Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

Heh, ye, I'm eating burgers galore atm. Had not had one for on, 10 years? now I'm on two a week becuase they seem to actually appeal unlike most food which I have to force down!

Hope tomorrow at the hospital goes well.

About ante-natal, other people may be able to answer better than me but the only two useful things I needed for childbirth were to wait when the baby's head crowned and the technique of fast deep breathing - which the midwives taught me during the labour since the ante-natal had not bothered to mention it! So my own experience is that it's not that good. But maybe I missed out on a lot of useful info cuase of the language problem and so it's worth going.

Jen really want to stay in bed but have to get up for hospital anyway.

Meerka, it was lush, I have not been able to eat much meat at all as I'm still quite sick at the thought of it most the time. It was not greasy at all and so satisfying.

I attended the breast feeding class and was really surprised about how much I did get from it when I didn't think I would.
I'd like to know all the details about pain relief etc and options available if I don't have the c section. I think I'm going to ask to go for a natural birth if I can as recovery is better especially with the M/E. I have to inform the consultant on the 9th so would be handy to have gone to the class tomorrow but id feel awful if I passed this on to other pregnant ladies and 3 hours sitting in a hard wooden chair with no breaks is going to be pretty hard going at the best of times.

Oh sally you are having a rotten time of it. Hope things improve soon. Re the birth class, I think with reading and discussion with others who have been there you can get the same info.

I found one thing in particular really helpful- a technique called candle breathing. Have googled it and apparently there is some info here -a mumsnet link to boot. Imagine a semi circle of candles around you, and with one big breath in try and blow a stream of air steady enough to make each flame flicker in turn, but not go out. Did that during contractions and it was brilliant for steadying my breathing.

Can't remember how far along you are - can't be long if you're having birthing classes!

Sicknspan, that sounds good. Will look into it thanks. I'm 32 weeks but measuring a few cm more. Not long now, suddenly it all feels more real! Dh was just telling me he finds it strange in a matter of weeks he'll be a dad :-) I know what he means because although I feel this baby moving all day and had so many scans, it's still feels strange to me.

golly I had no idea you could learn so much :o breastfeeding was a bit trial and error. Moving to a country and immed falling preg was not a good idea :)

Thanks for the idea of the candle sick

sally, natural childbirth is nice but just in case the pain gets too much, are you allowed backup painkillers? pethadine, that spine puncture ... cant remember the name its too early heh

Sally, I can post you my 'breast feeding without tears'dvd if you would like? I had a difficult time breast feeding but not down to my technique, down to DS chewing rather than sucking!

chewing? owww that sounds painful!

Everyone Thanks so much for kind words. This decrepit pc is so infuriating.
Meerka I think it was very brave of you to plunge into it like that!
On bra's, everyone, they have nice-(ish!) maternity bras and nursing bras in the Bravissimo catalogue for 32D cup and above.
Totes It would be so nice to have one each.
Only1ScoopThank you! Congratulations on even attempting shopping - I remember Grumblingalong on the first thread was caught out by a Christmas pudding display, had to do a quick sneak down a side alley. Very unpleasant.
Jen About cards, the most I have done is writing joking remarks on Christmas cards to personalise them, ie a Father Christmas saying, 'Haven't been able to retire as I'm on the minimum wage' etc.
Sally That virus is foul - you ought to take it easy. I didn't learn a wonderful amount from the classes and felt Queen Charlotte's at that time pushed everyone towards epidurals, but no doubt it's all changed now.
Glad about Totes and Livingzuids scans, and Jen Not long to go now before ML!
I hope MurderofGothis isn't too sad.
Hope Everyone is coping.Apologies to anyone rudely ignored. Hugs to all.
xx

Thanks Lucinda!

DS suddenly lilac gain overnight and inconsolable this morn with temperature. Off to the docs this afternoon. Here we go again. Feeling bit fed up!

Hi Lucinda glad you're feeling better, the migrane sounded horrible.

I'm afraid our first son wasn't exactly planned ... I mean I literally got preg within 2 weeks of moving in. Only an idiot would deliberately do something like that, and the doctors made it clear here that they thought only an idiot would do it accidently too. But it was clearly meant to be because I'd been told it would be very hard to get preg (and indeed it's taken 5 1/2 years for the next preg!) -and- we were using precautions just in case -and- I was afraid there'd been a slight risk so I took the morning after pill! I was being extremely cautious and it still happened. Nothing was stopping him from coming into this world :)

Best unexpected event ever :)

Thanks for advice everybody, totes the DVD would be great!

So, I felt slightly better this morning and decided to brave the class as I was no longer sneezing and coughing. Big mistake, class was rubbish and by the time I had my anti-d jab and got back home I was feeling rough to say the least.
The whole class focused on natural labour in a birthing centre where you can only go if you are not high risk. Had to walk around the birthing centre for an hour and listen to further 2 hour talks about all the things I can't have as I'm upstairs on the high risk unit. So what a waste of my time!

Back home in bed feeling like I shouldn't have left the house :-(

oh dear sally :( sounds like really bad timing with the session :/

Ah Sally glad your cold easing put sorry you not had a great day. Those anti D jabs are vile to say the least....without having to potter around on a tour of little use it sounds. Hope you have a restful evening
Waited for sickness to subside slightly and took dd out for a walk. Taste on back of my tongue gets so strong now it literally makes me gag in itself. Nose bleeding terribly when sick and insides hurt from the wretching. Dp back Monday thank goodness.
Hope everyone is ok x

Hi all! sally sorry you are struggling and meerka hope you recovered from the walk? I thought you were very brave going out that long. And only hope your hubby comes home soon!

Can't help with regards prenatal stuff except someone recommended pregnancy yoga. The thought! If only!

I haven't moved unless it was bed to sofa today. My best friend is around 19 weeks and said she has huge burger cravings. If I could eat mcds cheeseburgers all day long I would. McDonald's is the only food that takes the nausea away for a little bit. And tap diet coke is a wonder drink but DH has rationed it I'm allowed it once a day at the weekend and emergency late at night during the week. It's expensive here and I weighed 85 kilo on Friday :( I have put on 8 kilo already and don't understand how. So hoping it slows down a bit!

Nausea has been horrible today. No sickness but just haven't been able to move much. I did help out a bit with laundry but that was because I can't find my clothes when DH does it only I have that horrid taste and the best thing I find is sipping ice cold water. My capri-sun doesn't work any more :(

Oh well it will all be worth it :) thinking ahead to six months and meeting the little one is so exciting. Going to take your advice and look at bravissimo when I get home. Fingers crossed there is one at my parents.

Hope you all have good evenings.

Oh god, I have got the cold. And I have got it bad. I am sniffling, snuffling, sneezing, coughing, bunged up, nose running, eyes streaming.... I just want to curl up and die. This has all come on today and has hit me like a truck...

crawls off to hide

Oh no Jen, that's how mine started. It hit so quick. I feel for ya xx

Hi all. Just popping on for some perspective really. I'm almost 15 weeks, and I've been signed off with hyperemesis since 6. It's not showing any sign of easing up, but mentally I'm getting better at coping with it.

I'm finding that I'm really stressed out by how much time I've had off work - I feel so guilty. I'm only a temp and my contract runs out in 6 weeks but I'm so embarrassed to think that I might not be able to go back. On top of that, in rarely able to get in with my GP, so have to see different ones (all male for some reason) and they really make me feel shit about signing me off - it's not a simple conversation, they really question me and the last time I went I was told "well come on now, after 13 weeks you should be fine. You need to get out and stop focussing on yourself" which I found really rude. I'd love to go out more but I can only manage 30 mins if that some days.

Anyway - does anyone else have the same experience feeling like this about being signed off for a long amount of time? Hope everyone is coping okay, it's bloody hard some days! X

Scheri....please try to stop the guilty feeling. You have been signed off for a reason and I appreciate what you say....when suffering from hg it can be an achievement just to get dressed ....let alone get out the house for an hour. I'm at the same stage as you. It's horrible. Is any medication helping?

Jen poor you I hope you are able to rest and feel better soon
I ventured out with dd for a nice country pub lunch and a walk. Managed roast dinner even a tiny bit of veg! Living....I'm with you on the tap diet Coke!!!! had a pint of it and felt much better.
Hope you are all as well as can be

Thanks only1scoop I can't remember what I'm on now, but it's made a tiny difference but I find the nausea almost as hard as the sickness, and nothing I've tried helps. I just sleep a lot! The GP said seeing as they can't find a reason why I have it (thyroid okay, no twins) that I will probably have it if I get preg again (this is my 1st) and that it will get worse each time I get preg which is... Not a great thought! How are you getting on, has your sickness got better at all?

Scheri....I totally understand what you mean about the nausea....I have probably had my best day yet today been able to get out and eat a proper lunch. The nausea never actually goes for myself but the actual sickness has subsided a little.
It's my 2nd prg I have a dd 3 and I had it with her. At this point though I had been in hospital twice though so have avoided that so far this time. I think I get so low at times because I had it all the way through with dd and I fear it won't go again. Not meaning to make you feel worse as for some people it can dissapear.

I really hope it starts to improve for you. This thread is wonderful lots of lovely ladies with great advice I have picked up many tips on coping.

Let us know how you go x

scheri don't feel bad and change GP surgeries as yours sound like they have no clue what they are talking about.

I have spent all weekend in bed. Haven't moved today apart from to shower. All that stays down are McDonald's cheeseburgers and Nutella sandwiches. I tried a healthy dish for lunch and it came straight back up.

I am also off sick lots on a temp contract which finishes in 3 weeks when I go on leave and then end. To be honest I can't wait to not work any more. I feel like a shit mum and I have only just started the second trimester :(

You aren't alone please don't feel bad.

only that's good news though! Sign of things ending?

Scheriouesly Welcome, I am so sorry that you have been bed bound with this dreadful thing. Don't feel guilty about work, you have to put
your and the baby's health first, and very few people manage to work in the first sixteen weeks at least with this (I take my hat off to those who do, but it must be hell). It doesn't sound like the GP's really understand the condition if they think it should have cleared by thirteen weeks, that's very unusual with this, for most people it starts improving between fourteen and twenty. You can't just pull yourself together and shake it off as those Dr's seem to be implying. The nausea is one of the worst things.
Totes Poor DS. How is he now?
Jen Oh, no, you poor thing. That isn't just a cold - it's a vicious virus, if it's the one going round here with prolonged sore throats and coughing. Do take care of yourself, and take pharacetemol to keep your temperature down says mother hen.
Sally How are you now? What a tedious business. I think they should have excused people who couldn't have a natural birth from making the visit.
Only1Scoop Oh no, that sounds so awful! The blood spurting out of mouth and nose is foul. Poor you, too.
Meerka Lol about DS insisting on reaching the world. It's rather sweet!
Five and a half years is certainly a long time. I remember it took my neighbour three years, and I admired how she didn't despair.
Hugs to all. Oh dear, Everyone seems to be in a bad way.
xx

to offer some hope - this is my third hg pg. with ds 1 i had terrible treatment and was ill the whole way through. ds2 got admitted and actually given some good drugs that worked and i stayed on them all the way through but was able to live a normalish life after 20 weeks or so. this time hg, drugs early but sickness and nausea has abated quite a bit. i am 15 weeks. and terrified something is wrong with baby rather than enjoying it doh!

Livingzuid Poor you too, I lost my message for you. Glad you'll have a look at Bravissimo. I thought the 'Sophie' bra nice, but I don't know if they're still doing that one.
xx