Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

Ugh, so sorry for all of you with headaches too As if there wasn't enough to deal with with the hg!! Hope you're feeling better.

Just spoke to boss and asked if I can try working from home - my commute is at least an hour and I just don't know if I can cope with it. The furthest I've been is 15 mins, and that only twice in the last week and a half.

They want me to do a work plan today and they will discuss it with HR and decide if I can do it. It needs to have a load of info about what projects I'm currently working on, when I need to be out of the office on visits and so on. I am getting so stressed about this - I'm really not in a fit state to think clearly about what's going in at work, I've barely been in for three weeks, and unless I go through all my emails and read or action them now I honestly can't remember everything I've got to do - even if I do that I still won't remember everything because all my notes are in the office. Plus I'm technically signed off at the moment anyway!

But if I don't do it I will look really unwilling and like I'm being an uncooperative pain in the arse. They are generally really nice people but the workload of our department is massive so I can see where they're coming from. I've also just (last week!) come off antidepressants and I don't know how far that is affecting my ability to cope. I just don't know what to do

Aw super that's an awful strain for you. I think whilst you are on sick leave you are on sick leave and should not be doing any work until you are declared fit to return. I think? Can you check what your rights are here in that regard? I am sure you should not be working whilst sick. HR are well experienced in these sorts of things so I would not worry. Maybe towards the end of your leave you can look at that if the Dr and you think you are up to returning to work but right now I'd turn the emails off and put your feet up on the sofa.

Our health is more important than a job! As are those babies we are busy incubating :)

meerka honestly I wish I could go the whole 9 months with no one seeing me which is a bit irrational but after the way I was treated before at 7 weeks it put my paranoia on full alert. There really are so many ignorant people in the medical profession you wonder what they spent all those years at university doing.

Doh as in the baby incubating is more important than a job! Hence why I'm going on the dole in jan

Super, it sounds like your work is tough - I think if you are sick, you are sick and should be left alone. That is just my opinion.

I was in town today finishing off my christmas shopping (got shampoo for my sis in law on bro's advice and it was £25! I nearly died!)

Also picked up a sterilising/bottle set (tommee tippee) and a travel cot to stay at my mum's house .... gradually getting more organised.

Next hospital appt isn't for a few weeks yet, so I shall just carry on as normal. 4 more weeks of work, it is exhausting and I have to be really on top of the washing as there is only a small selection of clothes smart enough for work that fit well over the bump.... lol

superlambanaa I so agree with livingzuid and Jen that if you are off sick, you shouldn't be expected to work - I am sure if the GP is signing you off he will agree.
Jen You have had Hyperemesis, worked full time, AND done all the Christmas shopping? , whispers 'I haven't done all my Christmas shopping yet, even...'
xx

hi all. still fretting away here with much reduced nausea. with my ds's it never went although was manageable with ds 2 on ondansetron. at 14 weeks there is no way of checking things are ok until 16 week check so im just worrying a lot. thinking of all you ladies still suffering badly. this pregnancy lark is a marathon

Lucinda, I have a fairly small group of people to buy for and I am one of those annoyingly organised people that gets stuff done early. If it helps, I bought christmas cards this year instead of handmaking them like I normally do - I just couldn't face it this year!

Yey Jen, I got the same sterilising set :-) going to try and breast feed but just incase I bought bottles etc. it'll come in handy for expressing if all goes well.

I'm so pleased dh is home. He bought me lots of gifts from hong kong and is looking after me. I'm not eating much still as the nausea is dreadful. Pain from SPD is pure hell and the baby moving is really painful. Sometimes so much I get a real shock and yelp out loud.

Pick up my pram from boots tomorrow. Got an amazing deal. 15% off, 10 points per pound for being in the parenting club and and extra 12 points per pound this weekend. So overall I got £40 worth of advantage card points and a really good price on my pram!!! It was cheaper than eBay.

Starting to wash all my new baby clothes next week and packing hospital bag so hoping for a bit more energy. I'm so tired and out of breath all the time now. Don't know how much more of this I can take.

Supposed to be at a breast feeding class first thing in the morning so going to have to try and sleep.

Hugs to you all xxx

Feeling really low this morning. I lay in bed after the alarm went off, mentally debating phoning in sick, but I couldn't think of what to say, probably because I am feeling depressed. So I am up and dressed and ready to head out the door in about 5 minutes but feeling really miserable about it.

I won't be home until after 6. :(

Oh I hope you both have better days than expected.

eggy can you call your midwife or gp for some reassurance? You still sound as if you are a bit nauseous. I'm not going to say try not to worry as I am fretting just as much but we must both of us try to think about happy things :) so I am going to have my nails done later as a distraction.

Hugs to Everyone feeling sick and depressed. Poor you, Jen, I will be so happy when you don't have to go out to work and get back so late - oh yes,and you even might be yourself, lol!. Is that Extra Curricular Activities that mean you aren't back until six?
Eggy and Livingzuid Hugs, it is hard not to be very anxious, though you know realistically the chances are so much on your side. It's so strange you are so bound up and close to this baby and can't see it except on these scans.
xx

Hello ....Eggy hope you feeling more reassured....Sally glad He is home to look after you (and with gifts....fantastic)....my Oh is home tmrw....what a relief. Have been so grouchy with my dd she is only 3....feel dreadful. Just so sick of feeling like this 24/7. I think it's here to stay like last time.

Havn't even thought about Christmas....so much to try and get done.

Hope everyone as well as can be.

jen I'm exactly the same. Currently hiding in the loo at work! Trying so hard to eat little bits but nothing is good. The second tablet didn't make much difference. Feel so crap. I had a truly hideous nightmare last night as well which has lingered :(

Lucinda thank you :) it helps to keep hearing these things. I'm thinking about what I am going to try and do at the weekend. Friday has skipped in my brain. Got some message in dutch from the hospital and I swear to god if they have moved my appointment I will not be responsible for my actions. Waiting for DH to confirm all the info.

But looking forward to buying a Christmas tree on Sunday :)

livingzuid and Jen and I hope not Suerlambanana as I hope she's still off - you poor things, it must be awful trying to work.
&Only1Scoop* So glad your OH is due back. Poor three year old, but they are very resiient, thankfully.
xx

Hello all. Sorry to hear some of us are still suffering- hope that there are others who feel a bit better? I think Bezza said on another thread that she was going back to work- RaRa how are you doing?

I am 13+2 today. I definitely feel better than a few weeks ago - I can actually smile and sometimes can laugh!- but have yet to stop puking. I'm not sick often any more but the effort involved in preventing me chucking is huge! Really need to concentrate on it :( At least it is much reduced. Although I attempted some housework this morning and this was a reeeeeeally bad idea. I tidied the playroom in a bid to regain control and create space for Christmas presents. All the movement and especially the bending down have set off the vomiting. It seems like if I "allow" myself to be sick once, it triggers more later.

Similar to brushing teeth- as it is a guarantee to make me sick, if I do it in the morning I end up puking all day. So I try and delay it. My gums are in a shocking state, I am really quite worried about my oral hygiene. Gums bleed copiously when I do manage too brush my pegs properly.

Sick Note runs out this weekend. I am worried about going back to work as although I'm only sick a few times a week now, I still feel so rotten and really need to remain in one place all day to stop making sickness worse.

Sorry to just come on here with a list of worries an concerns! Hope you are having better days than before. X

Sick don't do it!! Get another sick note. Take it from me... Thought I was feeling better and decided I'd try work today to show willing. I lasted two and a half hours then came home and crawled into bed, feeling worse than I have done in a while. Seriously it's not worth it!!

On the plus side I'm no longer worried that people at work think I'm exaggerating because they've seen how green I look now...!

hi all. sorry to hear of those struggling to get to/ do work. nothing worse than trying to concentrate with severe nausea.

am doing ok still on 2 ondansatron, but having a very nauseous day today. did asda shop then fell asleep on the sofa. still feel dozy. got the foul taste in my mouth. everything is so relentless! but on the other hand the weeks do tick away faster in the run up to Christmas. cant believe it's December on sunday.

22 weeks tomorrow.

Thank super, I just worry that because I'm not actually often sick any more! my work will think I'm capable of putting in a days work- and I really think that's unlikely.

Sorry you've had a rubbish day too- Hope you are tucked up nice and warm in your nest now and that it's made you feel better! One of the odd things I find about this bloody HG is that if I get cold, it's worse- much better to have hot water bottle/ be next to roaring fire/ radiators on full pelt with 5 layers of thermals! V strange. Healing vibes to you x

chaffinch that taste is just vile isn't it. Can I just also say that every time I see your user name it makes me smile- no idea of the background to it but the idea just makes me giggle inside! Thanks :)

sicknspan

not hg related but a pg misery - agonising sciatic killer butt pain, and hip pain and now flashes of pain across the bones of my undercarriage.
but worst of all is my bloody right knee! WTF! if I turn over in bed from side to side my right knee seems to fill up with cold water from the inside and then feels like someone is joggling a knitting needle in it behind the patella. Agonising. it slowly fades away, but a few nights it's brought tears to my eyes. no real knee pain in the day. what the heck!!

re: chaffinches are the best coloured garden birds, and then my Halloween name just stuck as I was feeling so 'doomed' with HG

I have this vision of a little chaffinch, little pink chest, black eyes and jaunty tail, all puffed up like she was going to take on an angry elephant and win ...

that's nide image meerka

it's a bit of an Indiana jones link too, Im a prolific namechanger, been on MN over 7 yrs, and sometimes have Indiana names as Harrison ford avec whip was the hottest fittie on the silver screen

NICE! not nide...

so i rang midwife - and bloody hell if she didnt come out to my house within an hour or so and listen in to baby on my couch! stayed for a cuppa and a chat about how i was doing. i am stunned.

i hope everyone is doing ok. and i cant see who was worrying about taking more tine off work but really dont go in if you cant manage it. it will knock back any small improvements you might have made. hg is an illness, a serious one that should be taken seriously by employers. its not your fault either - no one would want this illness everyone would rather be living life as normal!