders and get you away from all the family stuff, you know, people who are just super excited for you and genuinely on your side. not that family aren't, just can get a bit stressful sometimes!

London - I mean friends in the area who would give you the sort of tlc you need right now- not 'do you have any friends'!!!!!

Ellis A week later SO unncessary! I had to LOL that you no longer talk! Thank you, you have helped me to realise this is a very common occurrence and if anything quite a 'normal' pregnancy tale, so I shall embrace it as such. Have pretty much managed to burst my own self-pity bubble now. Really helped to let it out here (as ever.)

Corp What on earth was she basing saying your waters had gone on? Thank goodness for the down to earth sonographer. I hope you & your DH are having some r&r now. What a day you've had. Pleased you know what it is though and I take it it's not of any concern.

I think my tum was up and down at 9 weeks as it was so bleedin' gassy!

I seemed to escape the limbo/worry between scan and 16 week appt, partly I was just so happy the nausea eased off, also I was lucky to have movement early (subtle bubbles) but I know it can be hard. Hold on, to the mantra and one day at a time still. As Fedup often says you can always keep getting a scan in your back pocket for panic emergencies!

Moomin! Yes, good thinking. Maybe involve some alcohol free beer... I can't tell you how much I would like a Baileys with ice right now!

Waves at everyone - happy Monday folks. :) Corp- sorry about the stress with the asshole doctors.

My news - saw the consultant again today, who is lovely. Very practical, down to earth and easy to talk to. She has said that she wants to have me scanned at 17 weeks to get me through to 20 weeks as she thinks I'll lose the plot if I have to wait another 6 weeks for my 20 week scan.

I almost kissed her when I told her that I was getting horrendous migraines and they weren't shifting. The only thing that shifts them for me as a migraine sufferer anyway, is Solpodine, because of the codeine mix. She told me that Codeine was completely safe in pregnancy mixed with paracetamol, and so as long as I was sensible, I could take solpodine safely.

Am however, very depressed. We have some very close friends coming up to stay from Cornwall next weekend and they always bring a crate of Cornish Rattler cider, which is a favourite of mine. And because I'm up-duffed, I can't fucking well drink it!!

Hi all
Can I butt In? Anyone here in the first trimester? 4+3 here after 3 mcs and absolutely shitting myself! have been having occasional but persistent sharp shabby pains and wondering if I'll be adding ectopic to my list...

Hi all
Can I butt In? Anyone here in the first trimester? 4+3 here after 3 mcs and absolutely shitting myself! have been having occasional but persistent sharp shabby pains and wondering if I'll be adding ectopic to my list...

Silverine, I'm 6 weeks ish at the mo and have also had three mc. I'm shitting myself. I'm constantly poking my boobs to see if they still hurt and then freaking out if they're not hurting as much as they were. Any pain scares me. I'm a wreck! I have an early scan booked for Friday. Will u get an early scan? Congrats xx

Hi seasalt thanks, congrats to you too! yes, I'm hoping they will do a scan. They booked it for Fri rather than earlier in the week so I can be that little bit further along. Not sure if theyll be able to see anything but even if it's just a sac may still feel reassuring. At least they might rule out ectopic. The earliest scan I've had before has been 7-8 weeks so don't know what to expect. Hoping they might do a hcg blood test.
Nice we have them on the same day. Mine's 9 am. When is yours?

Morning all.

Lovely to see so many newbies :-) congratulations to you all!!

Hello to all my fellow oldies, glad to see we're doing well apart from a few wobbles!

I'm 30+2 now and so looking forward to finishing work! I do 3 days a week and only have 9 shifts left now. I honestly love my job but I'm beyond exshausted all the time. I'm having trouble sleeping at night (usual 3rd trimester woes), then getting up at 5am sucks!! I'm back to sleeping for about 2 hours in the middle of the day again (or around 2pm onwards on a work day) and still like it! DH says get used to it as it will be the same when baby is here but I actually think a newborn is easier than 3rd trimester tiredness!

Anyway, must dash, I now have a 3 bus journey to get to work xxx

Hi Silverine, congrats! I'm also in my first trimester. I'm 6+5, but had a bleed on Saturday. The EPU won't see me till 10wks so have booked a private scan for this day next week. My gp did a test yday & came up positive but my symptoms seem to have disappeared. Could you see much in your 7-8 week scan? Hope your pain settles down.

Hi blank sorry to hear about your bleed. Try to keep your chin up though. It's not necessarily bad news. At my second mmc I got an early scan at 7+5 and they managed to date it at less than 6 weeks. Hugs!