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Anyone due November 2004?

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webmum · 27/02/2004 15:47

I'm a bit nervous about opening this thread as I've only foundt out I'm pregnant and anything can happen...anyway, due date 1st november, I still cant believe it.....
This is my second baby but I'm even more anxious about this pregnancy than first time round...I'd been wantind a 2nd baby for over a yera now, but dh wanted to wait longer, and now it's happened, but it wasn't planned at all!!!

We're both over the moon though, but trying to contain our happyness just in case....(easier said than done)

anyway, I fell better now, having shared this with you..

off to play with dd1 now!!!

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collision · 05/05/2004 13:02

I think I am in maternity clothes because I have been gorging on too much food!! not because the baby is showing!!

Is anyone finding out the sex of the baby? Did you find out last time and did it spoil it for you knowing what you were having??

I found out a week before ds was born because the scanner said 'Oh..look at the size of him!!' I was a bit cross but didnt tell anyone but I think we might like to know at the 20 week scan. What do you all think??

Twinkie · 05/05/2004 13:09

DP wants to know - he is just soooo excited!!

I knew with DD as had tests that were conclusive and did not have to reply on grainy scan picture and I really think I knew her as a little person before she was born in a deeper way - I had named her and bought her things (would not have bought things if did not know for sure - know a few people who have been told one thing and they got the other!!) for her and I don't know I just felt like I knew her in a different way to what I would have if I had not known she was a girl!!

Are you finding out this time collision??

Mum2Ela · 05/05/2004 13:21

Twinkie, what tests show the sex conclusively?

I would like to find out this time (didn't with DD) but DH doesn't want to know. I want to know to be prepared and buy stuff . . will have all my Christmas shopping to do after the baby is born and so don't want to have to think about buying basics for baby then.

Twinkie · 05/05/2004 13:23

Amnio and CVS are the only ways of knowing for sure!!

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webmum · 05/05/2004 13:26

I found out first time and I'd like to again, but our hospital doesn't sex babies, so I'll see, I might have a private scan if I'm not happy about the hospital one (they're not famous for being accurate)and in that case I will ask for sure.

It did not spoil anything as twinkie said she was more real right from the start as we knew she was a girl, and at the birth, there were so many more things to think of, that asking the sex of my baby was the last thing on my mind!

This time I think we have an extra reason as I think it will be easier for dd to imagine her brother/sister if we can give it more of an identity!

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Mum2Ela · 05/05/2004 13:42

Thats a really good arguement I can put to DH for finding out the sex of the baby Webmum - it'll make it easier for DD to understand!

vivie · 05/05/2004 14:24

we're going to find out this time (we didn't with ds) mainly to make sorting out baby clothes easier. Our house is far from huge and if I don't need all the little T shirts with tractors on etc I'll be glad to get rid of them to make some more space! I also think it would be nice to talk about my baby as 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' which just sounds rude somehow!

Without having any evidence other than maternal instinct, I'm sure this baby is a girl. Does anyone else have 'a feeling'!?

Twinkie · 05/05/2004 14:25

I have a boy - not sure why I think that - I am just sure about it though!!

I always just wanted another girl because DD is so perfect but now I cannot visualise this baby being a girl at all - everytime I think about it I say him and picture a little boy!!

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webmum · 05/05/2004 16:16

I do not have any feelings about the sex of the bbay and honestly I do not believe in them, I've seen many mothers' instincts get it completely wrong!!

But I secretely wish it's another girl, because dd is so sweet and cute and I can't imagine having the same kind of relationship with a boy (and I know this is complete nonsense but that's the way I feel)

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bunny2 · 05/05/2004 16:49

I'm sure mine is a boy. I love boys so will be delighted to have another. If it is a girl she will have to be a bit of a tomboy, cant stand all that Barbie stuff,just too pink for me. I dont want to find out though, I want to hold on till the birth.

I am squeezing into my most forgiving clothes and will hold off buying any mat gear till after next Wednesday when I hit 12 wks and have another scan. I dont think it is the baby, dh keeps reminding me he/she is only a few centimetres long and cant possibly be blamed for my rapidly expanding stomach.

eidsvold · 05/05/2004 18:56

have bought a few maternity clothes but still fit into my normal clothes - have a number of elastic waisted skirts that were great for work with maternity tops.... i just bought some winter stuff whilst on sale as I am going back to aus in 29 days (but who's counting) to their winter and wanted some trousers and long sleeve shirts to have. Not really showing at all - in fact cause of my dire morning sickness - I think I may have lost a little weight.

eidsvold · 05/05/2004 18:56

WEBMUM - I had two types of scans - one was fetal cardiac scan - high tech machine that just checks the heart - the scan does things like colour parts of the blood and heart and so on ( ont he scan not on you - iykwim)

they then told us that there was a very high chance - in fact almost certain that dd would also be born with down's syndrome given the type of heart defect. They then offered us and amnio - which I refused.... ( we had already decided that dd was going to be born and down's syndrome did not phase us) They did however offer me a detailed anomaly scan which is like an ultrasound but done by an obstetric consultant ( and possibly students observing as Kings is a teaching hospital) who did a number of measurements etc to check for physical markers of Down's syndrome.

We then asked if the consultant could tell us the gender of the baby ( wanted something positive to share with the family) SHe said given that dd was not totally co operative - it looked like a girl - tentatively.. did not want to commit herself totally one way or the other.
But dd managed to get into a very revealing position and I always felt that she was a girl all along - this time not so sure.

I feel kinda bad cause there is so much going on and it feels like this babe is the bottom of the list - we are both very excited as are the family and looking forward to having this baby but it seems with dd, working full time and emigrating - this poor babe gets put aside - although still making presence felt at times with the odd puking although YEH! finally easing off.

Sorry for the long post

vivie · 05/05/2004 19:16

webmum, I know how you feel. One of the things I love about ds is his 'boy-ness' and I can't imagine how I could love someone as much if they didn't have that. Ridiculous, I know, and everyone says that you love baby 2 just as much, whoever they are, and I'm sure I will. It's just strange to imagine.

squigglesmum · 05/05/2004 20:55

Just had scan today, and now have edd of 22nd Nov, which is actually earlier than I thought! So excited!! He/she (although I'm fairly sure he's a boy - we just don't have girls in our family so I can't get my head round the concept) is a great little swimmer too.
Hope everyone else is keeping well - not long 'till morning sickness dies down now!!

bunny2 · 05/05/2004 22:15

Great to hear you had a good scan Squigglesmum.

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webmum · 06/05/2004 12:00

thanks for the info eidsvold,

and I hope your sickness goes away fast! I am feeling much better now, and I can even manage a film without falling asleep halfay through!!! (if it's not too long!)

V. Good about your scan Squigglesmum!

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collision · 06/05/2004 13:21

Oh, I am SO cross!!! I know that if everyone could they would probably WANT to choose the sex of their child but it isnt possible or even ethical IMO. My Mum just rang to tell me that a friend's wife had just had a girl, Emily, 9lb 2oz and all is well except they are not happy as they wanted a boy!!

I went ballistic!!

I feel under extreme pressure to 'produce' a girl for my family and that if it is a boy that everyone will say,'Never mind.' and it makes me furious! I had such a go at my poor Mum and it wasnt even her fault! I think I had MN in mind when I said to her that there are so many people who cant have children and so many with SN and other probs and that they should be DAMNED grateful to have a lovely healthy girl!! I feel I need to programme people to be happy whatever the sex of the child and it just makes me mad.

Sorry this has nothing to do with the Nov thread but I didnt want to post it elsewhere as there are some who dont agree with what I say and I wanted all my Nov Mums to agree with me. Am in a mood today as it is my wedding anniversary and none of my crappy family sent me a card!! Sorry to rant.

vivie · 06/05/2004 14:16

you rant away collision - your dead right imo. It's a joy and a priveledge to be a parent, whoever your children turn out to be.

Happy wedding anniversary. I hope your dh spoils you rotten!

Mum2Ela · 06/05/2004 14:25

I agree Collision. I don't really think people should be allowed to choose the sex of their baby. And your mums friends should be delighted to have ahealthy baby, as you said. I think that is part of the reason some hospitals won't tell the sex of the baby, as sometimes in some cultures there is such pressure to produce the right sex baby, if they are told their baby is the wrong sex, there have been cases of abortions . .

hapy wedding anniversary! How many years?

bunny2 · 06/05/2004 20:36

Some people just dont deserve to be parents. As I've said b4, my MIL wants me to have a girl and I feel incensed on behalf of my unborn child. If it is a boy is he going to be a disappointment to her? If so, she can get stuffed. How can a tiny baby be a disappointment to anyone? It is really sad. Pah.

I'm so huge, I lied about how pg I was to the hairdresser (added 3 months). And she believed me.

bunny2 · 06/05/2004 20:43

Twinkie, good luck tomorrow. Keep us posted.

vivie · 07/05/2004 13:49

Twinkie - saw your other thread. Hope you're feeling better and the scan was reassuring. Let us know what happens - we're thinking about you. viv xx

bunny2 · 07/05/2004 14:44

It's all quiet here today. How is everyone? I am hoping I look pregnant and not just fat, not sure if I do though. I am definately big but it is more like a beer gut than a baby.

jellycat · 07/05/2004 23:06

Hi!

Twinkie, where are you? Hope the scan was OK and that DP enjoyed it!

Re the sex of the baby, my MIL said Oh I hope you have a little girl this time' (just after she'd said Oh, you should have planned a spring baby' ). Grrrr!

Good news about your scan squigglesmum. I still don't have a date for mine.

LOL about your hairdresser bunny. You'll have to change hairdressers though, or she will think you've had the first ever 12 month pg!

bunny2 · 09/05/2004 21:36

My MIL (staying for the weekend. grrr) said to me "I hope its a girl" after I explained that I am sure it's a boy and my MW suspects I cant carry girls. She is as insensitive as a ton of bricks.

Finally gave in and put on some mat jeans. They are wonderfully comfortable after stubbornly squeezing into my usual ones.

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