PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Brilliant news scater you must be so relieved!

total so sorry you've had such a hard time, I can't imagine coping with that amount of pain. The broken nights are so wearing too. I haven't slept properly due to spd in a few weeks and feel quite despondent already, to have suffered since 10wks must feel unbearable please don't feel guilty for finding it hard. Although it's for the most worthwhile of reasons, living in pain is in no way enjoyable and it is hard not to resent it. Particularly as some people just seem to breeze through pregnancy. Keep posting, we are here to pick each other up and hold hands where needed

mabel lots of luck with the scan. I've felt scan doom with all of mine, even 20weeks. Sadly I think the days of enjoying scans are long gone after you've suffered a loss. I really hope it is all ok for you.

kjh I havent tried swimming this time as my local pools are all quite cold! when I had spd in my last pregnancy we had a week at center parcs though and just bobbing around in the warm water every day really eased the pain. Apparently backstroke is a good one as doesn't involve opening legs and not too strenuous. Hope it helps.

Great news scater! And good luck for tomorrow mabel.

nerdy I still have virtually no bump at 20 weeks and feel like a fraud, I sometimes wonder if people think I'm making it all up. I even wonder myself sometimes if it is all in my head!

the Thankyou apparently there was evidence missing from the prosecution so the case has been delayed until feb! My poor mum has Syked herself up for this just to have it postponed again, then to top it off I get a email from HR (the woman has recently had a baby and therefore is the font of all antenatal class knowledge!) she thought it appropriate to tell me when her classes were held etc and that perhaps I could go to those - as they are out of work hours! - my response " I think you will find that it's dependent on where you live, as previously mentioned you will be hearing from my MW, furthermore my husband works nights and cannot attend evening sessions and I also have 2 DC to find childcare for. I feel that this has deteriorated into a argument over my availability and the decisions of my medical practitioners and that you feel it necessary to have me justify my every decision regarding my antenatal care therefore from this point all contact should be made via my union representative". Eat that bitch!

medusa that's the only way I can deal with it atm is to simply cut all ties, I have to in order to focus on the future for my family thank you santa xxxx
mabel we also went for the private scan post MMC and I found it sooo helpful, the worst thing with a MMC is the lack of symptoms of a mc you drive yourself insane! So having the opportunity to be in the 'know' really helped

scater that's such great news! I'm so happy for you!

kjh I have been suffering with SPD too I have to get dressed sitting, stairs are unbearable and I look ridiculous getting in and out of the car, it's the first time I've experienced this and the evenings are worse - I walk like John Wayne!

Have you seen your GP? They will refer you to a physiotherapist and they will measure your pain (basically how far you can open your legs) the MW and hospital will need to know this when your in labour to avoid further problems, they may offer you crutches etc too xxx

Great news Scrater
I had the midwife today... Baby is measuring at 42 weeks!!! Told its going to be at least 10lb and unsure if I'm going to be able to get it out without at least some intervention. With another 2 weeks growing to do I just really want it out now.

Thanks Fod and pixie - I'm sorry you're suffering too and with DCs to look after as well - anyone who had to deal with having to run around and this is a hero! It's really not the most pleasant thing is it?

I did get referred to a physio just before Xmas, although at that point my lower back/sacroiliac joint pain was very bad and SPD only quite mild. First appt was great, she was very helpful and gave me a massage for immediate relief plus exercises to do. Subsequent appts have been no help with her only offering to order me a belt and not being at all helpful with advice on how to deal with the SPD - which is getting worse.

I'm a very proactive person, so having to sit at home and just deal with it is very frustrating for me and very isolating. I'm also getting tired of feeling miserable and sorry for myself! I'm hoping if I can do something like a bit of swimming (even if it is only 20min a day) I'll feel like I'm getting some exercise and out of the house. I'll def tell midwife at next appt - 28wk one is 3 weeks away!

Scater so happy things went well with the scan! X

Fod you aredoingtotally the righting with work, don't take any crap.

So sorry pressed post too soon.

Also meant to say, you have enough. To deal with.

Thanks all for being so great.

Multiple post alert! Must apologise for lack of use of space bar, iPads get a bit overexcited sometimes.

So sorry about the spd, have virtual and excellent pain relievers.

Christine I seem to recall almost everyone on here who has been told they are going to produce hippo-like babies has had perfectly healthy-sized ones and no horrendous birth stories. I don't know a lot about it but out of all my friends who've had horror predictions, not one of them has popped out a sprog heavier than 8lbs. It seems the predictions are never accurate, can you get a second opinion from someone to put your mind at ease? X

scater, glad you had a good scan! I've growing twins as well and remember that you said you felt you should be showing more - I know this is anecdata and everyone's different, but I think I was 12-14 weeks by the time I had any sort of significant bump. By 20 weeks, it was very definite and now, at 24 weeks, I keep smacking things with it because I'm not used to sticking out so much. Hope that's some sort of reassurance!

fod, crumbs, sorry you've work being arses on top of everything else. I hope your union can help.

I had my 24 week scan today, and all looked normal, which is nice. Both breech now, joy oh joy. At the 20-week scan, the sonographer told me that one was breech, and was kicking my bladder. Tell me something I didn't know, lady. And now there's two of them flamenco-ing on my poor undercarriage.

for great scan news from emki and skater
mabel lots of luck for tomorrow.
fod I can't get my head round how anyone could put their family through that. I remember you agonising on the TTC thread about whether to put it off to see if you were a bone marrow match. He doesn't deserve you, and none of your family deserve what he has put you through.
christina I agree with kjh that predictions based on bump sizes are often massively inaccurate.

scater great scan news!

total lovely to see you posting again. Sorry to hear you've had a tough time but really not long to go now.

mabel good luck with the scan tomorrow.

christine hope baby weight predictions are wrong or baby comes sooner rather than later!

Late congrats to Santa & Pumpkin!

scater, great news about your scan, hope bathroom is vom free now.

Good luck tomorrow mabel.

Christine, we were told DS2 would be 8lb 4-ish on the Monday, Tuesday morning he was born, 7lb 3! So hopefully they're really wrong.

DS2 is now over 5m old...and crawling.

Don't take much notice Christine. These predictions are often wrong.

I'd like to wallow a little more in self pity if I may. The cold isn't getting much better, i coughed and got so upset this morning i was sick, I spent the day cowering in bed as the power was off for 6 hours and ive sneezed and pulled a muscle in my bump. I really really feel like shit.

Boba 5 months?! That's flown!
I know it's gonna be big, my DD was 8.7 (almost 2 weeks early) and at 32 weeks this one was measuring bigger than she did at 32 weeks. But I was hoping for like 9.7ish.... Looks like no chance.

Kat - I really hope you manage to sort something about work. Not what you need at the moment at all!

Hi ladies.
Can I join? I'm 5+4 after a mmc at 9 weeks in may last year.
Very scared/anxious/worried etc with a bit of excitement thrown in. Could do with some hand holding from people who know the feeling x

scater Thankyou for your support and kind words, baking it and he really has been vile, hope your feeling better saggy

kat I completely empathise with your situation I work in education and you'd think they'd know better bit they have reduced my hours and alienated me since my announcement, I was overlooked for promotion and the candidate that did get the position took two consecutive weeks off during a Ofsted inspection (she's never in work tbh) it's very upsetting especially when you love your work and realise that you have spent years viewing your position and value to that organisation through rose tinted glasses

christine my DS was 8lb 9 and my DDwas 9lb 4 I too have been told that this one will be large based on measurements and medic history but my DD was delivered normally - no tears, cuts or complications I didn't even swear in labour in fact I found it easier as she was bigger (more to bear down on) although she was a big weight she was long and slim xxx hope that helps x

Kat, how frustrating for you. I've had to deal with clients IRL and they can be bloody pains.

Scater, glad everything is good on the scan front.

Fod, how are you holding up? It's a hell of a lot to deal with at the best of times, but with a pg on top as well it must be tough. Stay strong.

Welcome Mrs Giraffe. It's a great bunch here. I've just reached 13 weeks so I know how scary it all feels at 5+4 as does everybody here. Lots of support and hand holding.

So DH and I are taking a short break in the Lake District at a spa hotel. First day today , I take 5 steps and fall flat on my tummy in the car park. Eppp. Went a bit crazy, crying and then panicking. Found a nearby small local hospital with a maternity unit which luckily was having its scan day. Got seen quickly and it was all fine but I was so so scared. Not quite the relaxing break I was expecting!!!

kat I'm outraged on your behalf! This kind of thing annoys the hell out of me, there's nothing wrong with our brains FGS. I'm struggling to get into work but I'm still here five days a week putting in 110% - certainly not your client's place to tell you how much work you are capable of managing! Hope things pick up for you x

Saggy sending sympathy, nothing worse than having to deal with being preggers and sick! Hope you feel better soon

Welcome Giraffe - this is indeed the perfect place for you to be, lots of lovely ladies around for hand-holding when needed! Wishing you an easy pregnancy

Thanks lou I used to say "I could write a book about my life.... But people would think it was fiction" glad bump is ok after your topple, it's incredibly scary isn't it? Hope your romantic getaway gets much more relaxing xxx

Just a quickie girls -do any of you know when the next 'One born every minute' is back on?