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Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

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mygirllolipop · 08/08/2006 14:39

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Daisybump · 12/12/2006 14:01

Well done firstar I felt much the same after I had a bleed at about 7 weeks. When we saw the tiny bean and the big heart beat it was the most magical thing ever. Sending you lots of positive vibes for the next few weeks, and hope that you can relax a bit more now.
Big hugs and s

gillian1973 · 12/12/2006 14:52

Well done Firststar - you are an inspiration to those of us who have mc before. Many, many congratulations.

Uki, (that I know of) I'm not pregnant just offering support to FirstStar and luckily her outcome was better than mine 2 months ago.

firststar · 12/12/2006 14:56

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gillian1973 · 12/12/2006 15:16

Yes, thanks. Good days and bad days, but you have really given me hope today after your scan.

My AF is very erratic after the MC and we have decided to wait until the new year before we try again as we are going on holiday and just want a break from it all.

However, because my AF is late I am getting a little bit concerned that I may be pg again which would send us both into a spin (I am supposed to start malaria tablets on Thurs ). I'll be testing tomorrow....

firststar · 12/12/2006 15:29

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littlefrog · 12/12/2006 16:16

Firststar, I'm so happy for you! Lovely news. And welcome uki. How is everyone else - bearing up with Christmas planning? I am grinding my teeth today with piles of marking; I don't mind the marking itself it's plagiarism I can't stand... drives me insane - such a waste of everyone's time. Seems like there's been a rash of it this year. Spit. So it's nice to come here and find happy and distracting news!

gillian1973 · 12/12/2006 17:43

We are going to India for 2 1/2 weeks, something we have been so looking forward to after the MC I just cannot describe it. As for the malaria tablets, I'd rather not go there. It is not recommended in the first trimester and can bring risk of MC and abnormalities. However, i have read a study which recommends taking folic acid and vitamins to counteract the effect.

I don't want to make any decisions unless I have to. I'll keep you posted tomorrow....

time4tea · 12/12/2006 20:16

Great news First Star!!! I'm so delighted for you. Great also that you have good mw and other carers. too knackered for much posting today, but couldn't wait to see how you did today.
Xx

3flightsofsleighbellsring · 12/12/2006 23:47

Lovely news firststar how great! You must be on top of the world and you deserve it after waiting so patiently for your scan. You've inspired me to stop stressing!

firststar · 13/12/2006 07:46

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Uki · 13/12/2006 08:56

Hello All

Thanks for the welcomes

Firstsar-so pleased scan went well, and how delightful to see the hesrtbeat for the first time, bet you can't wait now for the wave.

Gillian- thanks again for the congrat's. I'll ad my 2p about the maleria tabs if you want. Is it a really high risk area for maleria, as if not maybee you could just take the tablets with you and take them if you get any symptoms of maleria. i have had dr say that as alot of places arn't that high risk, it's just recommended and on the account of the tablets sometimes making you very ill, some of my friends and i just take them with us when traveling to asia. the worst places are of course rainforests/jungles and wetlands/lakes where there are tonnes of mosquitioes. Anyway just thought of it as an option, but maybe do some more research, could check others travel posts.

littlefrog · 13/12/2006 10:02

Hope you get the result you want today Gillian! On malaria tablets, I was in the same position as you earlier this year, and got lots of advice from different doctors and the Hospital for Tropical Diseases. It's a bit of a pickle to know what to do, quite frankly - basically they said that only chloroquine is known to be ok, but it's pretty ineffective as a prophylactic. You shouldn't take malarone and mustn't take doxycycline. Larium is taken, but it's not licensed for the first trimester. Depending on exactly where you're going and what you'll be doing my instinct would be to be obsessive about covering up and coating myself in mosquito repellant. Anyway, as I said, I hope it comes out the way you want it to!
Time4tea, hope you're feeling less weary today, and that everyone else is well too.

gillian1973 · 13/12/2006 11:32

Thanks all, it was a BFN this morning and possibly the only time I'll add a smiley to that!

AF is still not here but I have seen a few threads on people being very late and skipping periods so I am not going to stress about it. We will enjoy our holiday without the spectre of harming our unborn child with malaria tablets (we are going to be near a lake so I would have had to take them) and hopefully the new year will bring better news.

You have all been great, enjoy your pregnancies!

firststar · 14/12/2006 09:25

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firststar · 14/12/2006 13:46

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Uki · 14/12/2006 21:19

excellent firstar
i've just started, after the first week of excitement i think the fear sets in.

I think the chant is healthy for mind, body and baby!!!!!
Do you try and visualize a healthy baby too as you do it?

firststar · 15/12/2006 09:34

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Uki · 15/12/2006 09:47

ah typical IT types always changing things, my dh is constantly upgrading things when they worked fine as they were.

I agree harder to read.
yesterday I went and bought more asprin and they have changed the pack from a mainly white and red one (very medical looking) to a british racing green and fluro orange pulsing design!!!

I don't really suffer ms but wanted to throw up. I can't look at it, and that's from someone who used to quite like psychadelic things.

Uki · 15/12/2006 09:53

Had my first appointment today, i'm 5+2 weeks, so early. I have first scan booked for jan 8 yah!!!!

He took blood pressure and reakons i will get a problem later with it, why did he tell me that????

Did anothewr test when i came home as he didn't do one, and had a spare. Dark positive straight away. I have 3 tests to hang on the christmas tree now Xmas Wink.

firststar · 15/12/2006 10:18

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time4tea · 15/12/2006 19:05

hello all

still a bit knackered but wanted to chat. had 30 week visit to hosp. today, to discuss mode of birth etc. baby sounding good on sonicaid, all normal. I had been very strung out a few weeks ago because of repeated failures to get test results on thryroid (I have a slightly low thyroid function) luckily finally the results were in normal range - so all ok. However, the dr tells me today that the mw and GP care should have flagged me earlier as a high-risk pg because of previous cs and thyroid problem. I now feel sort of shocked/frightened/relieved that I've 'got away with it' no thanks to medical care I've received so far, only purest luck. Feeling now a bit freaked out by it all, and worried about the baby being in some way not healthy, even though everything so far has been indicating a healthy baby.

Having had a cs already, we had a talk then about the VBAC v second elective cs (DS was born by elective cs because in breech) Given that there's a 40% chance of an emergency cs in this situation anyway, and I'm not committed to having the experience of natural birth (as many women are, entirely sensibly and understandably), I asked for another cs. I know there are lots of threads on this issue and I've read through them all, and sometimes got a bit upset by some judgemental tones on both sides. Having had the mc, and a tough pg (5 months sickness, thyroid and diabetes scares) I can't face uncertainty of a VBAC. I know this is the right decision in my head, but still feel a bit cowardly?I think that's the feeling I'm having.

anyway, it helps to write it down to friends. hope you are all doing ok. First Star, I'm still delighted for you. A drop of good news here goes a long way XXXXX

Uki · 17/12/2006 09:48

Hi All

Hope you are feeling better than me.

Long selfish and uncomfortable moan comming.............

I woke this morning to find boobs less sore and as i have no ms or anything else i fear that my pg is over already. I burst into tears and feel throughly down, mainly down that i'm so worried. Really wish i wasn't.

I think it all started yesterday when friend told me she was 17 weeks, previously she said they weren't having another for a long time, and the last 2 times i saw her while she would have been pg, she never said anything. I don't get it, i guess she was trying to protect me or something, but now i just feel like how will i ever get to 17 weeks????

On top of that there's a thread on here moaning about being pg a christmas, and how they can't drink, eat cheese it's really heartbreaking to read it , don't know why i did, I don't care what i miss out on, i just want a baby!!!!

How will i get through these first 12 weeks ideally 40????

Feel very emotional and have headaches today is that a good sign?

3flightsofsleighbellsring · 17/12/2006 10:25

Hi everyone, hope everyone's feeling tired, emotional and thoroughly pg - I think it is a good sign Uki. I know what you mean about the not being allowed to eat/drink stuff, I read the whole of the not drinking when you're pg thread and thought well, it's nice if they are all the worries you have!

I'm too scared to post on my ante natal thread as I don't want to upset anyone - but I'm in floods this morning knowing that I have my CVS tomorrow and that has a 1-2% risk of mc (over and above the 33% that we have normally due to dodgy chromosomes).

We've got to 12 weeks so I should be over the moon, but this is for me the scariest bit. As we're this far along it's difficult to think of what might happen if the results show that baby either won't make it to full term or the procedure makes me miscarry. I even felt some baby butterflies when I was scrunched up on the sofa yesterday. I still want to have the CVS as i couldn't stand to lose a baby at 30something weeks or when it is born - it's bad enough before 12 and I really didn't cope with my 3rd mc well at all. I've already had a genetics woman from the hospital asking if she can write to my GP to arrange a termination if we get bad results and I was really matter of fact about everything and then broke down afterwards. I know it's their procedure, but really

Trying to take comfort in the fact that we have a beautiful DS and so it can happen. But it really feels like it's just as bad as the last time.

Really sorry for the long post, hope you're all well (or rather throwing up with ms as that's a comfort )

ticklemepinkwithtinsel · 17/12/2006 13:22

hi ladies can i join?????

Got my BFP this morning very happy but as you all know very worried but what trying not to think about that.
I had a missed misscarrge at 10 weeks in august baby died at 6 so i will pushing to get an early scan! do you do this private or can my doctor arrange this ???

so many questions ! xxxx

time4tea · 17/12/2006 22:08

3Flights - wishing you good luck for tomorrow, on all fronts. Good things can happen, remember that. Will be with fingers crossed for you. Do you get results straight away?
Ticklemepink - congratulations and welcome. by all means, push for an early scan with your GP and the hospital unit, although there seems to be big variation as to how willing they are to do this.
Uki, I think there's something in the air right now, lots of us seem a bit demoralised. Certainly it seems to be a good indicator of pregnantness, I've felt ready to bite the head off a few people! obviously not my season to be jolly, fa-la-la-la-la

take care everyone

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