New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[squizita]

Hand holding and fish slapping...

Thanks squizita for clearing this up. There are in fact a lot of myths around pregnancy. And I don't think a fitness instructor usually knows either, unless they have training especially for antenatal exercises.

I thought that getting too hot was the most dangerous thing about vigorous exercise in pregnancy? That one has stuck in my head though because clearly it was wearing a heat pack for my bad back that caused my first MC. Or digging up that shrub from the front garden. Or the coffee icing on that eclair that I ate on THE SAME DAY I'd already had a cup of tea. Or the fact I overdid it in Sainsburys when already feeling dizzy and nearly fainted at the checkout. Or the stressful conversation with BT that got me really wound up...

Fish slap needed, somebody please!

Badgers "too hot" and "too cold" as in like hyperthermia/hypothermia. You'd feel pretty darn ill. You are more prone in pregnancy but you'd KNOW if it happened and if you were exercising you'd stop (if you knew and had common sense)! They say no to saunas for example because if you got too hot and fainted you'd be stuck in there.

Hot water bottles, heat packs and getting a bit sweaty are all OK! :)

Thanks again squiz, and badger and one. There's such a tendency to look for a cause for a previous mc, when a lot of the time it was probably simply chance, that we end up worried about every possible little thing that might make it more or less likely to happen again. Because it's something that is so hard to control, it's tempting to grab on to any little thing. It's like the whole 'don't get stressed' advice that then only stresses women out more - stress is really more of a problem at the level when you're losing weight because of it, not because of normal worries.

Of course, that's not to say that there aren't sometimes causes that can be treated or that because it's common and chance it's not massively traumatic. But it's so hard not to wrap ourselves up in guilt and cotton wool when it's happened once before, which is good for no one.

So I might mention it to my trainer, but only because it's helpful that she knows what's going on with me. It's been so hot in the last week she was wondering why I was more red-faced than usual - I did feel hotter and slightly more out of breath than I usually would, but probably nothing to worry about.

Hi all. Thought I'd tentative toe in the water here. Following my MC and ERPC in Septemer I got a BFP yesterday. I had a previous MC/ERPC in 2010 followed by my dd in 2011. I am oddly devoid of all emotion apart from being terrified. I am in two minds as to whether I ring the EPU and ask to be booked in for a scan at 8 weeks (they did that last time), get booked in with the midwife, go to the GP (I have a lovely GP who earlier this month referred me to the fertility clinic) or wait and see for a bit. I am only 4+1 and last time started bleeding at 5+4. Part of me wants to wait till after then, part of me wants to get the ball rolling with EPU and midwives. Oh to be one of these people who gets a BFP, gets all excited and has a baby.

I will try and read back the thread later as I am supposed to be working now

Welcome Holly! Congratulation on your BFP!! I know, it's a nerve wrecking time. I mc at 6 weeks exactly in April. Luckily, I fell pregnant quickly again (through use of a CBFM) and am currently 6 weeks exactly today. I was nervous this morning but beginning to feel positive about things. I'm booked in for my booking visit at 10 weeks but am getting a private scan at 7+5 for a total peace of mind!
Best of luck and wishing you an easy, straight forward pregnancy!

Congratulations Holly. It's natural to be terrified after what you've been through, why not make your GP the first point of contact and see what they suggest.

I had my scan this morning and I'm measuring bang on 6 weeks and we saw a lovely heartbeat. Have to go back in 2 weeks for another scan just to check it's developing as it should. Feeling a lot calmer now!

Welcome Holly.

Well, had scan last night, the consultant (as usual) was lovely and very reassuring. :)

Bean is fine thank goodness, even now, though, I'm super stressy and there is no reason to believe things have changed in the last 12 hours...

NIFTY results show super low risk/negative for Downs, Edward & Patau syndrome, which is fab - the risk of Downs was something ridiculous like 1/450698320!! Which is great news. Also confirmed that we're having a girl, which I have now got my head around. DH made me laugh when he said, "Oh Christ, that means more bloody ponies!" :)

DH also had a few people in the clinic looking when he told them he liked the name "Clamydia Aphrodite" if it was a girl. They weren't sure if he was serious...!

fantastic quiet!

Can I ask a confirmation question on the being on your back thing that was touched on a few posts ago? I am fifteen weeks tomorrow, very small bump. Usually sleep on back or front. I am just starting to feel a bit sick when on front now (although not otherwise uncomfortable) but still feel great sleeping on my back. Is this ok to continue until it is uncomfortable? I'm not sure at what point the baby is big/heavy enough to be a problem to internal things that I can't feel!! Thanks!!

Lovely news with the postive test results from Quiet and Oh

Quiet Love your DH's style in the waiting room too!!

I'm after a bit of advice please. I'm 5 weeks 6 days and for the last few days I've been getting periods of shortness of breath, tight chest and feeling dizzy. Today this has got a lot worse and I feel pretty crap with it. DH wants to go to urgent care but I really don't want to go if it's just one of those preg things.

Has anyone had this before? Did it go away on its own? Is it just because I seem to spend all day FREAKING out about the preg? Do I need to tell anyone? Is it low iron? Answers and fish slaps on a postcard to :G&Tnow @panic.com!

Brilliant news Quiet.

Amicable I always thought the back thing was from the start of third trimester. I remember being told that with DD1, that was 9 years ago so might have changed.

G&T please go and get checked just to be safe.

G&T I felt really out of breath and dizzy from around 5-7 weeks I rang my midwife and she said to make sure I was drinking plenty of water and to take it easy.
I think it is pretty common but if it gets really bad then ring your midwife.

Amicable just googled and current advice is not to do it from 20 weeks onwards.

Sorry to sound daft but where should I go to get checked? Don't have any contact details for MW yet, so should I phone EPU or just see GP?

holly welcome on board.

Ohthedrama and quiettiger happy to hear of the good scan news.

amicable I don't know what the advice is. But I kept sleeping on my back until it's not comfortable last time. I'm 28 weeks now and still sleep on my back. It's my most natural sleep pose. However, I stopped doing core work lying flat on my back. I use a couple of pillows to raise the back a bit.

g&t that doesn't sound right. I think you should contact your midwife.

Great news quiet x

gandt always better safe than sorry in my book, I'd get checked out even if just for peace of mind

amicable I slept on my back for ages when pregnant with dd, I tried to sleep on my side but always ended turning back over in the night. Eventfully the weight of her became too much and that's when I was just on my side, not until about 30 wks tho! I think your body will let you know when it's time to move

Oh in that case, g&t contact your GP. It depends on your area whether this falls into the remit of the EPU. In my trust, there's also a community midwife number to call. But you won't get that information until you have booked in at 8 weeks.

Yay quiet fab news! Welcome holly and congratulations.

G&t I'd get so e advise too, if you call your gp I'm sure they would be able to give you the right contact wether that be epu, community midwife or just an appt with your gp x

Thank you ladies, I'll give them a call in the morning and see what they say. Feel a bit of a fool having been to the GP already about seeing a consultant. Perhaps I'll see if I should wait to see him next Friday. Gah.... medical people always make me feel a bit daft!!

Thanks ladies. Just a quick question, do I need to tell my GP about my pregnancy and have them refer me or will the EPU do that, does my GP need to know at all?

Just a quick one to say hurrah for good thread news today!! drama and tiger

And welcome holly I remember you from the ttc thread, so very pleased to hear of your bfp!! Congrats and hope this is the one!

thanks ladies for the reassurance re: back - that is a relief!

Ohthedrama - EPU will send them a copy of any notes they make on you to your GP

That sentence makes no sense! But yes the EPU tell your GP

drama as ellis said the epu will send notes to your gp and I think it's worth seeing them so they know you're pregnant/it's on your notes in case you should need any medical treatment.

So only news here is I've decided to book another private scan, I'll be just under 11 wks. If I'm going to get bad news at this point I'd rather have it from the clinic/dr I know than a stranger at the hospital at the 12 wk scan. I'm probably being nuts but fir the sake of £50 and just to know what's going on I've decided it's worth it for me.