Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[JBrd]

Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

[MrsGiraffe12]

Hi ladies. Haven't had time to read thread in afraid but after some advice and may get more a response here than in the main forum where I already posted.

19+3 weeks pregnant. 2nd DC, 1st born at 32 weeks due to PET.

Woke in the night with pounding headache last night and some black spots in front of my eyes. Took some paracetamol and had a lot of water to drink and headache has seemed to go but still have occasional black spots in front of eyes.
Feel normal apart from this.

My gut is saying call midwife for a checkup as this can be a sign of PET but I'm also thinking it could be a normal pregnancy symptom too right? Doctor or midwife or leave it till appointment next week?

[CbeebiesIsAboutToPop]

Nope, call midwife NOW

[CbeebiesIsAboutToPop]

I havent had PET with either of my 2 babes, so the chances of me getting it now are very slim, but when I called with similar symptoms a few weeks back they took it very seriously, even though the chances were very slim.

Call the midwife today and get checked out.

[CorporeSarnie]

MrsG, I had a migraine in 1st pg and was taken very seriously. I would call GP or MW asap, get your BP and urine checked today. Even if it is unlikely to be pre-eclampsia, you're at much higher risk, and will be taken seriously.

[NerdyBird]

Morning all (just)

I am loads better today, but working from home just in case. Not had anymore jelly stuff so far, sounds like it could be pushing/straining related. Will ring MW in arvo just to make sure.

So, belated welcomes to the thread babies! Glad to hear fod's dd and thepig's ds's arrived safely.

Also welcome to newbies, sorry some of you are having bleeding. I've had spotting at various points through my pregnancy so far, everything has always been ok, but obviously I'm here because one time it wasn't so I understand.

jbrd really hope you can get your results before the easter break. You've been amazing to have calmly waited so long, I would have been in tatters.

stars just wanted to give you a hug (we're allowed on here) for generally being fab. Read your thread about your MIL. She certainly sounds a nightmare.

I think I might be getting a bit of a prednisolone high (who needs illegal narcotics when you can have pred for free!) ;)

[JBrd]

MrsG I can only echo what the others have said - call the midwife! Better be safe than sorry.

[MrsGiraffe12]

Well I went to walk in gp with my maternity notes and blood pressure is normal. But they think I'm a bit dehydrate hence the headaches. Midwife will see me at clinic on Thursday to double check. Feel a bit better now xx

[frantastic1]

Hello, Can I join this thread please? I had an MMC last Sept - found out that everything had stopped at my 12 week scan, and got a BFP on Sunday. My main thing is just wanting to be able to speak to someone about it, and you all seem every so friendly and supportive.
We have decided not to tell a soul until the 12 week scan, mainly because my MIL was so vile to me last time. We went straight from the hospital to her house when we found out the devastating news... her reaction? Was it something you did? then .. next time you'll have to do things differently!! I have never been so offended in my life.. she got worse and even now I barely speak to her... I'd tell other people our happy new but not MIL.. the hubby thinks we can't tell other people and not her so basically that means I can't tell anyone...
so please you're all currently pregnant.. I know its stressfull and you worry every second of every day so I'll send you all a big hug xx

[Alb1]

mrsg glad your ok, you did the right thing, deff better safe than sorry!
jbrd really hope u get ur results before the weekend, uv had such an agonising wait, just glad uv got things to keep it mind off it!
Welcome fran your MIL sounds very insensitive suggesting there's anything you could have done, I'm not surprised u barly speak to her now! How far along are you now?

Just a quick question, my 20 week scan is tomorrow, do I need a full bladder for this one? Or is the baby big enough now that it doesn't matter? The letter doesn't say anythin about it

[frantastic1]

I'm 4+4 so still very early days

[CorporeSarnie]

Glad to hear all's well, MrsG, but definitely worth getting checked out.
Welcome to fran, sorry that your MIL was so awful and fingers crossed for an entirely uneventful pregnancy. A difficult one - If you're happy to tell and you'd rely on their support if the worst happened again, those are the people I'd tell.
Alb, pretty sure by 20w they don't need a full bladder, but you can always call your MW/the ultrasound unit to double-check. Might be worth sitting with a bottle of water while you wait. Never have I been so relieved as when they told me to go and wee during my scan at 5w (when they switched from abdo to internal).

[bakingtins]

Welcome fran and hope it all goes well for you this time. I can completely understand why you don't want to tell MIL, but if you have a friend or relative who is likely to be supportive then it does help to be able to talk about it with someone.

alb you don't need a full bladder for 20 week scan, baby is up out of your pelvis by then. Good luck with it!

mrsG hope you feel better soon

[MrsGiraffe12]

I just feel like I'm always moaning. I'm so blessed to be pregnant again but feeling so poorly takes the shine away a bit. Glad to see everyone else is feeling well for the most part :-)

[Woodl3s]

Just wanted to say hi! I had an absorbed miscarriage in Dec, found out the day before my 12 week scan. Me and my fiancé decided to try again, and I found out a couple of days ago that I'm nearly 5 weeks pregnant :)

We are very nervous now, and my fiancé doesn't want to tell anyone until I'm 20 weeks! Told him I'll probably be showing by then, so might have to tell people earlier! But definitely not before the 12 week scan.

I'm going to the dr on fri, and going to my local early pregnancy clinic at 6 weeks, to check for the heart beat.
So fingers crossed everything goes well this time!

It'll be good to talk to people who have been through the same as myself. My friends and family have been very supportive, but most of them haven't had a miscarriage, or children. I'm trying not to let myself get too excited this time, especially this early on. But it is an exciting time!

[MabelMay]

Welcome fran and wood and congratulations! I think the very early weeks after BFP and after you've had a MC are the scariest of all - but we've all been there and are here for handholding. I'm currently 10+5 weeks after two MCs (one MMC) last year (I also have two DCs).

I know you've both decided not to tell anyone but I actually found, because of my MCs, that I wanted a bit of RL understanding. So I told a couple of friends who I trusted (and who knew about previous MCs) and my mum. It's actually really helped. So of course it's up to you but it's not necessarily a bad thing to have a few close friends know so that they can be there for off-loading and support and will understand should anything go wrong - which I'm sure it won't.

Sorry wood for my ignorance. What's an absorbed miscarriage? So sorry for your previous loss. Fingers crossed for you that this is a happy, uneventful pregnancy!

[amicablemoomin]

Fran, I'm about the same way along as you, can't believe the MIL - what a terrible thing to say.

I'm getting a lot of tummy pain particularly at night - it wakes me up. I know a certain amount is normal. This pain feels like period pain - is this normal does anyone know? thanks!

[fedupofrainydays]

moomin I had lots of pain in this pregnancy too - like bad cramps that kept me away. Was scared I was miscarrying again but there wasn't any blood. It's not on one side is it?

I too told people in RL like my family and best friends who know about my mcs and could support me / understand my mentalness during this preg. It has helped. Your MIL sounds pretty hideous fran and what a terrible thing to say to you. No wonder you don't want to tell her this time round

[amicablemoomin]

thanks fedup, just general overall pain, really just like I get with my period...when did your cramps calm down? No blood thankfully - last mc had very painful cramps followed by bleeding...

hope everyone is doing well tonight!

[kitkat321]

tinks you could phone your local epu to see if they will book you in for a scan?

Mine have been fab - after my second mc they did all the blood tests which you normally need to have 3 mc's before you get this. I also have a scan next week - I'll be 7+6 on day of scan and they were more than happy to book me in no questions asked - maybe worth a try?

[fedupofrainydays]

I don't think I had any of those cramps beyond 7or 8 weeks. They were worst in the very early days so say 4 to 6 wks. Once I took a couple of paracetamol as needed to numb the pain as it was keeping me awake and scaring me. I also used a hot water bottle to help with cramps too - bit then got scared the heat was a bad thing but after much googling it was concluded ok!! I had some other really bad cramps at about 12 weeks bit it was after I did a large poo (sorry tmi) and that was very scary. Not had it since though.

Also with my ds I had very bad cramps that I booked an appt with my doctor - turns out I was pregnant!! So for me cramps are 'normal' but still scary as like you they weren't always good news.

It's great there is no blood so it's a good sign and all over too.

[LondonJen]

Nerdy I am so pleased to hear you are better.

MrsG I was just thinking today how all of the symptoms I have had might be 'normal' and yet if I wasn't pg I would consider myself ill with all of them! They all make me want to moan, even though I chide myself I should be appreciating it. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Fran I am so sorry your MIL is such an insensitive t**tbag! I just can't believe the things some people say. You will find supportive types here so settle in and welcome!

Moomin I have mostly had stabby pains the whole way through this pg (15wks tomorrow) but they've been the same place I would normally get period cramps so seems to be normal for me. I have had other aches and pains but like you say not the same as the actual mc pain.

Wood my dp was very much like that (I had mmc in Oct, now 15 wks pg) when we found out suggesting no-one must know. I said I might need the support of a friend and why did we tell people if not for a hand hold in future? It wasn't long before he said he understood and didn't mind if I needed to share. In the end, he told a friend before I did!! I told 2 good friends at 8 weeks. In the meantime this board was a god send.

Jbrd gald to hear you're busy, second all the others you're such a trooper. Hope you will soon be in the know.

[Woodl3s]

mable thanks for your advice :) I have told my mum (she knows everything about me!) and a close friend. However, my fiancé doesn't know I've told them, as he would rather wait until we know for sure. He doesn't like the whole 'pity/I feel sorry for you' charade.
An absorbed mc was described to me by my sonographer as this: I had my scan a day before my 12 week scan. The baby had died at around 5 weeks, and (as it was a ball of cells), it absorbed back into my womb. However, the amniotic sac continued to grow, so my body still thought it was pregnant.

I felt a bit silly afterwards really, as the baby would have died by the time I had told people, so there was no baby. But I have since realised that I still thought I was pregnant, as did my body, and it's not my fault.

I'm wondering when to go for my scan to check for the heartbeat. The sonographer did say to ring the clinic when I thought I was 6 weeks. However, from the stories I've read online, some people have seen no heartbeat then, and had to go back at a later stage. Has anyone had this experience? Any advice?

[BabyTinks]

Evening girls. Had docs today, works out i'm around 6 weeks 1 day on a normal average 28 day cycle. Although i'm later cycles and ovulated later im guessing so i reckon i'm only 4 weeks 6 days....

I have had these stabbing pains also right on my left tube area.... Really worried :( also suffered like electric shock type sharp pains!! I dread to go to the loo now in case i see something i dont wanna see!!!

[BabyTinks]

Oh and at my doctor will not get me in for a 6-8 week scan unless i have suffered 3 miscarriages!!! Stupid, so if i want a scan i have to pay £80 to confirm if my baby has a heart beat, and if the pregnancy is there! Should i do it!!!???

[Woodl3s]

london my fella is quite stubborn! So I know I'll be the one how lets the cat out the bag haha. That's why I've joined, although I've told my mum and friend (in secret), I'd go mad, not being able to discuss it with anyone and everyone! So at least I can vent/panic/praise/etc on here!