PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Can I join? I've had 3 MC's, and 2 children. I am 5 weeks pregnant. Scared doesn't even cover it, I've never had a pregnancy "go thru" the first time I fell so I am bricking it. Although my mantra now is "all is good", so anytime a negative thought starts I just repeat "all is good" until it goes.

I'm having no symptoms other than pure exhaustion and cramps which are freaking me out (ALL IS GOOD).

Off to catch up! Is anyone else in early pregnancy?

Hi Allisgood, i'm in Early Pregnancy too. 6 weeks today. Had an early scan on weds just gone to check everything was okay as been so worried. I like you're mantra, will have to use that for myself too to try and stop this constant anxiousness. What's your EDD?

Thankyou alice and bakin I'll have to keep my eyes and ears open

me the only way I'm managing to cope is by disassociating myself from it all, I hate what he has done to us all and mostly I hate that my mum tries to justify his actions. I can't move last the fact that he was prepared to tell my 9 and 12 year old that he was dying - it's bad enough we were all sucked in ;(

pumpkin and christine that's great news!!!! Soooo pleased for you both! Xxx

Hello to all the newbies! It is really great to have you here, this thread is a lifeline in those stress filled early weeks. Sending you lots of sympathetic hugs for all the worries you are having. The uncertainty in the first 12 weeks is just horrible. But really nice that you are all at a similar stage to support each other.

christine for some reason I always assumed that waters break when you are awake, shows my first time mum ignorance! It sounds like the hospital was a bit crap for not explaining what was going on properly. I wouldn't have had a clue. I hope things get moving for you properly soon.

Ugh! Spent the day cleaning our bedroom, doing some grocery shopping and a few other household chores because my back andSPD weren't too bad and now it's nearly 3am and I've woken up in pain. Can I walk?! Can I hell! DH decided I needed a lecture on my limitations but - despite telling me he'll do all these things I see he still hasn't cleaned up after dinner or hung up the washing. I'm seriously beginning to worry about how helpful he is going to be once the baby gets here.

Sorry rant over, it's good to vent some frustration - never mind the near constant pain/discomfort or the inability to get out of the house and do things, I'm just so damn tired of living in a mess I just can't keep on top of with no help from OH! On the bright side at least it's the weekend and I don't have to figure out how the hell I'm getting into work.

christne hope you're doing ok - keeling Fx it's not too much longer for you now!

Welcome allisgood! The first few weeks are the worst but you'll get through them. You have a great mantra ! Ours in here is: Today I am pregnant.

I should try remember that ...

realises how much of au ungrateful moany misery bags I sound like in previous post

ouch, kjh. you really must pace yourself . pot/kettle im back to work tomorrow finally and I know I'm going to hurt tomorrow night. It's turning over in bed which is the worst thing. That and hobbling around hunched over looking like MIL with her arthritis, holding into the furniture ad I go!
mine had just calmed down finally having spent a week in bed with the lurgy and tomorrow I'm going to make it worse all over again!
Do you have long until maternity leave?
I've got 9 working days tops till I can relax . Then the house work starts!

You have my sympathy kjh. I've been up since 5am thanks to sore hips and an over active bladder and I feel rotten. Sounds like you have it a lot worse!

I think when men say they will do a chore, they often have a slightly longer time frame in mind than we do . My sister is fond of telling me that when the baby comes I will just have to let go and accept that the house will be a mess. As a control freak, I find that very hard to get my head around!

9 days saggy! So jealous!

Kjh my DP really stepped up once the baby came. They do say with men it takes longer for the responsibility to sink in with them, they don't really realise till the baby is actually here!
No signs of anything here, back to the waiting game for me. 38weeks today so not toooooo much longer to go.
Penguin I have first time mum type knowledge if going into labour too - I was induced 10 days early with DD so no idea what's going on!

Thanks Saggy and penguin feel a bit bad about moaning now - I'm not even out of the second trimester yet and know others have it way worse than I do!

You are right about different time scales Penguin I know he'll get the stuff done today and he was lovely last night, cooking me dinner and running me a bath. At least he is excited about the baby and he has been reading up on what I'm going through so he can lecture me on my limitations and what to expect from labour etc.

saggy hope the next nine days go very quickly for you! I'm going on Mat leave earlier than most at 33 weeks but still have another 7 to go at work. I keep telling myself I just need to make it through the next four weeks and if things haven't improved or get worse, I'll ask about working from home which is just about possible. As a last resort my GP has offered to sign me off sick but that would mean letting my team down when they are already short-staffed.

Anyway its a lovely sunny day and we're planning out the nursery later so I'm going to try and focus on some posifrickintivity and get excited about that instead of whining on MN!

Very much hope the rest of you are having relaxing weekends xx

Morning all!

Kjh, poor you! I also had SPD in both pregnancies (and until DD2 was 8 weeks). Take it easy. Also may be worth investing in a decent Physio. Mine was worth every penny, a few sessions of him working on me and I felt soooo much better!!!

Purple, I've spotted both my sticky pregnancies, try and put your feet up! All is good!

Do any of you have any idea about NHS consultant lead care? I had natural births with forceps with both my girls, but was consultant led private. This time I just don't have the £10k to go private so wonder if NHS will let me go consultant led? Any ideas?

Also, are any newbies still drinking tea? The thought is not pleasant but I need to wake up!!! Scared about the caffeine content and mc though, what do you think?

Thanks Christine I have no doubt he'll step up once the baby arrives. I'm probably taking my frustration out on him and its not his fault I'm stuck at home!

Allisgood I panicked about everything during the first trimester and stuck rigidly to all the guidelines about what you should and shouldn't eat. In the end I had to go back to drinking my morning cup of strong coffee to wake me up and deal with the awful constipation I was suffering from. The midwife assured me one cup would make no difference whatsoever, so I drank a cup every second morning from about eight weeks. I don't tend to worry about it at all now and am a lot more relaxed about what I eat and drink. In large amounts I think it can be harmful but one cup is unlikely to make a difference. Tea has a lot less caffeine than coffee, but I'd maybe ask your GP about it if you are worried.

Morning all

So sorry about your pain kjh.

I have a tamba a booklet that says three cups of coffee or six cups of tea a day is fine!

I am spending the morning lazing in bed. Lovely dh brought me tea and toast and now mumsnetting with cats for company.

Wishing you all a happy day

happy new year to you all
sorry not to have been on MN for a while - Ive only just logged on to my computer after several weeks

hope you're all ok
well I had my 10 week scan which was good but not so good - I saw the baby and the heartbeat which was really lovely but I think I had the WORST sonographer ever as she was pushing so very hard that it was actually incredibly painful and even though I told her this she carried on so I was just desperate for the scan to be over

I came away very upset and had pains which I had not had before - the pains lasted a few days which have only just eased up days later

My overall worry was that it won't have affected the baby in any way - Ive had quite a few scans before and have never felt in any sort of pain before but this was just very unpleasant and alarming at the pain it caused

I do hope someone can offer me a reassuring advice as Im now very worried that this scan will have caused harm to the baby :(
any reassurance will be greatly received as Ive now got myself in such a state about this :(

blue baby is very very protected in there, also try to remember that your risk of miscarriage is less than 10% after seeing the baby's heartbeat at 10 wks - this will continue to decrease over time (get googling there are official studies etc to back it up) try not to worry and enjoy your pregnancy xxx

thanks so much for your reassuring and kind words fod - bless you - Ive been in a panicked state since the scan and the pain has only just gone

Just worried that no harm was caused to the baby with the intense pushing - grrrrrrrrrrr to RUBBISH sonographer and I will NEVER EVER return to this particular hospital again!

Does anyone know what a normal heat rate for the baby should be at just over 10 weeks?? - mine seems to be on the high side at 175 which I was worried could have been because of the painful scan and the following shooting pains and intense cramping after the scan :(

Does anyone know what a normal rate should be - looking up on Mr google I found normal rates to be at 155 so is mine scarily too high? :(
So sorry to be in such a panicked state - sometimes ignorance is bliss as the more you know the scarier things seem!

hope all is ok with everyone - will read back the thread as have been away for a long time but wishing you all a very happy new year and lots of healthy pregnancies and babies for us all xxx

blueskies please don't worry, your baby is well protected in there; a bit of pressure on your abdomen may hurt you but not the baby. 175 sounds normal to me - please see pregnancy.about.com/od/fetus/a/normal-fetal-heart-rate.htm

welcome to all the newbies, I hope you have good, uneventful pregnancies

and hi to everyone else! I can't wait for all the new arrivals

I can't remember who asked about tea but I have switched to decaff, there is less caffeine in tea but I get through lot of it! I've given up sweeteners in my tea too. I've been meaning to try for a long time so this was the incentive I needed.

After POmanymanyS I've accepted that I am pregnant and there is no reason that I should MC this time. I would like some symptoms to kick in soon though!

Hope you are ok this evening blueskies

Blue skies I'm sure baby will be just fine in there. I had quite a lot of pressure on my bump at my 20wk scan, some of the ladies here will remember my absolute panic that I bled a bit afterwards too... It was all fine. At 10 weeks baby has loads of lovely cushioning

Oh and Cyber - be careful what you wish for you'll be regretting that if you get to 16/17 weeks and are still vomiting 4 times a day!

thankyou all so much for your reassuring replies - that's so kind of you :) I feel so lucky to have such great comforting support from you all on this thread

After suffering many mcs each day is scary but I am just trying to take one day at a time and each day I get through is a huge milestone for me

thank you Pentagon for confirming about the heart rate - I had convinced myself that the painful scan had caused harm and distress to the baby causing it to have a high heart rate so thank you for reassuring me about that

thank you cyber and christine - its reassuring to hear that the baby will be protected by the cushioning - so sorry to hear that you had pressure on your 20 week scan christine - Im pleased to hear it turned out all ok for you

I will try to stop stressing now and will just wait until the big 12 week scan which Im petrified about but glad to have a week of no scans now - after horrendous last scan I have scan phobia :(

I too am drinking decaff tea cyber as I was such a big tea drinker - I have to say it really is quite nice and I can't tell the difference - still miss coffee hugely but its a good compromise for now :)

It's port I'm missing rather than coffee!

Blue I left my 12 week scan feeling like I'd been beaten up. I had a follow up a couple of weeks later with a guy who was so gentle you could hardly feel it.
Sonographers seem to vary greatly.
I must say, after my last scan where I was treated like I'm invisible and left in tears, im not taking any more of their SHIT!
I've two scheduled this month and will be laying down the law when I enter the room.
Try not to worry. Until 12 weeks the uterus is well hidden behind your pelvis. They have to angle the probe round to even see it.