Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

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Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

Hi Keep Lovely to hear from you. I'm sorry about the jaundice but it sounds like you have things under control and Kip is on the mend. How are you getting on with bfing? Did the MW tell you to top with with the syringe? I've already got one funnily enough as we syringed prune juice into DN1 on holiday. I'm drinking my 2nd cup of Raspberry leaf tea as I type, the MW said that I can have 3 a day and last night I had my first bath of the pregnancy. I don't usually have baths and the last one I had was the night before my BFP when I had cramps in my tummy. I kept the water at 38 degrees and didn't put my bump in the water. I had the orange oil going and listened to my relaxation tape. DP is out tonight with his friend so I think I'll do the same tonight. Sadly I don't have a newborn handy for cuddles although I did briefly hold a 4 and a half month old yesterday. I wonder if that counts.

Onion I think that oil burners must be something that people think are a good idea and then realise that they hardly use them and end up giving them to the charity shop. Good idea about bedsharing. The bed is definitely against the wall at my mums and I think that we could move it at the inlaws. Enjoy a well deserved rest and being looked after.

Hello to everyone else. Noks and Gin, how do you both feel having finished work yesterday?

Hi Fairy we cross posted. We won't be able to take the pushchair because we will need the car seat when we arrive so we will have to use that clicked onto the chassis. I don't think that we can carry everything on the train. Our pushchair converts to a lie flat bed rather than be a proper carrycot so the baby could probably nap in it for an hour or so although it is not officially to be used to sleep in. I think that we are going to book the tickets anyway and then decide nearer the time.

I really appreciate the advice from all you ladies who have experience as until Shazlett is here and I've got more of an idea about what is involved, it is all so theoretical for me at the moment.

I've woken up with a feeling like my period is about to start. But it's not coming and going. Just an ache in my lower belly?

shazz I can't be of much help, but wanted to offer a hand hold in case it's the start of things! I get a lot of womble type pains, but you are so near d day, it could be significant :)

Last day at work was lovely. I got lots of lovely gifts and hugs, and was thoroughly spoilt. Now I just have to keep myself entertained until the ginster arrives. It hasn't yet sunk in that I'm not just on hols for a few weeks. noks have you got your head round it yet?

Thanks for the reassurance about the possible c section ladies. You are right about it being better than an emergency one and the level of control. Ultimately I guess we have to get the baby out and the position she's in at the mo won't allow a vag birth, so I 'll just have to get on with it. fairy I'll def ask about a pethidine shot.

keep I'm so pleased that kip is out of hospital and putting on weight. I can imagine it must have been very worrying, but sounds like she's doing great now. Oh and wash your mouth out comparing ginster with Maggie T

fairy pang sounds adorable! And hurrah for the weight gain. Most of my friends claim their second children are easier/calmer too and by the third apparently you're so chilled about it all, you barely notice you have a baby! She sounds super cute.

onion hope you are enjoying the being waited on. I love being somewhere that I feel I don't have to do much and can just relax. Pleased to hear the funeral went ok. Did DD 1 manage not to bellow out any Disney death songs?!

sweetie sorry to hear about the panic attack. Giving birth is such a huge, life changing event it's bound to induce some anxiety. I can't believe they won't let you have a c section

crisps I thought of you yesterday as I caught a bit of Geordie Shore! I was too ashamed to let Mr G catch me watching it, so think it needs to be a secret daytime habbit... The fake tans are incredible!

buzz ha ha at sister in jaws. Hurrah for Baz's contract.

Waves to everyone else and hope to see some of you on Weds ( though possibly not Shazz if this is shazzlet making her entrance...)

Ps bloody preggo insomnia! Have been awake since 5 am, although know that's a lie in for those of you with babies.

Hello everyone

Well the 'show' has started so its early days yet but shazlett is on the way! I feel like I've got my period. A dull ache in my abdomen and lower back. And a feeling that I need a number 2. I always have that feeling on the heaviest day of my period.

Gin I'm so glad you were spoilt on your last day and got some lovely gifts. Well deserved. I know what you mean about getting your head around it. I keep forgetting that it's not that I just don't have to go to work but that I'm having a baby. But don't worry we've got months ahead of us to be with the babies and hopefully have some fun. Hopefully it's not going to be ALL hard work

DP and I have started our day with homemade scotch pancakes for breakie and we are planning a relaxing day pottering around the hood.

More later......

Oh wow shazz how exciting! Hope you are relaxing and enjoying it so far...my advice would be to have a nap now if you can manage to! Sending positive vibes your way, hope all goes well.

Good luck shaz xxx my show arrived with my waters...

Am spending my whole life trying to feed a sleepy baby, expressing, trying to feeding a sleepy baby. She is still lethargic from jaundice so the while feed consists of stimulating her. Am shattered already with no mire than 90 mins of sleep since last weekend.

But. She is amazing.

I go 'dark' for a few days and ANOTHER bambino is on it's way. It's like baby Central around here .

OMG shazza this is beyond exciting. I remember when you announced you were preggers.....time really has gone so fast. If it is happening, I wish all three of you the very best of luck. Remember what you have been taught and stay zen. You CAN do it. I'll be thinking of you. Big hugs and kisses.

keep it's really lovely that Kip is ok after her bout of jaundice. Please keep us updated. Congrats to you and DH - how are you finding things ? Sorry if that's a bit of an obvious question but I am curious about how people really do feel a week or two after the birth.

gin poor you re the birth. You never know - mini gin may turn so don't give-up quite yet. At the hospital, the midwife said that women who have a sedentary job were more likely to have babies who were in the breech position. Are you able to/can you face being a little more active (walking, swimming) to see if you can encourage her to turn ? I have no idea how well researched this theory is but I thought I would mention it just in case there is a semblance of truth in it. I also thought of you on Friday and hoped that you had sparks on your shoes as you ran out of the office door for the last time in ages ! Hurrah for maternity leave. It rocks.

buzz lovely news about Bazza's London contract. You must be so relieved that he will be around to experience everything with you be your live-in Butler like Carson from Downton Abbey. He sounds like a total doll - send him round to give mine a lesson or two will you please ! Ta.

onion sorry to hear of your family's loss. By the sounds of it, you managed your two really well. That said, you had me laughing like a drain at DD1's Disney Death Medley and Mr T jewellery bling sessions. She sounds like she is an absolute bloody hoot. How is ringlet now ? Are you ready to face the controlled crying again ?

fairy minipang sounds as though she is doing brilliantly. So do you, for that matter. Is it better than you thought it would be , in terms of how you feel and how the baby is ?

sweetie I am really sorry to hear that you are having panic attacks. That's the last thing you need right now. Can they give you anything for them ? I hope it's the only one you have during pregnancy -make sure you take care of yourself.

crispywispy you lovely sweary trippy hippy you. I was thinking of getting an electric burner to take into hospital when I drop da sprog. Any recommendations as to the burner I should get and what oils I should buy ? I was also thinking of the bit where I need to manage at home for as long as I can (during early labour where they will turn you away if you haven't dilated enough) so do you have any recommendations for that ? I was considering burning a massive load of monster munch but think I may have missed the point of all this woo lark . I am going to pop to see my reflexologist next week but any tips from you would be grand. Ta luv.

As for me, well I have given-up work now till next October. I have been longing for this day for bloody ages. It feels so damn WEIRD ! I think you're right gin that I need to pass the bit where I feel like I'm just on annual leave. I have worked constantly since I was 21 so not having to deal with the daily grind of commuting and work and colleagues and boring old law will be amazing. I still feel like I have been let out of borstal though. Just a little. I need to turn my attention to getting the nursery ready ie stick a massive high heel firmly up DP's backside and get him to paint it this damn week, the useless nork and most importantly, sit about eating some snacks.

Hello to mrsh - where are you ?? ceara - when do you give up ? beetle motor expat dildals -am loving the FB pics of B's passport photo ! And everyone else.

I am now going to bingo with my mum. Yes, I do have the whiff of dog blanket about me and I don't care ! Eyes down.....

SHAZZZA exciting times ahead, look after yourself :)

I'll post properly later but just popping in to wave to shazz. I'm so pleased things are starting to happen. Shazlett was obviously listening to your dates and not to the sonographer :-) I hope all goes quickly and smoothly from here. Thinking of the three of you and sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

Go Shazza go, I am so excited for you. It does sound like the start of things. Rest up while you can, it is the most amazing time for all 3 of you.

Keep thanks for the tips on getting things started. I have been and bought my raspberry leaf capsules this morning. They didn't sell the tea in my local Holland & Barretts only in capsule form but I am sure it will be ok. I don't intend starting taking it for a few more days yet, although I am very impatient.

Gin I am 100% convinced it comes down to cost. I am glad you had a good last day. I found it a bit bizarre leaving knowing I wouldn't be back for months. I wonder if that is why I have felt anxious too, the lack of structure to my day and not knowing how long this will be for. I need to get into Geordie Shores or such.

Off back to hospital tomorrow to argue my case, again, with the consultant for ELCS. I think the longer this goes on the more likely it is that I will go into natural labour and that will be it. I do wonder if that, along with cost, is what the hospital are hoping for. Cynical moi????

Ooh I forgot to tell you we had sex on the Saturday too, the bday morning... Don't forgot that sweetie x

shazza wow! So exciting! Although I had pains etched for several days before Pangolina appeared it still definitely sounds like you are off to the races. Good luck!

keep v glad Kip's jaundice is sirting itself out but forcing a sleepy baby to feed is a pain. Of course soon you'll probably be doing the opposite, trying to get a baby that just wants to feed to go to sleep...

You DTD the morning Kip arrived?!!? I salute you and your DH.

nok yay for the long deserved mat leave! Everything is pretty well as I expected it although I did jinx myself by posting about Pangolina's easy going nature- she then cried and would not settle properly from4-10pm yesterday. This is supposed to be the time of most fussieness though, 4-6 weeks.

Keep I take my hat of to you. We haven't DTD for weeks months so there isn't much chance of that happening any time soon.

Good luck shazza! Can't wait to get an update on shazzlet's arrival. So exciting.

Glad your baby girl is making a good recovery keep. What an amazing birth story. You sound so loved-up. Congratulations!

You've started mat leave nokkie and gin - enjoy the feeling of it being holiday at first - why not? Hope you get the nursery sorted soon nokkie

sweetie I hope you won the battle with the consultant. Hopefully they will realise that if it is so important to you, they should support you with your plan.

Hello to all. X

Just popping on to say good luck shazz
Back to work for me tomorrow, promethazine surprisingly helping with nausea (missed it last night to check and was poorly sick today).
10 weeks here now, 12 week scan on 28th. Really anxious last week so had a private scan and all was good, beano having a good fidget and a few waves too.
Am on my phone so can't scroll too much. Waving hello to everyone!!!

Good luck shazza, thinking of you!

keep toe tickling and blowing on them are how I've tried to keep a jaundiced baby awake and feeding. Hope she's over it soon.

noks that's excellent you're on mat leave now. Get burning those calming snacks.

sweetie I am appalled they haven't okayed a section yet. What is wrong with them?! I wish I could give them what for on your behalf.

Controlled crying starts again today. We actually had a good night with only two hourly feeds and I have slept better than usual.

Anyway, I'll be checking in for ANY NEWS from Shazz... how exciting!

foody that's great news too. Hope you're feeling ok today.

Hi beetle...I think I would do the flight, am I right in thinking that it is one flight and then you stay put? There isn't a risk to mums or babies from flying, and they only ban you from flying later on in pregnancy because of mobility and rishk of labour. The only thing to watch outnfor is that at about 20 weeks the amount of blood in your body and cardiac output in your body increases massively for a few weeks which did leave me feeling light headed, dizzy etc...I had palpitations at this point and felt really unwell. Nothing to threaten you or the twins per se, but just so,ethung really common with twin oregnancies which may make you feel ill when flying. However I think the advantages of having family around for the later stages massively outweighs this...I was adamanat that I would keep on working until 32ish weeks but I have been astounded by just how difficult it is to do anything...my mum lives in Australia and I'd give anything to have her in the country to help out at the moment!

foody double figures! We'll be bellowing ANY NEWS at you in no time my lovely. how are you feeling?

onion hope the cc goes well. I remember those days very well and have a feeling that they are just around the corner for us again. Dd1 had her flu jab on friday and has been foul ever since, proper exorcist style screaming over the colour of her socks and so on. The naughty step has been kept warm this weekend but she seems better today. She is generally quite good so either it was one of those phases or it was the jab...not something I'd normally think of but she was at a party yesterdya and two other parents reported exactly the same thing after their lo's jabs. Has your dd had hers?

noksI've always had a bog standad student style candle burner but am going to buy an electric one today for the hospital. A lot of it comes down to what you like the smell of...you can easily google what the oils are used for but go into somewhere that might let you sniff them. I swear by sweet orange for a nice positive vibe, lavender in the bath for the ladybits after birth and then you can experiment with a few for relaxation. I like black pepper, ylang ylang and so on but they might not be to your taste. Plus some are very expensive so beware! Hope you are enjoying mat leave, i am loving not havng to go anywhere. I even sent poor DH off to work a bit early so he had time to stop at tescos for bread because I just know I will be too knee deep in doritos (blue variety, obvs) and crochet today to get off my own arse and get some.

gin good work on the geordie shore. The undeniable attractionbetween Gaz and Charlotte draws me in every time. Lt me know when you have finished and I'll help you to progress on to the valleys.

Oh and shazza whether you are getting bored of waiting, lurking, pushing or already in your baby bubble I am thinking of you!

beetle I too moved back to the UK at 22 weels. For me the flight was fine. But I wast too big at that point. I would say being at home is amazing. Could you go back at Xmas and stay? Also. Medical care in the UK is better if the twins come early, I'd think.

Motor I have had a really good twin pregnancy but would say it might be better to take a long flight earlier rather than later when you will be bigger & more chance of pregnancy niggles.