Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

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hello everyone, I haven't written anything here for ages somehow - life has been very busy. In the last couple of weeks I've really started to feel truly pregnant (so I should, I'm nearly 31 weeks!). My dh looked at me getting up this morning (stark naked closing bedroom window) and said hmm yes you are pregnant aren't you... foolish creature, he's been watching my tummy ripple for ages now. Still, neither of us really believe, still, that we're actually going to have a baby/child/son/daughter coming to live with us, forever, in less than 3 months time.
Reading all the posts from people who are still early reminds me so much of that first endless 4 months or so, when you have no way of telling if everything is still ok, and you know that there's nothing to be done if it isn't. Much sympathy and solidarity to everyone who's in the first few weeks. They do pass, and the reassurance of a kicking baby is wonderful (for me at least).
Keep well, everyone.

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Morning all

Firstar- that's good that you will get special care for heart problem, i hope it doesn't cause any problems though.

Time4tea- I'm a bit confused by your post, the stuff about ds/dh and 20 weeks was that meant for me? I'm not to sure what it means, but not to worry.

Daisy- I was in sydney on the weekend when it was 42, but that is not normal, I moved from sydney 6 months ago to a property in the country, which is lovely.

I have my nuchal scan monday morning, feels like my last hurdle, hoping for good news but still scared of having another missed m/c.

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aha... sorry Uki, the stuff about DPs feeling strange was for Daisybump, as her DP seemed a bit emotional at the scan. good luck for the nuchal today.

lovely to hear from LittleFrog! you sound in great form

First-star - take good care of yourself, your heart and your little one.

love to all today. I'm over the worst of the cold, and have a quiet weekend planned. quite a relief as we had a lot on with friends and family recently, which was fun but a lot to juggle. I've definitely got that pre-birth lack of focus now, apart from preparing the house for baby.

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Hello all, thank you for the warm welcome! It's lovely to see how you are all getting on, I hope all is well with you...

I'm a bit more settled now but obviously still a little anxious and on knicker watch! Things have been really nice around the house - DH and I seem to be in a really good mood about this and it's nice to have a secret that only we can share. He suggested I tell my closest friend (who is currently 20wks) and I'm glad I did because I can talk to somebody now!

Not getting too many symptoms just yet but I'm not going to read into it too much because every pregnancy is different after all! Went to the GP and he confirmed I'm about six weeks. I said I don't know if I should demand a scan or wait for a few weeks and he said it would be too early anyways so I'm going to wait for a while. It's strange because I'm kind of in denial, but not (if you know what I mean!)

The good news is that DH has got a job - massive relief and amazing because he had the interview before we did the test and had any idea about the pg...

My only concern is that he is planning something big for my 30th and I'm going to have to lie to people about why I can't drink!

Take care all xxxxxx

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Thank you sooo much firststar! That's a brilliant idea! My actual birthday is Feb 5th but I think he's got something planned for the weekend before... I think I'll use the antibiotics excuse because DH doesn't drink LOL!

I know I said I haven't got any symptoms but I forgot that I seem to be crying at the drop of a hat so I suppose that's a symptom? My emotions are all over the place!

btw, I've noticed people saying something about a September thread - where do I find this?

Hi everyone , how are you all, not long left now t4t, glad you feel better!

Welcome to all the newbies, im sure you will get so much support here as i do!

Uki - hope that scan has gone well xxxx

I am 10 +1 today and i have a scan tomorrow, that will be the big milestone for me as i found out about our m/c last time at 10+2, so just waitng to get it out the way with, trying to be really postive about it as i sill feel sick , boobs still hurt , no cramps or bleeding and still suffering consterpation and genrelly feeling like crap! - in a good way! .

Can i ask a personal question please which is a TMI alert!!
What ( at my stage) ws your Viginal discharge like (- sorry) - i know that we all experince but i cant remember what mine was like with my son?? _ Thank you xxx

Hi Scan went well, so i'll let it all sink in now-a baby on the way-yay

Pink good luck for yours tomorrow. I guess i'm close to you 11+5 today, so in answer to your Q. I've had a smallish amount of whitish discharge every day. I think it's normal and meant to increase thoughout pg, got a little worried when it was a wee bit yellow, but i think that's ok

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Just wanted to share my good news with similar folk. I have tested positive this morning after having an mc at 11 weeks at end of Nov. I am surprised but thrilled to be pg again the first month of trying. Now here comes the 8 weeks of obssessing about mc. Does everyone do that in our situation?

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welcome Taichimum - I tried to just fill up my days with things I enjoy or find absorbing of headspace... worrying is inevitable but gets you nowhere. I'd have gone nuts without MN - at least everyone here understands and is going through it at the same time. Even though in RL I had friends (including best friend) who had experienced mc and gone on to be pg again, the feelings are so intense somehow I found this thread the most helpful... somehow you manage to blank out the feelings after a while perhaps,especially when you end up with a lovely healthy baby, whereas it is fresh for all of us here. I love the way you can just post on here with tricky issues or sad feelings, or just odd thoughts, and often within minutes or hours there will be friendly words in response. It's the kind of thing that is magical about internet! meeting regularly for a discussion group or phone link ups seem so much more complicated with timings etc. this is great.

I also found it helpful to do positive things to remember the baby I lost - gardening, meditation, discussions with my local priest, who was amazing (he told me why - he had been the local priest at St Mary's Paddington, and had counselled lots of women who had come in to his church quite distressed before/after appointments, he has gone on to have special services in our church for people who have lost babies or children)

wishing you every good thing in this pregnancy and welcome among this great great group of kind women X they're the best

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Not posted since last week...hope everyone is well. Welcome to this thread Taichimum and big smiles and hugs to you . I'll be crossing it all for you over the next few weeks. See if you can get a GP referral to your EPU..I had a scan at around 7 wks with this one and just seeing this little beating blob made all the difference to how I felt about this pg having a positive outcome...

hi ladies ,
welcome tachiemum , second daisy on gettin an early scan, i have been private for a couple of scans but this has just put m mind at rest!
Had scan on tuesday and everything is well, saw arms and legs, cord, it was amazing, Have one more on the 15th and then no more until 20weeks
Dont know how i will cope with out having a scan every 2 week!!

Not long now t4t -how are you feeling ??? do you have other DC??

hello all, DH suggested I did a bit of MN'ing (see how he knows all about you!) I'm glad my last post warmed a heart or two.

I'm staying at my in-laws while some building work is being done on our house - with DS (nearly 3 ) while DH is at home supervising the work. I had a big cry in bed last night about the baby I mc last April - as the birth comes nearer it seems more and more weird to be in this situation of having a birth so soon. I still can't believe that it will all come good - we were a year ttc the baby that died, then this baby came along a month later. But all in all, I've been pg for nearly a year (in fact - odd coincidence - the LMP date for the baby we lost was 1 Feb 2006). DH rightly says that you need to take risks sometimes for good things to happen. But it seems so weird. Like DS, this baby is in breech and snuggles his/her head against my hand sometimes, but I can't feel the same love and excitement I felt last time round - just relief that the baby is still moving, an inability to think beyond today (all the prep like the hospital bag and bringing out baby clothes seem a bit unreal). I'm just relieved the elective CS is booked - I couldn't bear any more uncertainty - but full of fear for this baby's health and safety, and my own response - knowing that you can't plan how you feel and you just have to 'surf the wave' according to how your feelings take you...

thanks again all for being here! I would be pretty deranged without you (we should suggest a deranged smiley to MN Central to add to the others as its a fairly common mummy emotion )

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thanks First star - your post has helped me make a plan. 1) give some time to thinking about the lost baby as well as this new little one and accept the weirdness 2) take my own advice and schedule some nice things over the next two and a half weeks until the big day...
thanks again XXX

Pink - remember the words of the wise and knowledgeable Prof Regan - if you get to see a heartbeat, you are 97% sure of bringing home a lovely baby. Plus in a few weeks you'll start feeling your baby move about.

take it easy lovely ladies

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Hello everybody, I am just popping on to wish everybody well. I know how hard a pregnancy after a misscariage can be. I started the first Pregnancy after miscarriage thread in August 2005. I miscarried in April 2005, like timefortea, I was pregnant again very soon after this. The pregnancy went off without a hitch, but despite this i had plenty of hospitals visits to check everything was OK. My baby is now 9 months old and he is everything you want from a baby. despite this i will never forget the baby i lost or the horrendus experience that was the misscariage. Mumsnet was a life saver to me then, and I so am glad you guys are continuing to get the support you need here.

Hello there! Just got a positive result so early days of being pg, but not sure of dates due to after effects of a m/c in November... If I am right, I think I am coming up to 6 weeks. I am going to ask for a dating scan - mostly to see if they can get a heartbeat - can anyone tell me is this always and internal scan or can they do a normal ultrasound?

Thanks...

In my experience, the 6 week scan is internal. I don't think the babe's big enough to be seen externally