Mum's-to-be

[jodee]

I hope no-one thinks this thread is too 'exclusive' or 'cliquey', but I can no longer join in with the weight loss thread, so I thought I would start this one up!

I wish I had had the benefit of the internet (and especially Mumsnet, of course!) first time around and felt pretty isolated after ds was born, so it's good to have some 'virtual' friends in the same boat now I'm expecting no 2.

It would be interesting as well to find out just how many of us are pregnant, there must be loads of us! and just to have a general chinwag.

Congrats to all the newly pregnant. I'm due mid April. Insomnia just started to kick in, why does all worrying have to be done in the middle of the night?!!!!!
Good luck to everyone for healthy pregnancies & babies.

Of course you couldnt have possibly planned No2, they have to be a mistake, especially if you want them close together, no2 is due 2 days after ds 2nd birthday. I get 'are you happy', well just let me think about this one.
Im beginning to think Im not really pregnant other than feeling sick, which that isnt as strong some days and heartburn. Im 10 weeks now and still no bump, im sure with ds I had one straight away. Im sure Ill be huge in no time, but just not feeling so confident about this as first time round, just a niggling feeling in the back of my mind for some reason. I will probably feel better when I see that scan screen.

People do seem to fall into 2 camps; one side are full of congratulations, the other, for some reason, totally shocked that you are reproducing again 'so soon' - I don't know why. I've only told a handful of close friends and family and everyone has been positive so far.

Joe1, I feel a bit like you, I know I'm pg, only 5 weeks though, but I haven't been able to see the doctor yet and I don't (so far) feel sick - I'm sure I felt sick almost immediately when I was expecting ds.

This is a good place to keep track. Congratulations, particularly to those who have just found out about their pregnancies.

My baby is due on 1st April and I am sick of the jokes about 'April Fool's' and think that is not a very original joke. I am calling him/her my 'Easter Egg' as that is Easter Monday.

I was on a short term contract with No1 and of course couldn't return to work and lost out on some maternity pay. It is difficult to get back to work when you leave. My quandry was do I get a nursery place first (with no job to pay for it) or risk getting a job with no childcare organised? As it turned out we've just managed on one salary.

debster - in theory I'd like a home birth but as we are renovating our house and it looks like a building site, it may not be a good idea! If all goes well I hope to give birth in the Midwifes Unit as I did with No1. This is quite 'homey' with a TV room next door, kitchen and showers nearby (or birthing pool) and there was just the 3 of us for the whole process (just one midwife I mean).

Yes jasper I am getting very irritable at times! I didn't realise you had 2 young kids already - you are brave!

Not brave. Eulalia, just old and worrying about running out of eggs!!

Due April 3 and only 18 days at work left to go! My dh seems terrified of the thought that baby will arrive April 1 - but equally not keen on it being too late as his b'day is April 13.
Heartburn/reflus now much improved by regime of eating loads in the middle of the day and little in the evening. Despite this, insomnia still prevalent so dh now in spare bed quite a few nights as I keep him awake...
Dh bringing me breakfast in bed really helped with the nausea the first few months. Did anyone else suffer from foul taste in the mouth around that time too? The only thing that got rid of it for me was tomatoes.

Darn it, LKM, wish I'd thought of getting dh to bring me breakfast in bed as a possible cure for heartburn!

I am aiming for an early delivery on 22/02/02 as it is my best chance of being ble to remember yet another birthday.

Eulalia, i've got the same due date, 1st April. I am thinking about a wind-up, maybe I'll tell everyone its quads! Are you counting the weeks now? I am, I was OK until recently, happily getting on with things, but now I have definitely clicked into birth moe, and am wishing March away.

Terrile cravings for ice - apparently this is common, but does anyone know why?

Hi, everyone! I have just found out Iam expecting No 3 in October.
Its totally unplanned and iam not sure how i feel at the moment.
Iam sure i'll come around but the thing is we thought we had completed our family. We have one boy and one one girl and were going to leave it at that.
Part of me secretly hopes this baby is a girl though as there will only be 2.6 yrs betweeen dd and new baby and Iam so close to my own sister i would love dd to have the same!
Does that make me sound terrible? I would love a boy too as iam getting fed up with little girls clothes now!!

I haven't even told dh yet! He is in london till Friday night. Do you think I should ring him up or wait to tell him face to face.

Iam sure he will be happy though as he always wanted to have 3. It was me who wanted to stop at 2.

Callie, congratulations! There must be something in the (virtual) air...

Personally I think you should wait and tell dh face to face. I know what you mean about sisters, I am very close to my sister also and it is a lovely relationship.

Thanks, Enid!!
I think I will wait till Friday. But its going to be so hard not to tell him on the phone.
I feel guilty as he isn't the first to know. I've already told my sis.
There is 3yrs between us but she really is my best friend. I have a bruv too who is 5yrs younger and although we are quite close its not the same as a sister.

Congrats Callie! I think that makes about 4 of us expecting in October.

Jodee, Iam about 5 weeks too. I've worked out my doe date would be around the 23rd also, but will have to wait till I see my doc tomorrow.

I do feel slightly sick but I had put it down to overdosing on mini eggs.
Alsi Iam going the loo for a wee every 5mins. That has been going on for the past 10 days or so.

Its funny cos with my son I wasn't sick at all, no nausea nothing, but from the minute I got preggo with dd I felt nauseas. I was never actually vomiting, just felt totally sick and the only thing that made me feel any better was eating. unfortunatly.

Iam wondering if iam having a girl this time cos I feel sick!

Callie, I'm off to the docs tomorrow too - and (this is mad) I was starting to have doubts that I was actually pregnant after telling people as I don't feel sick in the slightest and did a third pregnancy test! Yup, it's definite.

I'm a bit peeved though, before I found out I was pregnant I was getting fed up with wearing the same clothes all the time and was going to treat myself to a new outfit (or three) but can't do that now (I'd rather be pregnant than have new clothes though, BTW), but my jeans that I seem to wear all the time are getting tight already and I had to undo the top button today! I thought it's too early to buy proper maternity clothes as I don't have a bump yet and decided to go up a size and get some elasticated or drawstring jogging bottoms, not too difficult a task, so I thought. Nothing doing - M&S are HOPELESS, why do they never stock enough of the sizes that disappear off the shelves faster than the others? No luck in Next either, HELPPPP PLEASE!

Eulalia - re the job and the nursery place: depends where you are. Here in Cambridge the job is far easier to find than the nursery place! We ended up paying a whole month of nursery before dd was old enough to start just so that we had a place and she could be at the same nursery as her brother - if we hadn't then I don't know when we'd have found a place for her.

Welcome Callie to the expecting-in-October club!!

Jodee if you have a Primark near you they do stuff like jogging bottoms for the ridiculous price of £4!!

I'm not feeling nauseous yet but incredibly tired at the moment. Part of me is relieved to be off work as I remember feeling so knackered in the first 3 months with my first that I would just want to rest my head on my desk and go to sleep. I also did another pregnancy test this morning. I justified it by telling myself I might as well use up the second stick in the pack but really it was because I started having doubts that I was actually pregnant!

Jodee, Snap again!! I was hoping to treat myself to some new clothes soon as I've been working out a lot in the gym.
I was wondering why I hadn't lost any weight.
I swear my tummy is bigger already! I just thought it was because my perid was due, but it is a week late now so this morning i went to asda and bought a double pack of clearblue.
Went positive straight away. Done both just to make sure.

My mum works in the local docs, so she got me anappintment for tomorrow lnchtime.

Feel, v nervous but also excited!!

We are due to move to a bigger house in 6mths, it is currently being renovated so it better be finishedon time now!!

Are you going to find out the sex? I did last time so think I will again. i will also have to arrange a nuchal scan for 13 weeks.
Last time I had to travel to London to get one done.

Hi, debster!! you must have posted the same time as me. When in October are you due?

I don't think I will believe it myself till I see the scan.
I hate to admit this but last time i booked myself into a local clinic for a private scan at 7weeks.
It cost £40 but was well worth it as i saw the tiny mite who was only just visible on the screen.
It reassured me that all waswell, and i wasn't having twins or an eptopic. i just couldn't have waited till 12 weeks and my booking in visit at the hospital.

Phew, it wasn't just me then having doubts!

Debster, with you on the extreme tiredness front, I feel like I could drop off at any point during the day and after trawling around town with a son who takes after his father in HATING going into any shop, I'm fit to drop now. Thanks for the info on Primark, not sure if there is one nearby, will find out.

Callie, we didn't want to know the sex with ds, but we would find out this time, but keep it to ourselves. It would be nice to have a girl, but as long as it's healthy ...

Cerys, if you think they act strangely with you on number 2, imagine how it was when I told everyone I was expecting number 4! I can honestly say only one person was genuinely happy for us, the rest were more on the line of "what are you doing?" with an extreme of "you're not going to keep it are you?" and that was from a family member! And now 1 year to the day he was born (happy birthday Rory) he is the absolute joy of our family, so take no notice of any negative opimions. All it will do is make your pregnancy less enjoyable than it should be. Once the baby arrives nothing else matters anyway.

That's very sad, lou33. There were a few surprised looks but most people were really pleased for us when we announced No4 was on the way and we were absolutely showered with gifts when she arrived.

I would never ever admit directly that ds (our 4th) was not planned, but I did occasionally burst into song: 'Oops I did it again!'

My mum had four children and the last, at 44, was definitely not planned. However, he has been the light of my parents lives and they feel he was a complete blessing to them. He is a lovely boy, I know this even though I haven't lived at home since he was born - 20 year age gap!! So anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that children all come along for different reasons and try not to listen to other people's hurtful comments.

I agree suedonim, it was very sad. In fact my sister is the only person to have seen our baby more than once in his first year,and that is only about 3 times!. My brother has seen him once, and noone on dh side has seen him at all, except his foster brother and rory was only 2 weeks old then. I am glad you have such a supportive group around you, it makes life a lot easier. I am now feeling very envious of you!

Most of my support has been from friends, lou33, becuase we live at the other end of the country from our family, who don't bother keep in touch all that much. But we're moving soon, so I'll have to depend on my cyber friends, instead!!