You have attracted nasty or worried comments because some of your posts make you appear irrational.
It is just not rational to call the entire working staff of the NHS staff 'crummy' or 'low rent'. Mistakes can happen and perhaps you have suffered as a result and feel bitter about the NHS, but this still doesn't make it rational to right off the entire of the NHS, after all many staff work for both the NHS and also do private hospital work.
You get good at something when you specialise in it and do it a lot, midwifes study their specialty and see a lot of births, that is what makes them competent and this is why I would rather have my rather amazing (NHS) midwife who I have know for my last 2 births than my General Practitioner (GP).
Perhaps you think MN is a bit of a joke and it doesn't matter what you write? That's up to you, but you will miss out of lots of advice and support, that doesn't matter for you right now as it's all really easy at the moment, you have just fallen pg and you can laugh at how silly you think we all sound.
Later on your DC's will do things that will fox you completely, asking on MN could provide you will a solution...but NOT if you come on and alienate a whole swathe of people...the same goes for real life.
That lady with the expensive nappy bag and the baby that she has named Lily-Mae, who she has dressed in a tu tu and bought a top of the range Bugaboo for might have just the answer that might solve your problem...but she won't give you the answer if you tell everyone in your posts how people who buy Bugaboos do so just to keep up with the jones, and if she is a midwife or a nurse she definitely won't tell you!
FWIW a lot of parents choose the items that they buy on the basis of how comfortable it will be for their baby and how easy the item is to use not for how they will look to other people...personally imposing clothes that have been near bleach on a baby (even if you have rinsed them several extra times) and wrapping them up with two terry squares is all about what you want and not about what you baby might want.
My daughter used to wear a tu tu when we went out, she wanted to dress like a favorite character, she wore the tu tu until it was nearly in shreds when (thankfully) she out grew it. I let her wear it because there no point fighting over such a small issue with your 2 year old and mostly because it made her happy!