Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

[mygirllolipop]

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2Cats - curry? OonaghBhuna's fantastic nickname has certainly given me the urge. Or rather, even more of an urge than normal.

GP called and said the blood tests are normal - so no gestational diabetes after all - whoopee!!!! I'm going out tonight with some girlfriends to a gastropub so will scoff a big sugary pudding to celebrate It's a real relief, the more I read about diabetes in pregnancy the more of a 'worry I could just do without' it seemed.

It's nice to get some good news - I've realised how jumpy and easily demoralised I can get.

Meanwhile, back at twocats towers, nothing had happened...

t4t - have already tried the curry route, but may have to try that again. Good excuse to go to M&S and get a nice Thai curry, in fact! Glad the blood sugar is all good - I don't think I could have survived the last nine months without puddings!

mygirl -any news with you?

Hope everyone else is good and well!

The name was inspired by my love of spicy food, particularly indian and Thai YUM!!!!! Maybe the spicy food will get things moving.......

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afternoon all - it's very quiet on here, hope everyone is OK.

It's also, still, very quiet here. Went to the midwives today, who've given me a sweep to try and hurry things along - but also said that the first one very rarely works, so it's back on Wed for round two. Although, to be honest, I could do with hanging on another day or two to get rid of this cold!

Hope all is well with you all....

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yes we have been quiet haven't we... I'm having a day off and off to the plant nursery to buy plants for spring, was keen to have a bit of time to myself on the due date for the baby I lost in the spring. I'm surprised how Ok I feel - maybe now (especially with the good news on the diabetes tests last week after the scare) I feel a bit more robust that some things will go right after all. My DS has started talking to the tummy most days without any kind of prompting which makes it all a bit more real that we'll be a little family if the rest of the pregnancy goes to plan. I'll always be sad about losing that baby but I think now I have managed to learn something from it - to take really good care of myself and the people I care for and forget about other stuff, after many years of trying to be more sensible about demands of work etc and failing, I am being a bit kinder to myself..

anyway, hope you all have a peaceful day and that your beautiful babies start their entrance into the world (treat yourselves to big curry lunch;) 2Cats and MyGirl)

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Wow, lots of people on the verge of meeting their babies - how lovely!
All ok here; had a go of what felt like cystitis last week, but the GP didn't pick anything up with one of those sticks, and it seems to have gone again now, so who knows what it was.
Back at work again now after a week away in Cornwall (bliss); work ok, but the freezing cold of the house (still no roof no boiler) is getting silly!
T4T, hope today has gone ok; the due date for the baby I lost was 26th December, so I'm hoping that Christmas will prove a distraction. Planting things sounds like a lovely thing to spend the day doing.
Hope everyone else is well

Well still no news here - am rather off the curry solution at the moment, as I had one on Saturday night, and promptly threw it all up again, as my stomach can't seem to cope with rich food at the moment. Am walking round and sniffing clary sage oil instead, but with no seeming result. Hey ho.

t4t - hope today was OK and your gardening was theraputic - it sounds like just the right thing to do. I was in work for my due date, and really wished I hadn't been.

Littlefrog - glad you had a good break - Cornwall must have been beautiful in this weather. I had on and off cystitis all throught the second trimester, and the doctor never found anything, but I found that a daily dose of cranberry juice stopped it from ever getting too painful.

How's everyone else getting on?

Hi to all on this link....

I'm 37 and 8+3 weeks
DH 39
DS4.5 years

MC at 11 weeks last Nov. and 6 weeks in April.
Mixed feelings about this one...had a scan at 6+4 and saw a bean with a really strong heartbeat...so re-assured and the photo is helping me to focus on a positive outcome.
Reading through this link, there seems to have been some additional support from the medical profession for those of you who have had two mc. My GP told me after mc No 2 that they wouldn't consider any form of testing unless I'd had 3 mc which is not really helpful or re-assuring. Have you gone private or are you not in the UK? Should I be shouting for more support? I have coeliac disease which is an auto-immune disorder and no-one can tell me whether or not this has been a factor in the 2 mcs (I didn't start to have any symptoms until two years ago). I'm not seeng mw till almost 12 wks and am going quietly potty.
It's all a bit confusing and scary, and DH is being less than supportive on the emotional front. He just keeps saying 'it's going to be fine' and then does some more housework. He can't understand how I feel about things and thinks that helping around the house and with our DS is giving emotional support. Maybe he's just tryring to be posistive (for my sake as well as his) but I would just like him to give me a big hug and tell me he's scared too.
Need to buy some new bras as boobs like bricks and have grown...last times bras don't fit any more but I feel so superstitious about things that I won't buy the bras incase it's a case of tempting fate....at this rate I'll be squeezing myself into my normal clothes at 30 weeks (smiles)

anyway it's nice to read all your stories and to know that I'm not alone...moan over for the moment.

Daisybump xx

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Haven't posted since my initial post a few weeks ago - but my ms is finally gone (I hope) at 17+5.

Daisybump - I didn't get any testing until after my 3rd m/c. I tried making a fuss after my 2nd but got nowhere. But then I wasn't that reassured by the few tests that they did eventually do.

Daisybump - I didn't have any tests on the NHS, but did get (after some shouting) an early reassurance scan at about the stage you're at. Where are you? If I'd stayed in London, I could have self-referred to the EPU at St Thomas's - they basically said that, as I'd miscarried before, they'd see me for a reassurance scan any time. But down here I got my GP to refer me. And I know what you mean about tempting fate, we bought nothing, and I mean nothing, for the baby until I got to at least 30 weeks. And, at 41 weeks today, I still haven't unpacked the cot, just in case...

Mygirl - hope you have better luck with the curry and pineapple than I did - the only thing that seems to work for me is the clary sage oil, and that only brings on twinges!

I had another sweep this morning, which doesn't seem to have done much. Although I could actually do without anything happening, at least until tomorrow morning. It's our local mad carnival tonight, and not only do I want to go and have a look, but it blocks up all of the roads in town and not even the police can guarantee that we'll be able to get out of our road! They said we could always call an ambulance. That would be just my luck...

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Yes, I thought something might be going on last night, as I had some quite intense period-style pains, but it seems to be more to do with standing up for too long watching the carnival than anything resembling birth... Still, at least we didn't have to go anywhere during the madness. I'm now booked in to see the consultant on Mon, if nothing has happened by then. Blimey, this is turning into a bit of a saga - right I'm off to sniff some more clary sage oil and then try and tackle some gardening while the weather is good.

Hope everyone else is well.

morning all!
another update from me -
went to Paddington St marys yesterday for another scan (recurrent miscarriage clinic - ive had 4 mc now)
and this week i saw a heartbeat - wow it was a lovely moment - and Ive been told that theres now a 90% chance everything will be ok!
Now been told that im 6 and half weeks and due about 30th June.
Daisybump - i was "made" to have my third miscarriage so that they would then start investigations - but do you know what? the only difference this time is that im now taking 150mg of dissolvable asprin a day - to thin my blood - now if i'd known that after my first miscarriage maybe i wouldnt have had to have gone through 3 more - any way feeling very large and suffering hunger/nausea - im off to work in 40 mins - so id better go and eat something!

Twocats....I'm in Leeds and there is an EPU at St James's. I did have a scan at 6+4 and saw a strong heartbeat...a good sign but they couldn't give me any re-assurances that things would continue to be fine and I'm still worried things will go wrong. Don't know whether I'll get a dating scan as they dated me at the EPU and they seem a bit stingy with things around here (my notes came through from the midwife and there was a leaflet on getting a nuchal fold scan done cos of my age (37...not that old!!) This would need to be private as they don't do them on the NHS and if I get it done privately, then I wont get my 10wk dating scan!!!)
I hope that everything will be ok, I'm sure I'm just being a big scaredy cat, but you've all been there....it's not something I think I can go through again and remain mentally intact. I could always go back to the EPU...they did say anytime, but I don't like to bother them. Don't really want to have the nuchal fold scan either, it seems as though there would be a lot of stress involved if the results were doubtful and I wouldn't have an amnio or cvs anyway. Best not to know...I think

Anyway...sounds like you are ready to drop twocats and lollipop. Good luck!!

Hello everyone, seems to me like we are all going through or have been through similar things. I am new to mumsnet, only found it yesterday ! and am I glad . I am supposed to be 8 weeks and 2 days. Have had 3 MC's so I am on regular scans every Sat. Went last weekend when I was 7 and 2 days and they could find a heartbeat. I am so worried that I have lost another one. I's sure that I should have a heart beat by this stage. I couldn't make anything out on the scan the sonographer said the CRL was only 2.4 mm. Is it happening again

hello DaisyB, JustBeMe and Sunshyne, I feel for you being at this early stage, I was just in total denial about the whole thing, it is a rotten rotten time and apart from trying to keep busy with things which you enjoy to give you the chance of a little break away from focusing on your worries, nothing much worked for me in getting through it.

Although I can really really recommend Lesley Regan's book Your Pregnancy Week by Week, which has lots of excellent information about all the aspects of pregnancy including things that can go wrong in very clear detail. It helped me get things in perspective and is really non-judgemental, good for those moments in the middle of the night when you just panic. There are also nice stats about the chances of a good outcome at the various stages.
Sunshyne, just looked up how early you should see a heartbeat, LRegan says as long as there is a sac at this stage fine, it is not uncommon to not see a heartbeat at this stage, embryo may have implanted a few days later than your dates suggest. good luck for Saturday

good luck all 3 of you, as I said, I really feel for you in these early weeks.

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Nope, nothing happening at all! A couple of twinges when I got up this morning, but they've gone, and I feel brighter and perkier than I have for days... all of this despite trying practically every remedy known to pregnant-woman-kind last night. Today, according to my DH, I will mostly be spending going up and down the stairs sideways. And sending emails to people telling them that I am still here... How about you, any hints yet?

Daisybump - understand what you're saying about the nuchal fold and everything, it is hard isn't it. But if you have a dating scan coming up, that's at least something to look forward to. (Here, a standard pregnancy only gets 1 scan, at 20 weeks, which is why I got a bit insistent about seeing something earlier!)

Hello everyone else!

Hello mrgirlolipop and timefortea, Thankyou very much for your responses you have put my mind at rest as much as it can be at this stage. I am going to go out at lunchtime to get Lesley Regan's book sounds like a must ! I just cant help but worry especially as I was told that the fact I was feeling nauseaus and had incredibly tender/hot breast was a really good sign and this stopped on Monday. I seem to be latching onto all the negative stuff as a way of self preservation. I can't wait until I can allow myself to believe everything is going to be OK. All you supporting comments are very comforting, thanks once again